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Anonymous #1
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I threatened to spank
#8070982 - 02/26/08 12:28 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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my 4 year old today.. He got a little too close to the street out of the corner of my eye... Before i scolded him, I made up my mind that I was going to scare him into thinking he was going to get a spanking... I picked up a stick and asked him if he had ever gotten a spanking and broke the stick over my thigh violently... (he's never been spanked, spatted, or slapped) Then I made him sit in timeout... He cried a bit, .. Hours later, he's asleep in bed and I'm crying because I feel horrible...
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Anonymous #2
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I think you could have gone about that a little better but I guess the lesson is learned and hopefully mostly on your part because you feel horrible about your actions.
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Anonymous #3
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violence never solved anything i h8 my dad cuz he spanked me dont ever do it
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Anonymous #4
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you should feel bad because you tried to scare your kid into doing (or not doing) something instead of trying to communicate with them, and get them to take part in understanding why you shouldnt go near the road.
lotta people have fucked up idiosyncrasies because "it made mama cry/angry".
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Anonymous #5
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If it was a mistake then let your kid know that. Explain to him what you were trying to do, what your thought process was, and why your chosen threat was wrong.
Don't let it go without addressing it, leaving your kid to form confusing, fearful, or untrusting thoughts about you and the way life is.
Seriously, get it all out in the open with him, even if it isn't a huge deal. Don't let these sort of things shape the person your kid is, and give it a chance to form guilt in your mind that's going to stick with you. It's pretty easy to fix something like this, take the opportunity.
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Anonymous #6
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At least you didn't hit him, right?
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Anonymous #7
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I'm crying because I feel horrible...
You are horrible.
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I picked up a stick and asked him if he had ever gotten a spanking and broke the stick over my thigh violently...
Intimidating a 4yo with your superior strength is just plain wrong. How very aggressive of you.
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Anonymous #7
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What if a 10ft giant broke a two-by-four over his leg and roared that you would get spanked?
Well it would get me off to be honest, but I think you'd cry a bit too.
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Anonymous #6
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Anonymous said: What if a 10ft giant broke a two-by-four over his leg and roared that you would get spanked?
Well it would get me off to be honest, but I think you'd cry a bit too.
I think I'd be a little turned on.
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Anonymous #8
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i think you should have just smacked him and skipped the getting angry and acting mean part. physical pain can be extremely useful for learning, and very quickly. I don't see anything wrong with it. There may be more lasting damage associated with acting like an asshole to your kids, than there would have been if you would have just kicked their ass every once in a while.
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Anonymous #1
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You are all wrong.
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Anonymous #1
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Like I said, I've never spanked him, but he was 2 inches from being in the street, and I made it aware that it was not acceptable...
After he was in timeout, I explained why I got upset and it was because I was scared.
This morning, he got in my bed and told me he had a dream that bambi got ran over in front of our house...
BTW, I came here to externalize it, not analyze it. I don't need anyone telling me that what their minds conjure up about my character.
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Anonymous #9
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I was never spanked. I've heard too many bad cases of my friends at least of their parents. One of my friends was beaten with a crowbar for not knocking on his dads door. Another friend just gets socked in the head HARD by his dad for not paying attention. I was never hit or anything but I do know violence is not the answer. He's 4 years old you need you need to talk to him not scare him half to death. I dunno, if it was me I'd probably scream at him because if it was my kid and he came close to death I dunno. I'd be pissed at myself but make sure he knows not to next time.
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Anonymous #9
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Intimidating a 4yo with your superior strength is just plain wrong. How very aggressive of you.
lol
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Anonymous #1
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Some of you that say you would never hit a kid would prolly beat the shit of your own if the same situation happened to you that this guy is talking about. You ass holes are treating him like he beat his kid, he just put a little fear in him to associate fear with being fearful of playing in the street..
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Anonymous #10
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My parents spanked me, but they felt bad about it and went so easy on me I didn't really care.
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Anonymous #11
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Anonymous said: I was never spanked. I've heard too many bad cases of my friends at least of their parents. One of my friends was beaten with a crowbar for not knocking on his dads door. Another friend just gets socked in the head HARD by his dad for not paying attention. I was never hit or anything but I do know violence is not the answer. He's 4 years old you need you need to talk to him not scare him half to death. I dunno, if it was me I'd probably scream at him because if it was my kid and he came close to death I dunno. I'd be pissed at myself but make sure he knows not to next time.
Spanking a child is quite a bit different from beating a child. It always gets me that when people talk about a spanking (something that does not leave any bruises or marks, just a tap) you get people telling stories like this. Those are extremes.
I bet the kid's already over it and for the most part forgotten it while the parent is beating themselves up over it. Although it's possible the stick part was a little extreme. Sometimes parents overreact when their kids scare them.
Give yourself a stern talking to and let it go.
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Anonymous #12
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your kid will be gay if you touch his ass too much
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Anonymous #9
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Anonymous said: your kid will be gay if you touch his ass too much
faggot
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Anonymous #13
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When I first read this, I thought it was going to be some guy about his girlfriend. Or vice versa.
That would have been hot.
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Anonymous #14
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It's ok I had horrible abusive parents and I turned out ok.
Fungi_x
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Anonymous #15
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Anonymous #16
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Hey, at least you aren't like my father when I was a kid. He'd spank me, then he'd feel really bad about it and he'd go buy me a fucking candy bar. A FUCKING CANDY BAR!!
Needless to say I had some fucked up dental problems, and general distrust for my dad.
It's a beautiful thing that you don't hit your kid as so many parents do.
On the other hand, that probably wasn't a good way to go about it (breaking the stick over your thigh). As one of the posters said, communicating to him thoroughly about is important.
Good luck, I wish the best for you and your son!
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Anonymous #7
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I have a spanking fetish, I like being spanked erotically.
The messed up thing about it is that I know it was in part brought on by getting spanked when I was a child, a shroom trip pointed that one out to me.
So here's the weirdest reason to not spank your child: she may like it and develop strange tastes later in life.
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Anonymous #11
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You too! God I love being spanked! Smack my ass and my pussy clenches tight!
But I was almost never spanked as a child. Maybe two or three times max.
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Anonymous #17
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Anonymous said: i think you should have just smacked him and skipped the getting angry and acting mean part. physical pain can be extremely useful for learning, and very quickly. I don't see anything wrong with it. There may be more lasting damage associated with acting like an asshole to your kids, than there would have been if you would have just kicked their ass every once in a while.
So true.
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Anonymous #18
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: i think you should have just smacked him and skipped the getting angry and acting mean part. physical pain can be extremely useful for learning, and very quickly. I don't see anything wrong with it. There may be more lasting damage associated with acting like an asshole to your kids, than there would have been if you would have just kicked their ass every once in a while.
So true.
when i grew up i ran with 4 other cousins and we were beat with belts and wooden sticks in front of everyone else.. bare assed. it was double humiliation. after a few good ass kickings with that stick... just the sight of it could stop rowdiness. lesson learned
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Anonymous #19
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Hey, how many of you anti-spankers actually have kids?
I was spanked and yelled at as a child and didn't turn out all fucked up. I discipline my son with measured physical force if necessary.
I'd like to see you idiots 'reason' and communicate the dangers of the street with a four year old.
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Anonymous #15
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As a child I got the switch.Bare butt, and told to keep my legs held up.Not very easy do as your getting hit.
Damn, my father a asshole.
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said: Hey, how many of you anti-spankers actually have kids?
I was spanked and yelled at as a child and didn't turn out all fucked up. I discipline my son with measured physical force if necessary.
I'd like to see you idiots 'reason' and communicate the dangers of the street with a four year old.
Word....
A kid with his feelings hurt for a few minutes... or A dead kid in the street.....
You do the math.
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Anonymous #20
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My mother spanked me when I was a teenager, just because she was mad and wanted to humiliate me.
I'm still pissed.
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Anonymous #19
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I bet you have black fingernail polish and shop at hot topic because no one understands you, huh?
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Anonymous #1
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My mother used to beat me... She actually knocked me out once by hitting me in the head with a flash light.... I've gotten 'spankings' with wiffle ball bat, brooms, belts, shoes, extension cords, fly swawtters, switches, fishing poles, etc.. Whatever was near.. She hardly hit me with her hand because she didnt want to hurt herself... Once, at breakfast, she was pouring me some orange juice, and only gave me like, an 8th of a glass, and I said "Can I have more than that?" and she picked my glass up and chunked my orange juice in my face and said "All you ever worry about is what YOU want!"
If you ask her today, she will tell you I was a stubborn child, and was very mean to her, so I got every spanking I ever deserved...
The fact of the matter is that she was just too stupid to understand me. She didnt deserve to have me as a child. I think her father used to molest her and her sisters. She took all her issues out on me... And when I was old enough to move out of her house, I did, and never looked back... I'm okay today, but I have spent thousands in therapy over the years...
People. Please dont be abusive to your children.
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Anonymous #11
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I'm sorry these things happened to you.
But that is on such a larger scale than what this is.
I think at 4 a talk would work though. They are very capable of understanding danger. My experience is that loss of privileges (fav toys, tv off) or "time-outs" work pretty well. But in the heat of the moment, when you are scared for their safety, you work with what you have. Since this person obviously is not physically abusive, the shock to the kid of being spanked would help remind them how important it is to be careful around traffic.
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Anonymous #19
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There is a huge line between abuse and measured physical discipline. Being a responsible, loving parent means not crossing that line.
sorry if you guys were abused, but i'll spank my child if necessary, in conjunction with time-outs and item refusals.
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Anonymous #21
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breaking the stick like that was a little over the top but I am not a "spanking is never OK" person either. I got spanked a number of times and I deserved it! I think when it comes to safety issues like 4yr olds an streets it is more important that they clearly understand that there is an absolute rule that is never to be broken. That is out of fear for the safety of your child not anger.
As for all the "I hate my daddy cause he spanked me" , I don't know your situation but I'm tempted to say "buck up cry baby" One the other hand if he was a fucker who took his anger out on you then sorry cause that is abuse.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse so don't confuse them.
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Anonymous #22
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i know someone else here who used to get whipped with these
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Anonymous #22
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please sir can i have some more MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORRRRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
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Anonymous #23
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Anonymous said: your kid will be gay if you touch his ass too much
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Anonymous #23
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Anonymous said: breaking the stick like that was a little over the top but I am not a "spanking is never OK" person either. I got spanked a number of times and I deserved it! I think when it comes to safety issues like 4yr olds an streets it is more important that they clearly understand that there is an absolute rule that is never to be broken. That is out of fear for the safety of your child not anger.
As for all the "I hate my daddy cause he spanked me" , I don't know your situation but I'm tempted to say "buck up cry baby" One the other hand if he was a fucker who took his anger out on you then sorry cause that is abuse.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse so don't confuse them.
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Anonymous #24
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this thread is filled with pussies
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said: breaking the stick like that was a little over the top but I am not a "spanking is never OK" person either. I got spanked a number of times and I deserved it! I think when it comes to safety issues like 4yr olds an streets it is more important that they clearly understand that there is an absolute rule that is never to be broken. That is out of fear for the safety of your child not anger.
As for all the "I hate my daddy cause he spanked me" , I don't know your situation but I'm tempted to say "buck up cry baby" One the other hand if he was a fucker who took his anger out on you then sorry cause that is abuse.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse so don't confuse them.
"I got spanked and I deserved it" Is a delusional fallacy. You clearly need therapy. And stop spanking your kid you monster.
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Anonymous #19
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"I got spanked and I deserved it" Is a delusional fallacy. You clearly need therapy. And stop spanking your kid you monster.

Hope your therapist spanks you for being such a victim.
Pussy.
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Anonymous #22
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i gladly would have belt all posters in here if i had have had access to you
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Anonymous #25
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: breaking the stick like that was a little over the top but I am not a "spanking is never OK" person either. I got spanked a number of times and I deserved it! I think when it comes to safety issues like 4yr olds an streets it is more important that they clearly understand that there is an absolute rule that is never to be broken. That is out of fear for the safety of your child not anger.
As for all the "I hate my daddy cause he spanked me" , I don't know your situation but I'm tempted to say "buck up cry baby" One the other hand if he was a fucker who took his anger out on you then sorry cause that is abuse.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse so don't confuse them.
QFT
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said:
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"I got spanked and I deserved it" Is a delusional fallacy. You clearly need therapy. And stop spanking your kid you monster.

Hope your therapist spanks you for being such a victim.
Pussy.
Does your therapist spank you for getting fucked in your doody hole by your step father?
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Anonymous #1
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yay! another one.
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Anonymous #26
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Beating your kid is fine, just don't fake using a weapon, they will pick up on that kind of weak behavior. If your kid needs to be hit, do it with your hand, honestly and without anger.
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Anonymous #27
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Anonymous #26 said: Beating your kid is fine, just don't fake using a weapon, they will pick up on that kind of weak behavior. If your kid needs to be hit, do it with your hand, honestly and without anger.
True for sure. I got a good beating a few times as a kid. You know which ones I remember? The ones that were out of anger, they were few and far between.. and I remember them to this day clearly.
I don't like to hear all the "negative enforcement doesn't work" bullshit, because it has worked fine for a hundred years at least, why would it stop working now? For those who say "if you think it was right for you to be hit, then you need help". I ask you to consider this: You kill a person while you were driving drunkenly. Then happened to be seen in flagrante delicto. You server 20 years jail time and when you are done you agree that you deserved it. Does that mean you need therapy, or does it mean that you fucking learned something from the jail time? So why would it be different with spanking?
Edited by Anonymous (08/12/09 10:28 PM)
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