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Anonymous #1
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I threatened to spank
#8070982 - 02/26/08 12:28 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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my 4 year old today.. He got a little too close to the street out of the corner of my eye... Before i scolded him, I made up my mind that I was going to scare him into thinking he was going to get a spanking... I picked up a stick and asked him if he had ever gotten a spanking and broke the stick over my thigh violently... (he's never been spanked, spatted, or slapped) Then I made him sit in timeout... He cried a bit, .. Hours later, he's asleep in bed and I'm crying because I feel horrible...
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Anonymous #2
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I think you could have gone about that a little better but I guess the lesson is learned and hopefully mostly on your part because you feel horrible about your actions.
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Anonymous #3
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violence never solved anything i h8 my dad cuz he spanked me dont ever do it
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Anonymous #4
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you should feel bad because you tried to scare your kid into doing (or not doing) something instead of trying to communicate with them, and get them to take part in understanding why you shouldnt go near the road.
lotta people have fucked up idiosyncrasies because "it made mama cry/angry".
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Anonymous #5
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If it was a mistake then let your kid know that. Explain to him what you were trying to do, what your thought process was, and why your chosen threat was wrong.
Don't let it go without addressing it, leaving your kid to form confusing, fearful, or untrusting thoughts about you and the way life is.
Seriously, get it all out in the open with him, even if it isn't a huge deal. Don't let these sort of things shape the person your kid is, and give it a chance to form guilt in your mind that's going to stick with you. It's pretty easy to fix something like this, take the opportunity.
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Anonymous #6
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At least you didn't hit him, right?
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Anonymous #7
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I'm crying because I feel horrible...
You are horrible.
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I picked up a stick and asked him if he had ever gotten a spanking and broke the stick over my thigh violently...
Intimidating a 4yo with your superior strength is just plain wrong. How very aggressive of you.
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Anonymous #7
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What if a 10ft giant broke a two-by-four over his leg and roared that you would get spanked?
Well it would get me off to be honest, but I think you'd cry a bit too.
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Anonymous #6
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Anonymous said: What if a 10ft giant broke a two-by-four over his leg and roared that you would get spanked?
Well it would get me off to be honest, but I think you'd cry a bit too.
I think I'd be a little turned on.
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Anonymous #8
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i think you should have just smacked him and skipped the getting angry and acting mean part. physical pain can be extremely useful for learning, and very quickly. I don't see anything wrong with it. There may be more lasting damage associated with acting like an asshole to your kids, than there would have been if you would have just kicked their ass every once in a while.
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Anonymous #1
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You are all wrong.
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Anonymous #1
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Like I said, I've never spanked him, but he was 2 inches from being in the street, and I made it aware that it was not acceptable...
After he was in timeout, I explained why I got upset and it was because I was scared.
This morning, he got in my bed and told me he had a dream that bambi got ran over in front of our house...
BTW, I came here to externalize it, not analyze it. I don't need anyone telling me that what their minds conjure up about my character.
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Anonymous #9
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I was never spanked. I've heard too many bad cases of my friends at least of their parents. One of my friends was beaten with a crowbar for not knocking on his dads door. Another friend just gets socked in the head HARD by his dad for not paying attention. I was never hit or anything but I do know violence is not the answer. He's 4 years old you need you need to talk to him not scare him half to death. I dunno, if it was me I'd probably scream at him because if it was my kid and he came close to death I dunno. I'd be pissed at myself but make sure he knows not to next time.
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Anonymous #9
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Intimidating a 4yo with your superior strength is just plain wrong. How very aggressive of you.
lol
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Anonymous #1
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Some of you that say you would never hit a kid would prolly beat the shit of your own if the same situation happened to you that this guy is talking about. You ass holes are treating him like he beat his kid, he just put a little fear in him to associate fear with being fearful of playing in the street..
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Anonymous #10
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My parents spanked me, but they felt bad about it and went so easy on me I didn't really care.
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Anonymous #11
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Anonymous said: I was never spanked. I've heard too many bad cases of my friends at least of their parents. One of my friends was beaten with a crowbar for not knocking on his dads door. Another friend just gets socked in the head HARD by his dad for not paying attention. I was never hit or anything but I do know violence is not the answer. He's 4 years old you need you need to talk to him not scare him half to death. I dunno, if it was me I'd probably scream at him because if it was my kid and he came close to death I dunno. I'd be pissed at myself but make sure he knows not to next time.
Spanking a child is quite a bit different from beating a child. It always gets me that when people talk about a spanking (something that does not leave any bruises or marks, just a tap) you get people telling stories like this. Those are extremes.
I bet the kid's already over it and for the most part forgotten it while the parent is beating themselves up over it. Although it's possible the stick part was a little extreme. Sometimes parents overreact when their kids scare them.
Give yourself a stern talking to and let it go.
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Anonymous #12
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your kid will be gay if you touch his ass too much
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Anonymous #9
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Anonymous said: your kid will be gay if you touch his ass too much
faggot
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Anonymous #13
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When I first read this, I thought it was going to be some guy about his girlfriend. Or vice versa.
That would have been hot.
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