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JonnyOneNut
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no more girl = depressed and down
#8035468 - 02/17/08 09:08 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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My girl and I called it quits last week b/c of her dad. I'm 26 and she's 19. Normally I would be totally against dating a 19 year old, but we just get along so damn well and have only great times together. I feel she acts older than 19 and I definitely don't feel or act 26, I'm very young, energetic and full of life. Also, I introduced her to shrooms and she absolutely loved them which gave us a unique connection I feel.
Her father is a cop in our city and he's very strict and close-minded. He pretty much requires her to report every move that she makes and tells her what she can and cannot do. I understand she lives under his house, but I feel it's quite selfish to not even let your kids live their own lives. I wanted to talk to him to give myself a chance, but she says there's absolutely no budging with him.
So, we called it quits because we couldn't have a real relationship by living in secret and that we were only teasing ourselves. So, now I'm depressed because I had to give something up that made me extremely happy for no good reason. Your thoughts are welcomed..
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035518 - 02/17/08 09:19 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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sounds like her cop dad is an asshole.... go figure
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035528 - 02/17/08 09:22 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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prob for the best bro.. i mean
there's plenty of fish in the sea.. know what i'm sayin?
i give you props for respectin her pops like that you know.. you're a man about it ya know..
good luck out there bro!
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: im_on_a_boat]
#8035540 - 02/17/08 09:25 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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19 and 26
thats not bad at all
i mean think about it, when your 40 she will be 33...its just the time frame you look at it
but anyways, prolly for the better, nobody likes cops, get that shit out of your life quick, no way around it
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JonnyOneNut
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: Kombat Frank]
#8035570 - 02/17/08 09:30 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I hear what u guys are saying about it may be for the best, but I feel like this was a special one that won't come around too often..
She believes in things happen for a reason and things will just work out, whereas I believe that you've got to fight for the things you want and make things happen.
She just makes me so damn happy, I don't want to let her go.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035590 - 02/17/08 09:34 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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that's a big difference at this age brah..
think about this..
if you wanna look at it like if you're 40 she'll be 33..
when you were 18, she was 11..
i feel ya jonny but you gotta do what you gotta do. respect her dad enough to do what he says.. if you wanna man up that's what you gotta do. anything else would be a bitch move.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035606 - 02/17/08 09:36 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Trust me- if she wasn't strong enough to live independently of her father's wishes then she wasn't worth your time. Keep in mind that this has nothing to do with her father. He is just who he is, and you cannot expect him to change. The fact that she doesn't want you to talk to her pops just means she is afraid of getting into trouble; don't read it any other way. You mention that she seems mature, but her behavior indicates the exact opposite...
Best of luck. Clear your head and I'm sure you'll realize that you're lucky to be free of such a ridiculous mess. You'll meet someone with a head on their shoulders and then everything will be ok.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: WordlessNature]
#8035623 - 02/17/08 09:41 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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WordlessNature said: Trust me- if she wasn't strong enough to live independently of her father's wishes then she wasn't worth your time. Keep in mind that this has nothing to do with her father. He is just who he is, and you cannot expect him to change. The fact that she doesn't want you to talk to her pops just means she is afraid of getting into trouble; don't read it any other way. You mention that she seems mature, but her behavior indicates the exact opposite...
Best of luck. Clear your head and I'm sure you'll realize that you're lucky to be free of such a ridiculous mess. You'll meet someone with a head on their shoulders and then everything will be ok.
you may be right, but obviously I don't see it this way right now. thanks for the support shroomery
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035639 - 02/17/08 09:45 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I always like to be in control and feel that I'm in control. I'm starting to get the feeling that this is out of my control and the sooner I realize this the sooner I can move on.
Agree?
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: JonnyOneNut]
#8035681 - 02/17/08 09:53 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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you're in control but you're going to make the right decision by letting her go..
i'd at least talk to the dad and tell him that you respect him and his wishes and you will leave her alone..
but i agree with everything wordlessnature said.. just read his post over.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: im_on_a_boat]
#8036241 - 02/18/08 12:28 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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It's SO cliche to quote Bob Marley on this one. I say that the time you have to contemplate the unhappiness that being alone brings could be spent improving the things that could lead to insecurity. NO, not a penis enlargement tool, but conversation and interpretation of what's going on in your life! These moments in disparity can be the motivator to do what you want in your life! Initially when you have a strong emotional connection to ANYTHING, nature made a built in process that's released on instance. You may cry, laugh it off, what ever you do to coup with things, that's GOOD FOR YOU! So many people reject this and lash out by going back in time (mentally) and get wasted.(i.e. literally and by occupying their time)
All in all, we sometimes need to use the time of heart ache to realize why we want the love the experience the world offers in the first place.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: nmajon]
#8037364 - 02/18/08 10:47 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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you'll feel better with some cheap sluts!
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: rodfarva]
#8042907 - 02/19/08 01:44 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah, or you could NOT listen to that guy and respect your self.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: nmajon]
#8046142 - 02/20/08 05:11 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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cheap sluts and self respect are 2 differnt issues.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: rodfarva]
#8050225 - 02/21/08 12:18 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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how 'bout you think that over. when you break up with someone your heart is broken because of "love", and if you didn't care about that person then why would he even be venting about this problem?
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: nmajon]
#8052010 - 02/21/08 01:58 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thats just how i deal with heart break, as a man i can have tons of meaningless sex and not get mind fucked. Most of the time it helps me clear my head and boost my self confidance. I really love sticking it to some swamp donkies when im depressed. I come back feeling like i know whats right for me, and im not so concerned with the bitch that couldnt keep me happy (love or not.)
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: rodfarva]
#8055053 - 02/22/08 01:53 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah, also as a man I CAN have a meaningful relationship with someone who I ACTUALLY care about. Do you and your friends like to drink at the bar and grunt at girls? Guys who stick it and run, ruin it for the rest of us!
Do you think of the repercussions in your life, AT ALL? But I guess if you can have a "fuck bunch of meaningful experiences" attitude this long in life and not be dead, you're doing A-OKAY BUDDY!!! The same of your loved ones as unto you.
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: nmajon]
#8055754 - 02/22/08 10:07 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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nmajon said: Yeah, also as a man I CAN have a meaningful relationship with someone who I ACTUALLY care about. Do you and your friends like to drink at the bar and grunt at girls? Guys who stick it and run, ruin it for the rest of us!
Do you think of the repercussions in your life, AT ALL? But I guess if you can have a "fuck bunch of meaningful experiences" attitude this long in life and not be dead, you're doing A-OKAY BUDDY!!! The same of your loved ones as unto you.
we started with a meaningfull relationship in my first comment, here's the thing, women make men like me act this way when they are so swept by it. I can pick up a girl and treat her like shit the whole time and she loves it and is always calling me. The girl you send flowers to and drop off by 10 pm on the first 5 dates is fucking someone else, or telling her friends she just doesnt "feel a connection." Dont hate the player
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Re: no more girl = depressed and down [Re: rodfarva]
#8055952 - 02/22/08 10:56 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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You know what rodfarva, True that! Women can be very fickle, especiallay if they're damaged by their previous perceptions. But then again, they're the other half to the same beast!
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