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    #8012423 - 02/12/08 08:54 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

So my mom just died a couple days ago from lung cancer, but I am alright with it. It has been a long time coming, and we are all glad she is done suffering.

I recently moved into her house with my sister, in St Pete, FL. I got a job working at a resturant to try and meet some new people after breaking up with my girlfriend of 4 years.

It was pretty quick, but I have a new girlfriend...I wasnt looking for a relationship at all, and I knew it would be easy to get sucked into one...but everything is just so perfect. We both work at this resturant together, we work nights, and weekends...basically when normal people are NOT working.

Well, I just got a call from my ex employer that I walked out on without notice, and he offered me a job (its been a year) saying they were looking for someone and my name was at the top of everyones list. I will be making between $17 and $20 an hour compared to my $3.72 an hour im making at the resturant now lol.

The problem its an hours and a half drive away, sometimes two hours+ in the evenings. Some people commute this far everyday when you have to work in the city but live in the burbs, or if your job moves alot but you have families...so its not someting that can't be done.

I just have a year long lease, and my girlfriend is here, and our schedules are going to be completely opposite now. I might be able to get her to change hers, and I will be making in a day what she makes in a week...

I just don't know. They need someone NOW, and its a killer opportunity...but it just seems like it will be really stressful between the driving and pressure it puts on my relationship and I'm not sure I'm ready for that quite yet.

Sorry for the rant. I will talk to girlfriend today and see what she thinks, although she will tell me to take it because she is down for anything -- I worry she doesn't understand the implications


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Re: Hmm [Re: tak]
    #8012517 - 02/12/08 09:19 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Talk to her and see what she thinks, but really, if she understands you for who you are and the decisions you make she shouldn't have a problem with it :wink:


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Re: Hmm [Re: tak]
    #8013530 - 02/12/08 03:22 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

My condolences :heart:


I would take the job.  It would be much easier for your girlfriend to adjust her schedule than for you to find another such opportunity.  I mean at minimum wage (or close to) I'm guessing she isn't exactly tied to that particular job or shift.  You won't get many opportunities to quintuple your income.

On your long drive, listen to music or audiobooks.


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Re: Hmm [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #8020115 - 02/13/08 10:29 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Money isn't everything, that's all I have to say.  I took a great job that paid $22/hr. but I had to drive 60-90 min. each way and I was miserable.  If I were doing something really great that made me satisfied it'd be one thing, but it was IT Help Desk stuff.

I'd also consider whether you think this relationship is really going to last a while or not, and talk to your gf about it.


So sorry about your mom, tak. :heart:


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Re: Hmm [Re: tak]
    #8020585 - 02/14/08 12:14 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

I agree with WhiskyClone, low wage jobs are usually a dime a dozen, but good opportunities are rare. I'm guessing you at least don't mind the work you'd be going into compared to the low wage restaurant job? She could probably get her shifts changed around or find another similar job elsewhere, if she's willing.

Think of it this way: the restaurant was a great place to meet this wonderful girl, and now that you're together you can figure out how to negotiate schedules and make it work.

The driving definitly sounds shitty though. But if you think about it, include driving time into your days wage and you're still making way more per hour than you are at your current job. Is carpooling a possibility so you don't always have to be behind the wheel?


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