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NiamhNyx
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arrogance is hot?
#7994783 - 02/08/08 02:39 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Today I have had two men tell me that my insulting, self righteous rants were attractive. Apparently arrogance actually turns men on. Who knew. To think of all the years I wasted thinking that it was important to be really empathetic and diplomatic and watch my words really carefully so as not to offend, when really, it turns out men like it when women are cocky and egotistical.
Maybe I'm picking the wrong words here (for the sake of being self depricating,) and what they really like is confidence, intelligence and women who have an opinion and are not afraid to express it. Or maybe they're secret masochists and like being beaten, if only verbally.
Any insights? This is mind boggling. I've honestly never had an interaction like this before. It's rather novel.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7994799 - 02/08/08 02:51 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Men are attracted to pretty much everything.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7994801 - 02/08/08 02:52 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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2 = 3,000,000,000 men?
Your extrapolation skills need some work.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7994807 - 02/08/08 02:55 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Men (myself) like women who are confident and intelligent, just not more confident or intelligent than ourselves. fo reals!
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NiamhNyx
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I suppose I'm comparing my usual statistics of how often I'm told something I do/say is hot (rare) to today. That's 2 in one day for the same reason. Aside from today, the last time I was told I was attractive was a couple months ago. Before that, uh, maybe October. So extrapolating from nothing but my own experience, maybe there's something to it.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7994840 - 02/08/08 03:13 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Arrogance is not hot.
Now that is 2 out of 3.
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NiamhNyx
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For the record, when I say "arrogance" I'm exaggerating. Really, I just expressed views that were critical of positions they held and they seemed to like it.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7995234 - 02/08/08 08:32 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I like men that have that arrogant attitude. Temporarily at least. If they have the means to back it up it's cool. But if it's because they are stupid and don't know better, the attraction quickly cools.
But IRL I am considered rather outspoken/intimidating (or so I've been told) so it takes a man with confidence to approach me.
Go with what works. Hell, you should just be yourself anyway.
One of my pet peeves is a woman trying to change who she is to attract a guy. I mean how could it work in the long run if the guy is attracted to the false person? Either the girl is unhappy because "he doesn't love the real me" or the guy's unhappy because "the chick was fake". Oops, went off-course for a minute. Just had to get that out of my system.
I guess the moral of my post is, if you feel you really need to tell a guy off: DO IT!
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: mushbaby]
#7995245 - 02/08/08 08:36 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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We'll need to see a video of your arrogant, insulting, self righteous rants to properly decide. We expect your submission within a week.
- Men of the Shroomery
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: Amber_Glow]
#7995272 - 02/08/08 08:46 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Was that directed at me AG?
If so I'll have to gracefully decline. I just wouldn't have the time to answer all the pm's I'd receive from them asking me to come "berate" them in person. 
Skeptics everywhere I turn. Geesh.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7995321 - 02/08/08 09:00 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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This reminded me of:
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   All this time I've loved you And never known your face All this time I've missed you And searched this human race Here is true peace Here my heart knows calm Safe in your soul Bathed in your sighs
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7995431 - 02/08/08 09:31 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I'll give you an insight.
Today I have had two men tell me that my insulting, self righteous rants were attractive. Apparently arrogance actually turns men on.
As soon as you get involved with these guys that will all be over deary.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: Icelander]
#7995752 - 02/08/08 10:45 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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haha
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: straasha]
#7995769 - 02/08/08 10:52 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Pepe Le Pew... Dave Chapelle has a hilarious stand up bit on this classic character 
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: Icelander]
#7995773 - 02/08/08 10:54 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
Icelander said: I'll give you an insight.
Today I have had two men tell me that my insulting, self righteous rants were attractive. Apparently arrogance actually turns men on.
As soon as you get involved with these guys that will all be over deary.
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this is a S & M thing: some guys find women who abuse & order them around & dominate attractive. verbal abuse = physical abuse. if you'd be confident enough with your voice and order them around they'd probably do it, they get off on it.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7995901 - 02/08/08 11:34 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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yesterday I told some girls that they had nice asses and it seems like one of them got turned on and one was more shocked than anything
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996029 - 02/08/08 12:17 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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For the record, when I say "arrogance" I'm exaggerating.
Now exaggeration - THAT is hot! Which is why I only date paranormalists...
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996039 - 02/08/08 12:20 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
NiamhNyx said: To think of all the years I wasted thinking that it was important to be really empathetic and diplomatic and watch my words really carefully so as not to offend, when really, it turns out men like it when women are cocky and egotistical.
i don't think you should not think it is important to be empathetic and diplomatic because you perceive it to be less attractive to the majority of men (which may or may not be true).
besides.....why would you want an ordinary man? and does being you change based on what you think will be most attractive to someone?
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NiamhNyx
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: TameMe]
#7996044 - 02/08/08 12:22 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I was joking.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996048 - 02/08/08 12:23 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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about what?
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NiamhNyx
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: TameMe]
#7996059 - 02/08/08 12:28 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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About what you quoted. I don't mold my personality around what I percieve to be the preferences of the men I meet. I meant that facetiously.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996164 - 02/08/08 12:59 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I love a confident woman, but I also love shy women as well. I think there is something beautiful about both. Shy women have an innocence about them that I find adorable where as with confident women it's more of a sexy thing.
Arrogance is a big turn off though, I don't think I could date a stuck-up woman and I'm sure most woman feel the way about men too on this one.
I'm probably the smartest person who has replied to this thread so far too, so my reply probably carries the most merit.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996358 - 02/08/08 01:51 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
NiamhNyx said: About what you quoted. I don't mold my personality around what I percieve to be the preferences of the men I meet. I meant that facetiously.
Then you are doomed to be a lonely spinster. (unless you are really hot)
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: Icelander]
#7996468 - 02/08/08 02:20 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I probably will be a spinster for the rest of my life, but I think I'm hot enough to manage to punctuate my perpetual singledom with the occassional fling. That's how it's worked up until now anyways.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996639 - 02/08/08 03:07 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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but I think I'm hot enough
I am going to guess 98.6 degrees...
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7996769 - 02/08/08 03:37 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I probably will be a spinster for the rest of my life,
IMO this would be very wise. Of course I dislike the IMO derogatory term spinster. I find single women (by choice) to be very smart indeed.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: Icelander]
#7997815 - 02/08/08 07:44 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I'm not conceited I am absolutely convinced
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7997844 - 02/08/08 07:51 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
MushmanTheManic said: Men are attracted to pretty much everything.
qft
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: evolprim]
#7998519 - 02/08/08 11:16 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
evolprim said:
Quote:
MushmanTheManic said: Men are attracted to pretty much everything.
qft
yea, lol, there is some truth to that.
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Re: arrogance is hot? [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7999728 - 02/09/08 11:25 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think that the conquest of something that seems to neglect you is far more interesting.
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