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Ender Wiggin
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why am I so sad??
#7966045 - 02/01/08 06:17 PM (16 years, 6 hours ago) |
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I can't figure it out. I mean i came from a broken family, but who doesnt in these days. I'm in grad school, doing well. all my friends love to be around me. Am i just a victim of over thinking my situation? I just feel like i hate everything. There is nothing I truly enjoy. maybe i miss my old girlfriend. But ive been without her longer than i was with her. who knows, I dont want to grow up. peter pan complex maybe? who knows. I dont like this feeling. fuck it.
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SneezingPenis
ACHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!111!

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dont take life too seriously.
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JoseLibrado
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yeah im the same. Been like this for a good couple of days.
Im really the same actually. Though i have not been like this for a while. This is trully one of those old ones. I know i have to keep going...it prolly has to do with getting out of my confort zone. My body is kind of withdrawling and im being presented with a bunch of new challenges that i though i rid myself of previously and i cant accept that its my thoughts that are a source of the madness not me. Normally its common thinking to blame someone for bad feelings. But most of them stem from not being able to see that we are not the source of our problems. usually we guilt ourselves for many things including how we feel. most of the time this is why i feel bad.
-------------------- The mind is a creative tool. It searches to protect you, through message sensations(feelings). It is no different than a computer, you need to make sure its anti-virus program is in check and that it doesnt have a script that limits your experience, because of to much precaution. And remember the computer does not appear to respond to words of anger and frustration - just give it input, in the form of new meanings that you know to be true and its messages to you and the limits it lays out for you, will change. Guilt is an outcome of believing you are the cause of the problems. Yet, we are not a cause to something, we see is negative or bad - Unless you believe your intentions are directed towards a bad outcome....
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Lion
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There is lots to be sad about.
There is vast suffering in this world, some of it truly unimaginable, and the cultural landscape we are embedded in screams out for the higher values of compassion, patience, wisdom, clarity, love, and humanity. Then there is the simple fact that human beings as we know ourselves to be, bodies limited in the vastness of space-time, are all slowly decaying and moving toward death, and there is really no solid ground beneath our feet. This fact can be a source of deep sadness, and trying to cling to relationships, habits, vices, and so forth as a way of hiding from this undeniable reality creates even more sadness and confusion.
I would suggest trying to learn to immerse fully in the present moment, and learning to separate your emotions from the stories that your mind creates around them. This is a really key thing for me... when I am sad about something, it is painful, frustrating, depressing, and terrible. When I am just sad, though, when I immerse in the pure feeling of it and become one with it, there is a joyous quality; though the sadness remains, Agape love emerges - love for all of the beings in this great ocean of existence.
Don't hold on to the notion that there is some final state to be achieved and you are not there. You are whole now. This moment, now, this is it! Let go!
-------------------- “Strengthened by contemplation and study, I will not fear my passions like a coward. My body I will give to pleasures, to diversions that I’ve dreamed of, to the most daring erotic desires, to the lustful impulses of my blood, without any fear at all, for whenever I will— and I will have the will, strengthened as I’ll be with contemplation and study— at the crucial moments I’ll recover my spirit as was before: ascetic.”
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Sophistic Radiance
Free sVs!



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I'm good at guilting myself too. Sometimes I hate myself just because I was lucky enough to be born to parents who could afford to give me a good life. Other times I overthink about all the people I've known, and I feel like I've failed to love everyone as I feel is my duty to the world.
These times are usually when I'm on mushrooms, which is why I prefer LSD... but aside from that it troubles me in my daily life from time to time too. Sometimes it's hard to remember that my only true duty is to myself, and that I shouldn't feel bad for the lucky breaks I've been given or the people who didn't like everything I said and did.
-------------------- Enlil said: You really are the worst kind of person.
Edited by Tchan909 (02/01/08 07:54 PM)
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AlteredAgain
Visual Alchemist



Registered: 04/27/06
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Re: why am I so sad?? [Re: Lion]
#7966462 - 02/01/08 08:20 PM (16 years, 4 hours ago) |
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Lion said: There is lots to be sad about.
There is vast suffering in this world, some of it truly unimaginable, and the cultural landscape we are embedded in screams out for the higher values of compassion, patience, wisdom, clarity, love, and humanity. Then there is the simple fact that human beings as we know ourselves to be, bodies limited in the vastness of space-time, are all slowly decaying and moving toward death, and there is really no solid ground beneath our feet. This fact can be a source of deep sadness, and trying to cling to relationships, habits, vices, and so forth as a way of hiding from this undeniable reality creates even more sadness and confusion.
I would suggest trying to learn to immerse fully in the present moment, and learning to separate your emotions from the stories that your mind creates around them. This is a really key thing for me... when I am sad about something, it is painful, frustrating, depressing, and terrible. When I am just sad, though, when I immerse in the pure feeling of it and become one with it, there is a joyous quality; though the sadness remains, Agape love emerges - love for all of the beings in this great ocean of existence.
Don't hold on to the notion that there is some final state to be achieved and you are not there. You are whole now. This moment, now, this is it! Let go!
well said!
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kody260z
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yeah lion, that was awesome!
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Viveka
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Am i just a victim of over thinking my situation?
Maybe I am attaching too much meaning to your use of this word but I would suggest being wary of the notion that you are the victim of anything.
We are dealt a hand as a human, things happen to us, we interpret those things. Objectively there is no basis for judging these things so all to be decided is left to the subject - namely ourselves.
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impgl
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Re: why am I so sad?? [Re: Viveka]
#7967650 - 02/02/08 05:04 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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when i feel like all of the students around me are doing something with their lives or life is boring/ sad, i just do something random. hitch hike, dance in my room, shake hands with a stranger and just ask them weird shit. lol.
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redgreenvines
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Re: why am I so sad?? [Re: impgl]
#7967698 - 02/02/08 06:00 AM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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being sad is an artform
it is one of the first things we learn to become really skillful with.
in adulthood it shifts from being a way to influence caring adults into the PURE ART OF LIFE. There is a taste to it, a consistency, a familiarity, and you can still use it to mark territory, to own and color your surrounds with a personal darkness.
of course, there is all that winter stuff, short days, sore body, and various obligations to complain about...
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Icelander
The Minstrel in the Gallery



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Quote:
Ender Wiggin said: I can't figure it out. I mean i came from a broken family, but who doesnt in these days. I'm in grad school, doing well. all my friends love to be around me. Am i just a victim of over thinking my situation? I just feel like i hate everything. There is nothing I truly enjoy. maybe i miss my old girlfriend. But ive been without her longer than i was with her. who knows, I dont want to grow up. peter pan complex maybe? who knows. I dont like this feeling. fuck it.
You don't realize the huge effect of problems in early childhood programming. You most likely just don't fit the life you have and the cultural values. I get sad myself.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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