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Anonymous #1
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I compare myself with other people.
#7964337 - 02/01/08 11:06 AM (16 years, 17 hours ago) |
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I aleways compare myself with others, to the point where if I am not the best or the 'most' at something I look down on myself.
How can I stop this behavior and accept myself for who I am?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7964594 - 02/01/08 12:08 PM (16 years, 15 hours ago) |
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That kind of thinking isnt bad.
The tough part is to not look down on yourself after youve just been put in your place, work harder and be the best at something
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Anonymous #3
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7964659 - 02/01/08 12:20 PM (16 years, 15 hours ago) |
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Anonymous said:
How can I stop this behavior and accept myself for who I am?
I had this habit and what helped me stop was to stop judging others. When you look at others critically, you tend to view yourself that way too. Low self esteem leads to criticism of others, which leads to criticism of oneself, which leads to low self esteem.
Recognize when you're doing it, stop, and remind yourself that you are just fine, strengths and faults included. Extend to others the same courtesy.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7965947 - 02/01/08 05:51 PM (16 years, 10 hours ago) |
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When I'm low = low self-esteem.
when im high = high self-esteem.
Sometimes high sometimes low.. high is what counts so just think about the good times and what you like about yourself.
oh yea, ever have peple look up to you and compliment you and make it obvious that YOU have shit that they wish they had?
yea.. think about what those people said.. and tell yoruself thats whats real.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7966479 - 02/01/08 08:23 PM (16 years, 7 hours ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said:
How can I stop this behavior and accept myself for who I am?
I had this habit and what helped me stop was to stop judging others. When you look at others critically, you tend to view yourself that way too. Low self esteem leads to criticism of others, which leads to criticism of oneself, which leads to low self esteem.
Recognize when you're doing it, stop, and remind yourself that you are just fine, strengths and faults included. Extend to others the same courtesy.
QFT
i was gradually able to stop thinking poorly of myself, the harder part seems to be to stop judging other people
i've trained myself so that whenever i start thinking i'm better than someone, i immediately cease that though
same thing if i start feeling inferior to someone
everyone has strengths and weaknesses in perfect balance to make us all equal. if it helps when you find yourself concentrating on their weaknesses, try to find their strengths and vice versa. soon you'll move past that as well and not feel any urge to judge them at all
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Anonymous #6
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#7966651 - 02/01/08 08:56 PM (16 years, 7 hours ago) |
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Pay attention to your internal monologue. When you find yourself saying inside, "I'm not as good as x at x," find something to counterbalance it, like "BUT I'm still pretty good at x." You'd be surprised at how much your internal monologue affects your general demeanor.
I learned a while ago that thinking "I hate my life" when things don't go just the way you like is, in fact, a self-fulfilling prophecy and a link in a cycle of self-loathing.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: I compare myself with other people. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7967080 - 02/01/08 10:59 PM (16 years, 5 hours ago) |
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Anonymous said: I learned a while ago that thinking "I hate my life" when things don't go just the way you like is, in fact, a self-fulfilling prophecy and a link in a cycle of self-loathing.

Self-loathing is a way of shirking responsibility for your own life. I used to say "I'm such an idiot/loser/fuckup" all the time, not realizing I was doing it so that I'd never have to expect anything of myself. It was an excuse to put in zero effort improving myself.
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