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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Icelander]
    #7965227 - 02/01/08 02:48 PM (16 years, 8 hours ago)

I didn't say that it was "all around us," I said that it was the state of fully enjoying being alive. It is happening (as in--accessible) within us all the time, but we distract ourselves with negative meditation and busy-ness. When we allow ourselves to be in that state, we experience a feeling of well-being and joy that we usually only notice when something stops our distraction process (i.e. being chemically infatuated with a new romantic partner).


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7965262 - 02/01/08 02:58 PM (16 years, 8 hours ago)

Sounds like merging to me and I think it's the same thing. To experience the world around us we can look at it and enjoy it (or not), or we can become involved in recognition that "thou art that" so to speak and fully grok/merge our oneness. If you do that there is only unconditional acceptance IMO.

It's just an idea I have. I realize by that definition I almost never experience love but instead self-serving like.:tongue:


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" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Icelander]
    #7965459 - 02/01/08 04:00 PM (16 years, 7 hours ago)

The state I am describing could occur without experiencing the world around us, though, as it occurs in the world within us.  This is why I don't see it as "merging."  (Though merging can be fun! :wink:)

And if we are one with everything, then there cannot be "merging," as it's all already merged.  :shrug:  If not, then we could merge, but I assert that the state of loving has nothing to do with the rest of the world...only our inner awareness of being fully alive.

I notice this expansive state of loving most-often when I am NOT focused on the world outside of myself, not observing, not trying to reach for or push away anything.  It sneaks up on me when I relax, when I begin to feel how good it is to be embodied & how "at home" I feel inside my own head.  YMMV.  :shrug:

Words are so imprecise when it comes to describing internal states, but the closest I can come to it is this: It is the state of being alive for no other reason than the joy of it.  Not to work, not to play, not to achieve, not to worry, not to do for others, not to gain things or awards...just to live and grow.  Like the fern in my avatar, unfurling in a sunbeam.  :sun:


Edited by Veritas (02/01/08 04:07 PM)


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7965624 - 02/01/08 04:31 PM (16 years, 6 hours ago)

So then does love disappear if the "joy of being alive" goes for some reason?


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" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Icelander]
    #7965690 - 02/01/08 04:48 PM (16 years, 6 hours ago)

No, then we are distracted & stop noticing.


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7965705 - 02/01/08 04:51 PM (16 years, 6 hours ago)

:heart::peace::cool:


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Rebirtha]
    #7966384 - 02/01/08 08:01 PM (16 years, 3 hours ago)

I believe that more than eve now. I just played around with it and it seemed to work.

This love we speak of, is just being in a state of unity that is uninterupted and flows naturally from our being anyways. What can interupt it is seeing it as an achievment. instead of a state of being.

Really there is no dogma that creates it. It is all there really is, the other feelings are just variations of that flow.

For example, Guilt. Its not actually a specific feeling it simply is negative emotion directed to what the creative spirit understands it the source of our problems.

We then feel guilty because we think that we are the source of our problems, directing that negative unjoyous motivation to feel joyous again, towards ourselves. this SOUNDS LIKE it CONTRADICTS itself, but take a look and notice that love cannot be felt unless there is "non-joyous" feelings as well. However, it still contradicts itself, but if you notice that i said 'Love is all there is" and that i just said that joy "what Is" is only perceivable in reflection to "what is not".

Veritas do you just let this happen? Because right now i find it hard...any tips?


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The mind is a creative tool. It searches to protect you, through message sensations(feelings). It is no different than a computer, you need to make sure its anti-virus program is in check and that it doesnt have a script that limits your experience, because of to much precaution.

And remember the computer does not appear to respond to words of anger and frustration - just give it input, in the form of new meanings that you know to be true and its messages to you and the limits it lays out for you, will change.

Guilt is an outcome of believing you are the cause of the problems.

Yet, we are not a cause to something, we see is negative or bad - Unless you believe your intentions are directed towards a bad outcome....


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7967811 - 02/02/08 08:00 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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Veritas said:
No, then we are distracted & stop noticing.




This must be true for all living things then. Not just humans. So most animals (and flora) by nature distract themselves less because they live in the now. They have it good.


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"Don't believe everything you think". -Anom.

" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

With much wisdom comes much sorrow,
The more knowledge, the more grief.
Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC


Edited by Icelander (02/02/08 08:01 AM)


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Icelander]
    #7967936 - 02/02/08 09:08 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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Icelander said:

This must be true for all living things then. Not just humans. So most animals (and flora) by nature distract themselves less because they live in the now. They have it good.




Compared to some of us, they probably do. If they had a human level of intelligence but did not live in a constant state of distraction, they'd be quite powerful.



Wait, plants are conscious?


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #7967972 - 02/02/08 09:34 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Do you have to be conscious to have a default state of love?


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" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #7968004 - 02/02/08 09:49 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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Wait, plants are conscious?


I would say yes. I would say that everything is conscious, because everything is comprised of consciousness itself. I would also say that I have no way of proving that. Which is why I am not saying any of this, it is just stuff that I would say.


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“Strengthened by contemplation and study,
I will not fear my passions like a coward.
My body I will give to pleasures,
to diversions that I’ve dreamed of,
to the most daring erotic desires,
to the lustful impulses of my blood, without
any fear at all, for whenever I will—
and I will have the will, strengthened
as I’ll be with contemplation and study—
at the crucial moments I’ll recover
my spirit as was before: ascetic.”


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Lion]
    #7968034 - 02/02/08 09:59 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

You would say stuff that you would not say? :confused:


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7968040 - 02/02/08 10:02 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Thats great Veritas! What a wonderful way to view other people.

Some Buddhists practice metta, or loving kindness to cultivate this same quality you have cultivated. In meditation we direct thoughts of love towards ourselves, our friends, our enemies, and all sentient beings, somewhat systematically. We make expressing love and kindness the object of our meditation.

I know some people in here have mentioned they believed that practicing Metta is useless, but I find it is very rewarding. Perhaps its a personality thing. It has helped me feel more comfortable with people by focusing on their good qualities. By seeing the same faults in them that I see in me, and loving myself unconditionally, I can't help but love them, because I practice loving myself.


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Row, row, row, you boat, gently down the stream.
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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Icelander]
    #7968044 - 02/02/08 10:02 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

Icelander said:
Do you have to be conscious to have a default state of love?




I would think so. But I'm not exactly a love expert.


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
    #7968066 - 02/02/08 10:08 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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OrgoneConclusion said:
You would say stuff that you would not say? :confused:


No, I would say it, I'm just not.


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“Strengthened by contemplation and study,
I will not fear my passions like a coward.
My body I will give to pleasures,
to diversions that I’ve dreamed of,
to the most daring erotic desires,
to the lustful impulses of my blood, without
any fear at all, for whenever I will—
and I will have the will, strengthened
as I’ll be with contemplation and study—
at the crucial moments I’ll recover
my spirit as was before: ascetic.”


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #7968202 - 02/02/08 11:06 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

WhiskeyClone said:
Quote:

Icelander said:
Do you have to be conscious to have a default state of love?




I would think so.  But I'm not exactly a love expert.




Me either.:tongue: I'm pretty good at knowing what it's not though.:lol:


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" All that lives was born to die"-Anom.

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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7968208 - 02/02/08 11:09 AM (15 years, 11 months ago)

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My recent (since 2003) "experiments" with being loving (as opposed to finding someone loveable) have convinced me that I was mistaken in my lifelong ideas about what love is.

Perhaps the limitations we learn to set on our ability to be loving have a "nocebo" effect, in that our beliefs become actualized in our experiences?  Once these beliefs begin to regularly play out in our life, we take them as gospel, and become incapable of loving those who do not meet our narrow set of standards--our personal definition of "loveable."

But in my recent experiences, in which I quite deliberately switched the focus onto my own capacity for loving, and away from the qualities I perceived in others, I have found that I am capable of loving everyone.  The artificial limit I had set, in which others had to be deserving of love, has been exposed as illusionary.

On that note--Good morning, everyone!  I love you! (Nothing personal.) :grin:  :heart:




NO FUCKING DOUBT!! :laugh:  :heartpump:  :hug:


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is to be like water
For water benefits all things
and goes against none of them
It provides for all people
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a man is loath to go
In this way it is just like Tao        ~Daodejing


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Cracka_X]
    #7974503 - 02/03/08 06:17 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

love is when your pants rise when you see a pretty girl :rofl2:


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: Veritas]
    #7975237 - 02/03/08 08:49 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

What about romantic love?

Have you read The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm?


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Re: I love you -- nothing personal! [Re: MushmanTheManic]
    #7975567 - 02/03/08 09:58 PM (15 years, 11 months ago)

IMO, romantic love blends the quality of loving with sexual desire and affinity. This is not to be confused with infatuation, which most people call romantic love.

I have read The Art of Loving, and enjoyed it very much. I don't agree with all of Fromm's ideas, but I like this one:

"Critical and radical thought will only bear fruit when it is blended with the most precious quality man is endowed with - the love of life."

It seems to me that much suffering is created when we confuse or substitute the shared loving we experience with another for this love of life. The love of life can be ours throughout our lifetime, whereas people may leave or die. We can enjoy loving others, but the primary experience of loving is the deep and true love of living. It also seems to me that those who are afraid to love life are those who struggle the most with dying. Perhaps when we have loved life with every fiber of our being, we can gracefully release it when it ends.


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