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OwMyHead
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*sigh*
Philistines, the lot of you. 
In general:
The first touch should never be sexual.
Just because you're in the mood doesn't necessarily mean she is. Put your considerable talents to ensuring you're both on the same level and you'll both be happier.
Women don't have an "on" switch. We have a slider that moves very, very slowly. 
Feedback is love. I had sex with a guy once (once being the operative word) that didn't even *breathe* heavy; ten years later, I couldn't even tell you his name. He was apparently quite into me judging by how his friend kept trying to hook us up again, but ugh, boring. However, screeching nonsense shit like "oh you nasty bitch" might get you slapped (or kneed). A heartfelt and even soft moan can be very powerful and is *this* writer's favourite type of feedback. Having said that, until she knows your "language", it can also sound like a moan of pain. If she freezes, changes what she's doing or looks concerned, assure her that you liked whatever it was she was doing.
Hygiene:
Brush your teeth, three times a day, but especially before a date, after a meal, after smoking, or before an encounter. Whatever rotting food and bacteria you have in your mouth, we don't want it.
Use an anti-dandruff shampoo if you need it. For oily hair if you need it.
Use deodorant.
Use soap. Soap is not shampoo.
Wash your socks in hot water with bleach and if you get athlete's foot, treat it.
Most women don't mind a reasonable amount of body hair on a male, but for the love of god keep yourself groomed. If you have dreads, that's fine, but keep your hair and scalp clean. If you have long hair, that's fine, but get it trimmed when it starts looking ratty. Very few women expect an adult male to be completely without body hair, but if your pubic hair is long enough to be braided, you need to trim it.
Technique:
Foreplay is your friend. Plan on doing it at least half an hour. Just because you have a bottle of lube doesn't mean you can just jam your shit into her. One of the purposes of foreplay is to relax the vagina and lengthen it; the cervix moves deeper into her body cavity to make more room. Sex without foreplay (unless she was heavily aroused in the first place, which chances are she was not) is A) no fun and B) painful for the woman. If a guy can't be arsed to bother with foreplay, then I can't be arsed to let him stick his dick in me.
Most women are not physically capable of orgasming from vaginal penetration alone. The vaginal canal is designed to give a passage for a full-term infant from womb to outside; as such, it's not got much in the way of nerve endings.
Lick it before you stick it. Trust me, she'll find you much more memorable if you're good with your tongue than if you just pound away like a jackhammer, and she'll likely A) want to come back for more (perhaps several times a day) and B) may tell her friends. I have a good friend who has quite the reputation of being "the most fantastically talented cunninglingust I've ever had the pleasure to know" (to quote a friend, because sadly, I do not know first hand, but I have heard this from SEVERAL women), and he does not sleep alone unless he chooses to. Think about it. I'm unfortunately completely uninterested in women but if I were a guy, and could get a woman to shriek uncontrollably and beg me and plead with me for "more more more!" by moving my tongue half an inch in either direction, I think I'd be on top of the world.
Learn HOW to use your fingers. Be gentle with them; the vaginal tissues are very sensitive and tear easily and bruise even more easily. Don't just blindly stick your fingers in her and start poking away. Some people believe in the existence of the G-spot, some don't. *I* am a believer, and gentle but firm stimulation of it combined with oral sex is likely to turn me into a quivering puddle of goo. 
Ignore your spam filter. Bigger is not necessarily better (some women are "size whores" and that's fine, but for most women I've spoken to, they'd rather "average" paired with "talent"). Having an enormous schlong and "jackhammering all night" is an interesting novelty once in a while, perhaps, if the guy is really good with his tongue and his fingers. If he's not, it's just painful.
If you want her to worship you like the god you are, worship her like the goddess she is.
Unless specifically directed otherwise, don't expect ANYTHING you are unwilling to give. If you won't go down on her, forget getting head. If you expect her to take it in the ass, expect to take something the size of your erect cock in YOUR ass. If you insist she be freshly showered and shaven, get in the shower with her and shave your own brillo pad.
Generally speaking, men get off on anal sex because they have prostate glands and there's actually some pleasant stimulation there. Women are not so equipped, despite what pornography tells them. All the women I know hate anal sex because it's painful and frightening. Do you really want her to associate sex with you as scaring and hurting her?
Favourite lube:
Get a silicone based one, like dimethicone. Glycerin based ones dry out and turn into sharp little sugar cubes, and ow. You also can't use glycerin-based lube underwater. Silicone/dimethicone can be used under water, but BE REALLY CAREFUL ABOUT USING IT IN THE SHOWER, because like three drops will lubricate you, her, the shower walls *and the shower floor* and you'll crash into a rather ignoble heap on the floor of the shower and your brains will leak out the huge gash you've now put in your skull.
Favourite condom:
If you're using them, definitely preference for polyurethane ones. I'm female, but I'm given to understand they transmit heat and sensation better.
Positions:
I personally don't like 69. I'd rather give or receive (as opposed to simultaneously giving and receiving), so that I can properly concentrate on whatever is happening.
I personally find "doggy-style" to be objectifying and not terribly physically satisfying. *shrug*
However, a "modified missionary position" (my legs together) (see link 1 below), particularly coupled with a coital alignment technique (see link 2 below) is POSITIVELY MIND-BLOWING for both you and your woman.
I actually also like positions that have me on my side, or me my back and the guy on his side. (This may depend on the woman and the man, of course).
This is about all I can come up with on short notice, but at least it's a start, sheesh.
As with everything else on the internet, YMMV.
1 - http://www.illustrated-lovemaking-positions.com/easy/missionary-push.html
2 - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_technique
(However, in the interest of fairness . . . I would like to hear what the guys think is z0mg!awesome . . .)
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Veritas

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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: OwMyHead]
#8318082 - 04/23/08 09:35 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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By and large, I agree with the information you've presented. I must take issue with two anatomical inaccuracies, however:
1. The first few inches of the vagina are laden with nerve endings, and definitely erogenous. The fact that the vaginal canal is capable of expanding to birth a baby has nothing to do with the sensate nature of the vaginal tissues. (I've given birth twice, so I know this from experience.)
2. The first few inches of the anus are also laden with nerve endings, and clearly capable of both pain and pleasure. Unfortunately, many women have had the experience of being penetrated before they are fully aroused and/or without adequate lubrication. Because the anus is SO sensitive, penetration while tense and dry is terribly painful. Future "tries" with anal sex may be equally painful, as fear results in tension and makes a pleasurable experience unlikely.
However, anal sex when fully aroused & well-lubricated can be mind-blowing. Additionally, it is possible to stimulate the G-spot via "doggy-style" anal penetration, resulting in AMAZING sex.
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mushbaby
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: Veritas]
#8319448 - 04/23/08 03:59 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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Suck my clit, spank my ass, and talk dirty to me. Straightforward enough?
And doggie is one of my favorite positions. I don't find it humiliating at all.
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: mushbaby]
#8319456 - 04/23/08 04:01 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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mushbaby said: Suck my clit, spank my ass, and talk dirty to me.
Yes ma'am!
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mushbaby
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Weeellll, y'all wanted to know what works.
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coulterIV
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: mushbaby]
#8320710 - 04/23/08 08:18 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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mushbaby said: Weeellll, y'all wanted to know what works.
thanks for being real, i'm sure you like the ;choke a bitch; style too, with a bit of hair pulling, and maybe even :the claw:
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: coulterIV]
#8320765 - 04/23/08 08:33 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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coulterIV said:
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mushbaby said: Weeellll, y'all wanted to know what works.
thanks for being real, i'm sure you like the ;choke a bitch; style too, with a bit of hair pulling, and maybe even :the claw:
"Suck my clit, spank my ass": Hot. "Choke a bitch style and the claw" some crazy -ass fetish website.
But whatever floats your crank. I would think it would be best to introduce the choking claw for the third month.
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mushbaby
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: DrCamacho89]
#8322066 - 04/24/08 05:40 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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Choke the bitch for me is a total turnoff. I know some like it, I don't.
Don't know what the claw is. But the hair pulling is good too. To an extent, don't pull it out!
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OwMyHead
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: mushbaby]
#8324160 - 04/24/08 06:35 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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I didn't say I found it humiliating, I said I found it *objectifying*.
I asked a male friend (with whom I've not been intimate) what his favourite position was and he said "Doggy-style" and I asked why, and the FIRST THING out of his mouth was "sometimes I don't want to have to look at her". Couple that with the position doing almost (or completely) nothing for me physically, and the guy is increasingly trying to contort my body for better stimulation into less and less comfortable positions, and it's just not something I find all that fun.
If the sensation stimulated me, well then of course I'd feel differently!
I *personally* agree with the spanking *IF* the relationship is right.
As for the suction, I agree wholeheartedly, but I'm given to understand a lot of women find that almost physically painful.
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Spooge
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I get slightly physical, to the point where I make her think I COULD be a savage animal. All women I've been with enjoy that primal lust, consciously and subconsciously.
I find that when you first start penetrating a woman, say in missionary, after a good warm up, to frequently grab her thigh with a strong hand and give it a raw, powerful squeeze from time to time(without getting to the point where you are hurting her, everyone is different, so experiment), but always keeping a firm grip on it. With the other hand, grab her hip FIRMLY and from time to time, dictate her every momevement so that YOU ARE IN CONTROL. Every now and then, take one of the hands away and lightly slide and caress her entire leg with a soft touch, only to make a raw, primal moan a while later and squeeze with a firm grip again.
Ask her if she likes it, ask her if she wants you to hold her tighter.
She won't say no. Not in my experience yet anyway
I find a technique like that is great will going at a decent slow to moderate pace, sometimes slowing down for a few thrusts and making sure they go nice and deep, slowly...you ending up on the balls of your feet.
When and if things start getting more fast, more intense, i'll change it up and use both hands to just lightly run my hands all over her body.
My general rule is,
Slow/Moderate, deep, intense : Powerful grips, firm squeezes.
Fast, Primal, Raw : extreme amounts of light caressing and touching...everywhere.
I don't follow this all the time, but using that once and awhile seems to drive them nuts.
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ChiefGreenLeaf

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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: Spooge]
#8325525 - 04/25/08 12:06 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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Two words. Tartaric masturbation. This has done wonders for my sex life. For those of you not in the know, its simply the art of holding one's seed.
The longer you go a) the better it feels b) you get the most powerful erections c) you can last forever. The trick is just to not over do it. What I do is set a time limit before I start. That way I won't go until the urge to cum becomes unbearable (yea its happened).
I find my sessions to be best right after I smoke a bowl. Gives me more focus.
After about 3 weeks there will be noticeable benefits. I started being able to fuck for hours. Easily make my girl cum 2 or 3 times. And since I have complete control over my cum reflex, we stopped bothering with condoms (she was virgin don't flame me). That has just been the most wonderful thing ever
I know your thinking she is so gonna get prego, but I smoke weed about 1-2 times a week that lowers sperm count. As does just taking a really hot bath before seeing her. That further kills them off as sperm like relatively cool temperatures.
If you're ever the slightest bit hesitant in your ability then just use a condom. I think its well worth it though.
Sorry for the long post. I've been ripping my steamroller
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WhiskeyClone
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I'm not sure why I never looked into that ^^^

EDIT: The tantric masturbation that is, not so much the killing my sperm with weed part
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Spooge
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Quote:
know your thinking she is so gonna get prego, but I smoke weed about 1-2 times a week that lowers sperm count. As does just taking a really hot bath before seeing her. That further kills them off as sperm like relatively cool temperatures.
That's just retarded man, I"m sorry.
Me and my friends smoked multiple times, daily, for years on end, and most of them still ended up getting chicks pregnant.
Whatever eases your mind I guess.
Plus I also found that if you ejaculate in a woman long enough, without a condom, it'll start to smell after awhile.
And douching or washing out the vagina isn't all that great to do from what I've heard and read.
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ChiefGreenLeaf

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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: Spooge]
#8328031 - 04/25/08 06:31 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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^^ I knew someone would say that. Your probably right, but I'll still do it anyway. I've never cummed inside her without a condom. I think I'll be safe
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perosiste
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: MOTH]
#8328067 - 04/25/08 06:42 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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The only advice that I have to offer is that when your going down on a girl use your tounge to spell out the alphabet upper and lower case. Ive never had a gril make it past w
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OwMyHead
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: Spooge]
#8329105 - 04/26/08 12:00 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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Plus I also found that if you ejaculate in a woman long enough, without a condom, it'll start to smell after awhile.
I'm not at all certain what you're talking about (nor am I at all certain I wish to be), but barring any sort of infection/allergic reaction/imbalance, and assuming normal hygiene, this should not happen.
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: OwMyHead]
#8329229 - 04/26/08 12:57 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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OwMyHead said: I didn't say I found it humiliating, I said I found it *objectifying*.
I asked a male friend (with whom I've not been intimate) what his favourite position was and he said "Doggy-style" and I asked why, and the FIRST THING out of his mouth was "sometimes I don't want to have to look at her". Couple that with the position doing almost (or completely) nothing for me physically, and the guy is increasingly trying to contort my body for better stimulation into less and less comfortable positions, and it's just not something I find all that fun.
If the sensation stimulated me, well then of course I'd feel differently!
I find it to be one of the *most* stimulating positions. I do hate it's name though, and feel somewhat embarassed saying "baby, i want it doggy style" which results in alot of missing out. I should really get over being embarrassed.
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: NiamhNyx]
#8329287 - 04/26/08 01:21 AM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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Look into the eyes - without any ideas then recognize that your body becomes one thing. See no separation between the two things interacting, imagine it is a ball of pure pleasure that is engorging with exctacy and joy - where both share in, equal harmony.
Talk about your sexual desires before sex. Like why is it that Saying "FUCK me" is appealing? I have found that it is because of such negative, nasty and dirty definitions of sex given at young ages.
Remind and refresh your mind under the impression that sex is exploratory, where the centers of pleasure take flight and the imagination soars.
Talk about emotionally frustrating issues during the middle less expansive stage of sex. Use it to express those emotions and re-interpret them.
Currently I have to try all of these more. I have only done them a couple of times each. From my experience they can be a refreshing way to bring curiosity and innocence - harmony and passion into melody with each other.
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Veritas

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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: NiamhNyx]
#8331333 - 04/26/08 04:54 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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NiamhNyx said: I find it to be one of the *most* stimulating positions. I do hate it's name though, and feel somewhat embarrassed saying "baby, i want it doggy style" which results in alot of missing out. I should really get over being embarrassed.
Or just say "I want you to take me from behind."
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NiamhNyx
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Re: Give your sex tips! [Re: Veritas]
#8331793 - 04/26/08 07:22 PM (15 years, 9 months ago) |
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What a brilliant idea.
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