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Chronic7

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Can you be too empathetic?
#7955917 - 01/30/08 02:42 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I have been told a million times im a VERY empathetic person, which i see as a good thing as when people talk about theyre problems or achievments to me they seem to really let go and tell me things they would never tell anyone else.
Its very easy for me to relate to someone no matter what they've been through, even though i may not have been through it.
Because of this i seem to emulate all those around me, i even start sounding like whichever friends i've been around alot. (i know everyone gets this but i get it ALOT!)
I also seem to have a knack of seeing others in others, others in me, and me in others.
Which freaked me out once cause i was driving and another person in a car came past me and i couldve sworn it was me in the other car, it really messed with my head for a few minutes!
So...can you be too empathetic?
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Edited by Chronic7 (01/30/08 04:26 PM)
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956017 - 01/30/08 03:04 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I think there's a difference between empathy and letting go of yourself and your own perspective entirely. Empathy seems to be about understanding how others come to thier diverse and different perspectives and doesn't require your to give up your own.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956131 - 01/30/08 03:31 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Seems to me more like of a personality issue. Meaning that you copy others not because of empathy but because you are confused about who you are.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956159 - 01/30/08 03:38 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I have been told a million times im a VERY empathetic person
Have you been told a million times that you tend to exaggerate?
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Chronic7

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MILLIONS OF TIMES!!! Thanks for that contribution you really helped.
Im fine with who i am i just seem to pick up other peoples traits, not because im confused with who i am. lol. People emulate each other all the time i just seem to do it more.
You may think its YOUR personality but its just the culmination of all youve loved and feared and how you express it to others.
So who are you then?
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Edited by Chronic7 (01/30/08 04:28 PM)
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956413 - 01/30/08 04:35 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Thanks for that contribution you really helped.
I am also sensing a sincerity issue.
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Chronic7

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LOOOOL
Damn you cant ask a question here without being psychologically probed and being told what you should say, post, think etc...
Let me be man!
Anyway I was sincere, i exagerrate way too much. Im a man, like if i got a cold, im dying.
Issues is a funny word, i used to know this girl who used to say it and walk away from people when she wanted to annoy them its hilarious seeing it, and then look on theyre face after!
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956492 - 01/30/08 04:47 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I thought that's why you made all those posts
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956502 - 01/30/08 04:48 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Why does the word 'issues' so disturb you?
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Chronic7

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It doesnt disturb me at all i think its a funny word and has many uses. It fits tickets and magazines better than psychological problems i think.
and the comment about all these posts?
Last time i counted you had over 6,000....
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956551 - 01/30/08 04:55 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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and the comment about all these posts?
Last time i counted you had over 6,000....
Hmmm, I was not mocking you in any way... I was just wondering about your reasons. Usually you make a thread (or post) in order to get responses, and you seem to be discontented with the course those answers took. So I am asking you what i it that you are looking for?
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7956587 - 01/30/08 05:01 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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What i took offense to was being told i dont know who i am, would you like being told that?
It automatically stirs up defensivness when sumone is told something about themselves by someone else, because that person doesnt know them...i felt liek i was being judged by the post i made instead of being helped.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956609 - 01/30/08 05:04 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Your OP was constructed in such a manner that required an opinion... and the opinion was about you since the thread was about yourself. When you open a discussion about yourself it means that you expose yourself to comments about... yes, yourself.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7956637 - 01/30/08 05:10 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Ok fine i understand that 
I dont see how someone can be confused as to who they are?
But im sure theres some out there in white padded cells thinking theyre a donkey or something...
Maybe a teenager could be confused as to who they are, whats theyre purpose etc...but im 24 with my dream job, surrounded by loving people, i make music, write alot, play sports, meditate, read alot. I know who i am and who i am becoming.
I was just thinking that maybe i relate to other people too much, but i guess you cant relate to others TOO much because we are all one.
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Edited by Chronic7 (01/30/08 05:20 PM)
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7956776 - 01/30/08 05:33 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I don't know who I am... Being told this does not offend me. Why should it offend you? Personally, I think defining myself is very limiting so I am happy NOT knowing who I am.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Huehuecoyotl]
#7957008 - 01/30/08 06:09 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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LOL nicely said. And your right, and theres always mystery, but i mean as a human being, my personality in this life time, i know i know who i am and where i am going.
I took offense because i feel i have a rerasonably good understanding of who i am as said above, but i suppose ive never had it questioned before so i respect her for questioning it. I was just defensive at the time.
In a way i feel i reacted the way i did because thinking about it made me regress back to when i was a 17 year old kid and i did shrooms for the first time, one thing they made me do was ask that very question "who am i?"
I thought i knew then but didnt have a clue, since then i have learned so much so havent felt the need to ask myself that question for a long time, so being asked it threw me off.
Thats my true answer.
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Re: Can you be too empathetic? [Re: Chronic7]
#7957605 - 01/30/08 08:11 PM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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I think I'm quite empathetic to others, but not too empathetic.
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