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theorganicdomino
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Rules for the tripping parent
#7954976 - 01/30/08 10:14 AM (16 years, 2 days ago) |
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These rules only really apply up until when the child can talk coherently, I'll rethink them when I reach that hurdle.
I learnt many of these the hard way.
1. Be grateful that you have a wife/husband you allows you to trip and understands & appreciates your need to.
2. Be the best parent and husband/wife you can possibly be the rest of the time. Parenthood allows for so little personal time, taking a day off is an honour which you should earn.
3. Be absolutely sure you want, nay need, to trip. There is nothing worse than realising you want to be with your family while swirling in tripland, being utterly unable to hold your child or feel comfortable around the ones you love.
4. For the most part spend the trip away from your partner and child as much as possible. I'd especially recommend starting the trip whilst they are out of the house - if they can be out for a minimum of the first two hours all the better. When Amy and the lad go to baby group for three hours is when I usually dose.
5. A continuation of the previous point, don't try to hold conversations with your partner until you are capable of doing so - it will only cause frustration in you and irritation in them. Remember that being around someone who is tripping can be exhausting, especially if you've got the exhausting task of looking after a child as well.
6. A further continuation, when you can talk coherently ease yourself back into conversing with your partner, you will want to jabber incessently which will tire them out or result in arguments. Give them breaks from you. Don't innundate your partner with a fragmented account of the day, ask them about their day.
7. You must not hold or carry your child until you are close enough to baseline that your judgement isn't impaired. When you do it will be delightful as it will feel like you haven't seen them for years.
8. MP3 player and headphones are a must - you can feel more in your own world, listen to whatever you want and won't disturb everyone else, especially if the baby is trying to sleep.
9. Stay fit and healthy, in order to trip and be a parent you will need all the energy you can possibly muster.
10. Don't trip for the first three months the child is around, you won't have the time and you won't want to.
-------------------- "You've got to get hold of the thread of marching time, pull the fuck thing down, get on the end of it and pang yourself to the infinitude of absolute mind" Ken Campbell - Furtive Nudist "The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced" - Aart van der Leeuw
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Fraggin
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Great points. Balance is essential when remaining a spiritual explorer and a 'good' parent.
I have also realized that sometimes when I trip, I become extremely grateful for my life and my family and I generally get the urge to hug everyone and tell them how much I love them, which in turn, generally detracts from the trip. So, I have learned to trip in isolation as much as possible and to put a post it note on the phone that says "Do NOT Call MOM!!!" For some reason, it always seems like a good idea to call my mom while tripping.
I trip less now that I have a child. Mostly because my time is his time, and what time I have away from my child is devoted to intimacy with the wife.
Since we both work, available time for luxury is hectic.
Taking a personal day to do the things you want to do is a great idea. I call it "Cheating on Work".
Another thing to think about is how you will get away with your grows as your child gets older...
Sure, you can trick them for a while and tell them you are growing plants, but as soon as they learn what a mushroom is, you don't want them telling the teacher at school that "Daddy grows mushrooms in the closet". Trust me, they will. Kids say things in public that you would only say in private.
I'd reccomend doing some bulk grows and storing them away to last a few years. I have used stored shrooms that were 3 years old successfully. So, I don't think they really lose that much potencey over time if dried and stored propery.
Good points. Good points....
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awesome. i will reference this when it becomes usefull. Which i hope is a LOOOOOOOOONG way off 
Thanxs for the tips man.
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theorganicdomino
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Re: Rules for the tripping parent [Re: Fraggin]
#7955012 - 01/30/08 10:33 AM (16 years, 2 days ago) |
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Fraggin said: I trip less now that I have a child. Mostly because my time is his time, and what time I have away from my child is devoted to intimacy with the wife.
Totally agree with this, I used to trip every month, now I'm thinking 4-6 times a year.
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Fraggin said: Taking a personal day to do the things you want to do is a great idea. I call it "Cheating on Work".
LOL I call it alternative use of potential sick leave.
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Fraggin said: Another thing to think about is how you will get away with your grows as your child gets older...
That is truly something I'm thinking about now that he's on the verge of walking. We have a spare room which I think will be locked.
Good to know that there are other parents on the board who truly care about both parenting and tripping.
-------------------- "You've got to get hold of the thread of marching time, pull the fuck thing down, get on the end of it and pang yourself to the infinitude of absolute mind" Ken Campbell - Furtive Nudist "The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced" - Aart van der Leeuw
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Fraggin
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theorganicdomino said: Good to know that there are other parents on the board who truly care about both parenting and tripping.
I think that tripping has taught me a lot about how to a better parent.
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theorganicdomino
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Re: Rules for the tripping parent [Re: Fraggin]
#7955050 - 01/30/08 10:48 AM (16 years, 2 days ago) |
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Fraggin said: I think that tripping has taught me a lot about how to a better parent.
I would absolutely agree on that. The first trip I had after our son was born was both daunting and beautiful. I saw how a lot of my priorities had shifted or completely changed.
Tripping helps you find the balances you need to make in being a parent and fitting everything else in.
-------------------- "You've got to get hold of the thread of marching time, pull the fuck thing down, get on the end of it and pang yourself to the infinitude of absolute mind" Ken Campbell - Furtive Nudist "The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced" - Aart van der Leeuw
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I actually increased my tripping frequency lately, but that's because I found a new bunch of people to do it with elsewhere. Other than that, I like to trip alone at home, but that's reduced to about 4 times a year these days. I like to be completely alone since I like to do pretty high doses, so I usually wait until the wife can take the kids out of the house for at least one night.
On a side note, heavy tripping is what made me want to be a parent in the first place, initially being completely hostile to the very idea. Helped me solve some issues and open up my heart.
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theorganicdomino
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Re: Rules for the tripping parent [Re: Aldous]
#7955610 - 01/30/08 01:35 PM (16 years, 2 days ago) |
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It was during a trip I knew I was ready for fatherhood.
My wife had the realisation after a beautiful salvia experience.
-------------------- "You've got to get hold of the thread of marching time, pull the fuck thing down, get on the end of it and pang yourself to the infinitude of absolute mind" Ken Campbell - Furtive Nudist "The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced" - Aart van der Leeuw
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itsthedank
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And they say drug users are bad people...pffft!
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Re: Rules for the tripping parent [Re: itsthedank]
#7956446 - 01/30/08 04:40 PM (16 years, 2 days ago) |
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Excellent rules
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