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Virus_with_Shoes
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Need some insight regarding a girl I know...
#7933406 - 01/26/08 01:48 AM (16 years, 6 days ago) |
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Alright fellow shroomerites, I wonder if you can help bring me some clarity with this one... There's this girl I know from the city I used to live in and we had a fling. I told her I was not interested in a relationship while I was living there and rather a sort of friends with benefits arrangement and I don't think she took this quite well but wanted to see me in spite of it. A few times she came to visit me in the other city I moved to and we hooked up and had a nice time. However, the last time I drove her back from former city to current city with a few friends of mine she met one of my other friends and apparently became infatuated with said friend.
The last time she came to visit my city she set up a few meetings with my friend and my friend was very cautious and asked me if I minded if he tried to score with her. I told him I didn't mind if he tried to bang her, which I didn't and she tried to hide the fact that she was going to see him. However, the weird thing is this girl, who I'm sensing is harboring some passive aggressive sentiment towards me for not wanting to be her boyfriend wanted to see me to have some sex the next night after she hung out with my friend (and had sex with him, which I suspected and later confirmed).
I didn't get back to her when she called me the next day to hook up because I felt uncomfortable with the situation and haven't spoken to her since. My friend and I have since hung out and we're, as always, on very amicable terms.
Does this strike anyone else as bizarre that she would want to see me the night after she fucked one of my best friends?
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Virus_with_Shoes]
#7933621 - 01/26/08 03:07 AM (16 years, 6 days ago) |
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That's called a whore, but as long as you aren't looking to love the bitch I say have some fun. I had a blast before I got married. It had been 5 yrs since I fucked anyone so when I got out I started hitting the clubs and found myspace was a great way to hook up too. Though I did meet a psycho who almost got me arrested....but the ratio of good to bad is 4:1 at least so it was fun. Now I love my wife so hers will be the last pussy I ever touch.
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: rizingfire]
#7933824 - 01/26/08 06:59 AM (16 years, 6 days ago) |
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Thanks for the input, rizing. Yeah I guess it just was a little upsetting that a chick would try to play me while she was ostensibly posing as a friend. Just seems a little vindictive to me.
On a positive note, I'm meeting up with this girl soon that I met while living in Europe though. That's gonna be a blast
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rizingfire
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Virus_with_Shoes]
#7933829 - 01/26/08 07:02 AM (16 years, 6 days ago) |
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Virus, all I can say is that without even knowing you I can still say, you can do better. There are plenty of fish in the sea and some are beautiful and greatfull just to have someone. Betrayal sucks but we live and learn.
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: rizingfire]
#7933842 - 01/26/08 07:12 AM (16 years, 6 days ago) |
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Definitely starting to feel better.
Congrats on meeting your wife, man. I'd imagine it being great to be in love like that... did you meet her via Myspace? Maybe I've been avoiding that site at my own detriment?
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Virus_with_Shoes]
#7940531 - 01/27/08 02:27 PM (16 years, 5 days ago) |
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Girls play games man they try and play on your emotions to get what they want... dont let them
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: mycould]
#7942102 - 01/27/08 07:10 PM (16 years, 5 days ago) |
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Yeah man, I can't take the manipulation and scheming. It's not like you can't tell when they're doing it either. Wouldn't it be great if we were all able to be up front and honest with each other?
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Virus_with_Shoes]
#7953093 - 01/29/08 09:39 PM (16 years, 3 days ago) |
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Wait, wait wait. You said it was a "no strings attached" sort of thing right? Well if she has the same arrangement with your buddy where is the betrayal?
Are you saying that while the two of you are seeing each other in this "friends with benefits" type thing and you had the chance to have sex with some girl you found immensely attractive you wouldn't do it for this girl's sake?
I gotta say, if you have made it obvious to her that you don't want to be her boyfriend but do want to screw whenever it's convenient then to be perfectly honest, it's none of your business what she is doing with whom.
Just use condoms. Maybe she called you up the next night because he didn't satisfy her and she knows you can.
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: mushbaby]
#7953169 - 01/29/08 09:52 PM (16 years, 3 days ago) |
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Quote:
mushbaby said: Wait, wait wait. You said it was a "no strings attached" sort of thing right? Well if she has the same arrangement with your buddy where is the betrayal?
Are you saying that while the two of you are seeing each other in this "friends with benefits" type thing and you had the chance to have sex with some girl you found immensely attractive you wouldn't do it for this girl's sake?
I gotta say, if you have made it obvious to her that you don't want to be her boyfriend but do want to screw whenever it's convenient then to be perfectly honest, it's none of your business what she is doing with whom.
Just use condoms. Maybe she called you up the next night because he didn't satisfy her and she knows you can.
I see what you're saying but the thing that really rubbed me the wrong way was that it had to be one of my best friends. Had it been anyone else there obviously would have been no weirdness or conflict but it felt very uncomfortable when it got that close. I know she would have felt the same way if I'd had sex with her best friend or roommate for instance.
It just struck me as a somewhat manipulative thing for her to do. We haven't spoken since so it clearly was her way of saying "fuck you" in just the passive aggressive capacity I know her to operate in.
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Virus_with_Shoes]
#7953224 - 01/29/08 09:59 PM (16 years, 3 days ago) |
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Well that's totally possible.
One thing I'm pretty sure at this point she has given up on having a relationship with you. She sure sabotauged it well enough.
If you weren't in love with her anyway I'd just let it go. Chalk it up to a learning experience.
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: mushbaby]
#7953271 - 01/29/08 10:03 PM (16 years, 3 days ago) |
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I'm pretty over it at the moment and am feeling pretty decent about myself again. Like you said I've chalked it up to experience. Just wanted to bounce it off my friends here at the shroomery and see if I was overreacting or if she was in fact being a manipulative psychowhore.
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#7961594 - 01/31/08 06:54 PM (16 years, 1 day ago) |
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Re: Need some insight regarding a girl I know... [Re: Kojemondus]
#7961619 - 01/31/08 06:59 PM (16 years, 1 day ago) |
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Umm... no. That's bullshit.
To the OP: You're right, she was probably just being a manipulative psychowhore. She probably felt hurt or slighted by you and decided to be a jerk about it. Don't let it get to you.
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