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luckycharnes
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Fixin my interpersonal flaws.
#7916963 - 01/22/08 08:30 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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Recently, I've been, maybe for the first time in my life, taking a close look at my flaws. Not just seeing them and ignoring them, but really, really examining them and FEELING them. Turns out I'm not really THAT cool or smart. (Yet, still cooler than most) Regardless, damn, what a humbling feeling.
Feels good to realize what a stupid human I really am. What a relief. Now I dont have to worry, just to live.
I need advice on patience and picking my battles.
How NOT to sweat the small shit.
-------------------- "something funny" "something profound"
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: luckycharnes]
#7917026 - 01/22/08 08:40 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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Well, I think I will need much more data in order to tell you what to do. What do you mean by "picking your battles"?
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luckycharnes
I'm a SativaCyborg



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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7917052 - 01/22/08 08:46 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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Swallowing little annoyances. I have a tendency to make sure everyone around me knows EVERYTHING that bothers me, no matter how insignificant. I suppose it's trouble with letting things go.
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ChiefGreenLeaf

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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: luckycharnes]
#7917117 - 01/22/08 08:57 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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How do you have trouble letting go, you live in humbolt
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: luckycharnes]
#7917482 - 01/22/08 09:46 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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luckycharnes said: Swallowing little annoyances. I have a tendency to make sure everyone around me knows EVERYTHING that bothers me, no matter how insignificant. I suppose it's trouble with letting things go.
I think you need to keep digging. Look deeper. Why and WHAT don't you wanna let go? I think it's the need to feel important. The need to make others know that you are important and the need to have others admit to that. I am not judging you. I am only being honest. I needed to clarify that if I sounded too harsh. Look at your life, look at how you got this feeling that you are important. Perhaps you were spoiled as a child, perhaps you had some tough moments in which what saved you was the idea that you are important. These are only examples, but you can use them as pointers to finding what's causing you all this anxiety.
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WhiskeyClone
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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: luckycharnes]
#7918969 - 01/23/08 07:31 AM (16 years, 9 days ago) |
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luckycharnes said:
I need advice on patience and picking my battles.
How NOT to sweat the small shit.
^^^^ This is a very useful skill. If I never spent time developing it I would have killed myself long ago. People waste entire lifetimes obsessing over insignificant things. This book helped me: http://www.amazon.com/Sweat-Small-Stuff-small-stuff/dp/0786881852
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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mosspatch
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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#7919032 - 01/23/08 08:04 AM (16 years, 9 days ago) |
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Recently, I've been, maybe for the first time in my life, taking a close look at my flaws. Not just seeing them and ignoring them, but really, really examining them and FEELING them. Turns out I'm not really THAT cool or smart. (Yet, still cooler than most) Regardless, damn, what a humbling feeling.
self realization is part of growing up, aging, becoming more wise. one must break himself down before he can be rebuilt. this is a good thing. it's important to your maturation throughout your adulthood and is common to occur several times at different times in your life. embrace it.
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BrainChemistry
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Re: Fixin my interpersonal flaws. [Re: mosspatch]
#7932581 - 01/25/08 10:44 PM (16 years, 7 days ago) |
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I've been going through some similar self-examination issues myself recently. What i've learned is that its not a bad thing at all. Once you can come to terms with yourself, and the fact that your simply human and that YES you do have some problems, like everybody else, it doesn't feel so bad. Then you can finally start figuring out why you have these problems and what you can do to fix them. When you start feeling down, the best thing to remember is that no matter what you tell yourself, or what someone else tells you, your doing OK. You're always doing OK, and you'll always be yourself. You wouldn't care so much about trying to fix yourself if you weren't OK on the inside. Remember that, it helps.
-------------------- Word to your mom.
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