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wearejellyfish
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so does sex slow down after a certain amount of time? meaning, since we've been having sex basically everyday for three months.. it never seems to be really intimate anymore and i just found out that he's usually not in the mood. but he thought i wanted to sex it up. which i just told him that if he's not in the mood that we don't have to because i want it to be enjoyable. though, it always seemed like he was in the mood. i don't know. maybe we just need to slow down.
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NiamhNyx
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Sounds like slowing down might be worth a shot. If you have sex every day I imagine it probably isn't very fresh or exciting anymore. Sometimes partners have different levels of sex drive and then you just have to figure out a compromise.
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being in a 1.5 yr relationship, we had sex about everyday in the beginning aswell. now im just up for it like twice a week or so, it gets old (with the same partner that is)
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It just depends on the person. In my last relationship, for the first few months I was having sex everyday as well, but it eventually slowed down. My girlfriend didn't have the same sex drive anymore, but I sure did. I'm always ready to go and I don't think I have ever not been in the mood. Oh well I guess everyone is different.
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After dating for 4 years, getting married, being married for 4 years and having a child.....
We used to be like bunnies, now we're at 3 times a week. Granted, life is more hectic, but sometimes its nice to be intimate without sex.
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LeftyBurnz
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my fiance and i have been together about a year and a half now, we started out like nymphos, but that was probably because we had both gone without sex for close to a year before we got together, just alot of sexual tension built up, id say after about 2 months we both decided it would be wise to slow down to about 2-3 times a week(were doing it 7+ times a week). this way it wouldnt lose meaning or sensitivity.
my last relationship was mostly sexual, and i hated it. i mean at first i loved it because i was young and full of hormones(still are, but i ration them more now lol) we had sex all the time(we were together 3 years) id say for the first year i couldnt get enough sex, but after that it started losing significance, it took longer to finish and then after year 2 id say i just plain lost interest. partly due to the fact of who she was turning into and such, but a good part of it was that sex became mechanical.
now that we let it build up for a few days, its much better. more enjoyable and more satisfying.
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Quote:
wearejellyfish said: so does sex slow down after a certain amount of time? meaning, since we've been having sex basically everyday for three months.. it never seems to be really intimate anymore and i just found out that he's usually not in the mood. but he thought i wanted to sex it up. which i just told him that if he's not in the mood that we don't have to because i want it to be enjoyable.
though, it always seemed like he was in the mood. i don't know. maybe we just need to slow down.
Time to cuddle and play around. My girlfriend and I like to talk philosophy in bed. What I'm saying is have some non-sexual personal interaction and just play without goals. This creates closeness and bonding. If you find you don't have much to talk about that is not a good sign for your long range plans together.
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wearejellyfish
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things have been going well.
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I think a lot of it, is being comfortable with rejecting each other, once in a while, for a lack of a better term. I know personally, I had hang ups for a while, about saying no when my boyfriend wanted sex. I would feel like I wasnt pleasing him. On the same note, I would feel silly when he wasnt in the mood. Once I learned to get over that, our sex life evened out, and every time we have sex we're BOTH REALLY in the mood. Which makes it always wonderful.
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