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freddurgan
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Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors
#7906697 - 01/20/08 06:10 PM (16 years, 12 days ago) |
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I don't really get it. I will do any and everything to a girl but when it comes to receiving any kind of sexual favor I'm just really uncomfortable. I also tend to avoid actual intercourse. I think I'm just freaking out over the pressure not to come.
Any help?
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: freddurgan]
#7906731 - 01/20/08 06:17 PM (16 years, 12 days ago) |
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Hmmm I think the problem is that you don't really feel comfortable in your own body, so I think you should focus on that. Start walking naked around the house, and basically anything that makes you feel comfortable with yourself. And just enjoy, pass beyond the inhibitions just once, and you'll love it so much that you'll never consider going back to how it used to be.  Sex must be enjoyed by both partners.
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NiamhNyx
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: freddurgan]
#7906781 - 01/20/08 06:27 PM (16 years, 12 days ago) |
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Don't worry about coming too soon. It's not a big deal, most girls aren't going to think poorly of you, and the more practice you have the longer you'll last. If you come before she's ready, just help her out with a little oral support. It's great that you're an attentive lover who cares about her enjoyment. That is way more than can be said for a lot of guys so stop worrying so much about your performance!
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#7909168 - 01/21/08 11:08 AM (16 years, 11 days ago) |
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YidakiMan
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1) Squeeze out that easy one. 2) Come early and come often. 3) Profit?
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SneezingPenis
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: YidakiMan]
#7910058 - 01/21/08 03:18 PM (16 years, 11 days ago) |
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the only ex I am still good friends with, who was/is a borderline nympho once said to me, after I apologized for coming to early during a 2-3 minute long closet romp at some party, "sometimes a girl just wants to feel some dick inside her, it isnt always about coming". I love that girl...
it is up to the girl if they are going to get a vaginal orgasm (as opposed to a clitoral one). If a girl cant get off within 10 minutes, as long as it isnt painful, sloppy or dry sex, it is no different than a guy getting limpdick... some sort of mental blockage rather than a lack of proper physical stimulus. A guy can be told taht his entire family and dog were raped and killed, and 3 minutes later be coming from a good blowjob. we are physical and visual, girls are all mental. they want to "please" you just as much as you want to please them, and they get the same euphoric feeling as they lie in the wake of your post-coital sigh of contentedness and relaxation. Any girl that has had a few feet of cumulative dick in her knows that you cant go into every game expecting a grand slam... in conclusion I think that women enjoy getting dicked, and an orgasm is a great added bonus that might get you a sandwich or a morning blowjob.
so just remember that "sometimes a girl just wants to feel some dick inside her".
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: SneezingPenis]
#7910349 - 01/21/08 04:24 PM (16 years, 11 days ago) |
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I think the main reason why men cum so quickly, is because of one idea that has been indoctrinated into our minds from a young age.
The thought being - that men offer little in comparison to women when it comes to sex.
Generally it is women, spirits using a female body, who are believed to be giving out sex and men receiving.
This is why we get inequalities, especially in regards to orgasmic upheavels, because women have a hard time believing they are getting anything, when they know deep down they are and men get over excited when women BEGIN to believe they are actually getting something from the man.
Think about the observation that arises from looking at the world through this belief, when confronted with a man who has sex with just about any person that comes their way, as opposed to a women who has sex with just about anyman that comes her way.
The outcome is another blatant inequality - the women is deemed a slut, whore, unrespectable and the man is deemed a player, a dog, a ladies man even. Though times are changing the predominant belief has not changed...and from personal experience this is all that stood before my desire to make my friend orgasm before or with me.
Ive been able to acheive it. Both extremes, sometimes i dont cum for a long as time and she orgasms before, sometimes i orgasm before yet increasingly rarer, im more bound now to over do coaching myself through what is real and fake....but now ive been finding myself and her orgasm at the same time.
This is the best thing really.
I suggest taking a long look in the mental mirror and understand where this fear is coming from and work with yourself with the understanding that it isnt YOU who is fucking it up, but a thought that is.
Practically - envision that her vagina and your penis is one thing, feel the vibrations coming from her and express every emotion freely and verbally!!!
AHHHHHH OOOO YEEEAGHHH OMGGGOOOD !
hehehe. fun stuff.
peace and love every-part-of-the-one.
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: freddurgan]
#7910994 - 01/21/08 06:17 PM (16 years, 11 days ago) |
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A lot of girls don't come from penetration anyways, so it doesn't matter if you last 5 minutes or an hour, it's always best to have more tricks in your bag and to be attentive.
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SneezingPenis
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: NiamhNyx]
#7911637 - 01/21/08 07:48 PM (16 years, 11 days ago) |
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when in doubt, drysmash the shitbox.
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Re: Weird hangups about receiving sexual favors [Re: SneezingPenis]
#7916939 - 01/22/08 08:26 PM (16 years, 10 days ago) |
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Well soooome girls, like myself, would say that if a guys comes right away, or soon...then he's ENJOYING himself. If you have no problem pleasing her, then let her please you. No matter how long or short it takes. Does your "freakout" have physical effects?
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