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blkjkrabbit

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girl can't take a hint or i can't???
#7883983 - 01/15/08 03:24 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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ok, this is bothering me. there's a girl i like who's been coming over to my house for the last 2 weeks straight just hanging out and drinking every night. i'm shy, and i don't make moves unless i'm pretty sure we have some sort of connection. the problem is she makes it seem like she wants to hang out with me but she ends up hanging out with other dudes and going home with them doing god knows what. but she texts me randomly through the day so i get really confused like, why the fuck do you show interest in me when you clearly have none? i just can't pretend she gives a fuck at all because then it'll lead to exactly what i was trying to avoid, just more heartache. i feel like she's either just trying to be a genuine friend or doesn't know when to leave a dude alone. and i hate the friend zone, so i'd rather never be in it and go on about my way.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit] 1
#7883988 - 01/15/08 03:25 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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sounds like she's using you for your pad and alcohol
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7883994 - 01/15/08 03:26 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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youre better off without entering the friend zone. I have plenty of chicks like that in my life and they will use the shit out of you by only talking to you or showing any interest when they dont have boyfriends and as soon as they get one it's the backseat for you. I say fuckem.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: demiu5]
#7883997 - 01/15/08 03:27 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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pretty much man, and i know it. it goes back to my thread about realizing you're a tool.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: demiu5]
#7884003 - 01/15/08 03:28 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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well first of all i would have to say that she is probably wondering why you havent made the move to screw her yet. i mean you said she comes to your house chills and drinks. if you dont want anything to do with her just tell her. otherwise she is going to get the impression (if she hasnt already) that she can use you. and that's exactly what shes going to do. dude, seriously..do something about this.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884005 - 01/15/08 03:28 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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kick her out, in a nice way.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: Jack Albertson]
#7884014 - 01/15/08 03:29 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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ts727 said: youre better off without entering the friend zone. I have plenty of chicks like that in my life and they will use the shit out of you by only talking to you or showing any interest when they dont have boyfriends and as soon as they get one it's the backseat for you. I say fuckem.
that's exactly where i see this shit heading. fuck that
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: AlteredAgain]
#7884025 - 01/15/08 03:31 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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hit it
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: trent]
#7884027 - 01/15/08 03:31 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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trent said: well first of all i would have to say that she is probably wondering why you havent made the move to screw her yet. i mean you said she comes to your house chills and drinks. if you dont want anything to do with her just tell her. otherwise she is going to get the impression (if she hasnt already) that she can use you. and that's exactly what shes going to do. dude, seriously..do something about this.
-real talk
it's getting weird though man because I made out with her the first night she came to my house and now she's been coming over every night for the longest time and leaving me messages n shit. But I get the impression she's not sticking around confused I won't make a move, it's more likely she just sticks around to drink my booze and fuck other dudes.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884036 - 01/15/08 03:32 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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dude, if you made out with her on the first nite, then you've been dragging your feet for the last two weeks
i'm pretty bad with girls, but even that is obvious to me
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884040 - 01/15/08 03:33 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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and this whole time i thought you were a chick.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: trent]
#7884047 - 01/15/08 03:35 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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yeah but we were both pretty drunk dude, and i've made out with a lot of drunk chicks - it's neither hard, nor special, nor remarkable in any way - except that this chick is probably the best kisser i've had i will give her that.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: demiu5]
#7884048 - 01/15/08 03:35 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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I'm with demius on this. Man up, it seems like she probably wants it.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884051 - 01/15/08 03:35 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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just imagine how she'll kiss you dick
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: impgl]
#7884064 - 01/15/08 03:38 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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I'll probably be letting her know what's up either way tonight for better or worse. Thanks for the advice guys. I think I unconsciously sort of let this tension build by not making my intentions clear or something, and I think she can feel it to. She's been calling/texting me a lot more lately.
Edited by blkjkrabbit (01/15/08 03:42 PM)
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: AlteredAgain]
#7884085 - 01/15/08 03:41 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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AlteredAgain said: kick her out, in a nice way.
*Rude way.
Doing it in a nice way does one of two things, if not both.
A) They think you're being a douchebag any way, so fuck 'em, they wanna use you then you have every right to be rude. B) They don't get the point and will continue on trying to use you, or use other dudes in the future.
I have no sympathy for girls like this.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884088 - 01/15/08 03:42 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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just make sure to get her really drunk and opiated and take her to the basement, so even if she does manage to say no, nobody else'll hear her
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: jewunit]
#7884091 - 01/15/08 03:42 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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After actually reading the whole thread, don't take my advice. Unless of course you find out she really isn't interested. Then take my advice.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: jewunit]
#7884150 - 01/15/08 03:49 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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I would try to be nice about it, letter know that what she is doing is not sitting well with you. If it progresses beyond that, politely say that you feel she is using you.
Give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she likes you as a friend, and possibly more. She may not feel that she is using you unless you say something to her.
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Re: girl can't take a hint or i can't??? [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7884438 - 01/15/08 04:43 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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Most women want to know you want them even if they have no intention of taking that any further.
You may as well hit on her and see what happens.
If she was just playing then you'll get over it quick enuf. If she wants more then cud be the start of a relationship.
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