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Matters of the heart
#7877309 - 01/14/08 08:04 AM (16 years, 18 days ago) |
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Well, I went out with this amazing girl this weekend. We spent the whole day together and I totally dig her. I have known her for a few months as she was a student of mine (guitar), and we have gone out twice now. Problem is, I really, really like this girl but I am moving to the other side of the country in 10 days. I haven't been able to stop thinking about her for like a month now and it is really getting to me.
I am wondering if I should tell her how I feel about her regardless of the fact that I am moving. I know that nothing can come of this relationship (at this point in time anyway), but I have dated a lot of girls and have never liked one this much. There is just something about her that sings to me...
Should I put myself out there and let her know how I feel? Despite the fact that I am moving? What do you think?

EDIT: OOOOooohhh.... 1000 posts...
Edited by Quoiyaien (01/14/08 08:16 AM)
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Re: Matters of the heart [Re: Quoiyaien]
#7877359 - 01/14/08 08:30 AM (16 years, 18 days ago) |
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Definitely don't move without telling her how you feel. You'll regret it. That being said you should make it clear to her you don't necessarily want to get involved in a long-distance relationship, but that you just couldn't bear leaving without saying these things to her first.
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Quote:
OneLessForeskin said: Definitely don't move without telling her how you feel. You'll regret it. That being said you should make it clear to her you don't necessarily want to get involved in a long-distance relationship, but that you just couldn't bear leaving without saying these things to her first.
I sort of disagree. Being honest about one's feelings is important to me; but it's also important to consider the other person's life situation. I would personally be devastated to learn all of a sudden that someone I was interested in, who was moving across the country, had strong feelings for me. That may not go for everyone, but in my opinion learning something like that leads to suffering in the form of dwelling on what could have been.
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Re: Matters of the heart [Re: Lion]
#7877403 - 01/14/08 08:44 AM (16 years, 18 days ago) |
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See, thats where I'm torn. I agree with both of your posts and that is causing me great confusion.
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Re: Matters of the heart [Re: Quoiyaien]
#7884314 - 01/15/08 04:17 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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Well, I have decided against it. Last thing I need to do is invest my heart into someone who is on the other side of the country. Maybe someday we'll meet up again, but I'd rather just leave it at the good time we had on saturday, instead of turning it into some long, drawn out heartbreak.
I'll be over it in a day or two... but I'm spending tonight with my good buddy cognac. 
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Re: Matters of the heart [Re: Quoiyaien]
#7884427 - 01/15/08 04:41 PM (16 years, 17 days ago) |
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If I were you I would tell her. If she likes you too, she will feel sad that you leave anyways. Maybe even more sad, I know for sure that I would feel worse if it happened like this. What do you have to lose? Who knows what might occur in the future, who knows what opportunities will arise for you two to be together? I think it's definitely worth a shot. I've learned that following your heart, even if it seems more difficult in certain situations, is the only way to remain balanced and perceptive. You can also consider it an exercise of will and honesty.
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