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freddurgan
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Goodbye my friend =(
#7871756 - 01/13/08 12:17 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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This is bothering me a lot more than I thought it was. Danny was my best friend since middle school. I didn't see him as much when I was in college but still some. Around sophomore year he started getting a little weird but he was still around. I heard stories of him doing meth but I don't know if they were true. The signs are all there..
Anyway, I went and visited him about a year ago and I could tell something was very wrong. I was pretty sure he was heavily medicated and going off the deep end but I didn't bring it up explicitly. I didn't see him again until two days ago and my suspicions were confirmed, painfully. He's just a shell now. He only really responds to yes or no questions, and he's vague about it. "I go out...when I want to go out..", "I do...things, when I want to do them.."
If I ask specific questions he just doesn't say a word. We took a long walk around his neighborhood and it was just me talking. I suppose we could have walked in total silence but I was just trying to get a grip on the situation.
By the end of the walk I wasn't even convinced he knew who we was talking to. There was nothing that related to me in anything he said. He could have been talking to anyone with his replies.
But it's weird. He was dressed really well..finally got himself a good sense of fashion. Only took him 11 years Had his hair done up well.
It didn't make any sense. I don't know if he's just gone or if maybe it's medication..I just couldn't get anything out of him. I don't even know if he CAN answer me.
I miss my friend =(
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: freddurgan]
#7871886 - 01/13/08 12:44 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Has he been seeing medical professionals? If so, what do they say about this?
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Acyl
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: freddurgan]
#7871894 - 01/13/08 12:46 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Maybe he just changed?
What sort of medication is he on?
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: Acyl]
#7872104 - 01/13/08 01:35 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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this is sort of frightening.
have you spoke to anyone who actually knows what went down?
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freddurgan
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: igwna]
#7872156 - 01/13/08 01:56 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Nobody has talked to him recently but me. The only person I could possibly talk to is his mom and she's close to as crazy as he is now. I have no idea if he's seeing any medical professionals. He needs to be committed =( I also don't know what kind of medication he is on, or if he's even on medication. It's not possible to get that kind of information out of him.
I hope he's on medication. Maybe that means my friend is still in there somewhere.
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: freddurgan]
#7872164 - 01/13/08 01:59 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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sounds all too much like a person/people i know.
the not talking thing and the seclusion. its hard to watch a freind rot liek that
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: notapillow]
#7872196 - 01/13/08 02:23 AM (16 years, 20 days ago) |
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Being on his end of it sucks, I've been there sort of (though not that extreme).
My friends tried and tried to get me out of my house to go do things after I decided I wanted to drop from society and just said "fuck everything, I don't need this shit. I'll just sit in my room and do drugs etc. I don't need friends"
I am no longer the person I was once, and that can either be a good thing or a bad thing I'm still trying to figure it out.
Got put on medications of all kinds that stole my personality from me and continued to push me inward socially until my head was a safe haven to keep all of the unwanted experiences, emotions, and people from the past. I just withdrew into myself basically...
Sounds like your friend just needs to get back with it, and maybe you could help him 
I know I've wished people would help me with my problems, but when they do I deny them and keep going the way I am going. Keep trying man, maybe its just a cry for help. That cant really be the way he is, the person you once knew is buried deep under the surface. Finding him again is the tricky part, but don't give up on him. You'll find him again one day as long as you don't give up on him first.
Edited by Ombient (01/13/08 11:56 AM)
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: Robo]
#7872335 - 01/13/08 04:04 AM (16 years, 19 days ago) |
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That sounds almost exactly like the path I seem to be heading down. Hm interesting..
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: Acyl]
#7872422 - 01/13/08 05:56 AM (16 years, 19 days ago) |
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At least he looked good, amirite?
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: deXtrous]
#7872552 - 01/13/08 08:00 AM (16 years, 19 days ago) |
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Im sure trying to make him look good was just a feeble attempt by some passerby in his life that was trying making him feel better about himself
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: Acyl]
#7872676 - 01/13/08 09:08 AM (16 years, 19 days ago) |
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I had a friend, addicted to meth, who acted the same. But we left him, and he came to us. He learned.
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Re: Goodbye my friend =( [Re: freddurgan]
#7872724 - 01/13/08 09:35 AM (16 years, 19 days ago) |
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Well, he's not dead, he's just different & you don't know how to handle it. Don't expect the relationship you used to have, that may be gone forever. But if you really ever considered him a friend, monitor his behavior from a few steps back & live your life. It's not up to you to babysit him, however I can understand the feeling of needing to make sure he doesn't lose it completely.
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