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should I ask her again?
#7853397 - 01/09/08 12:37 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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So there is this girl I like, I had a free pass for a comedy club that can be used for 2 people any of the set times on the ticket. I asked her out, she said "well I usually have to work" so I told her there is options of what day to go etc, so she said she would have to check her schedule. I told her I would send her a message on myspace letting her know what shows are available (provided link to the website with the schedule)
she hasn't responded at all. I am just assuming right now that she is not interested in dating me (she probably has better options anyway) I don't feel right about asking her if shes made any decision because I don't want to be a pushy creep.
there is some chance she is just as scared about it as I am, it kind of seems that way when I talk to her in person and maybe she does see me as dateable, but should I ask her again or leave her alone? For the record we get a long and she is nice to me and says hi when she sees me.
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If you ask her again you will look desperate/lame/creepy. Don't do it.
As I see it there are two options now:
1. Don't invite her to anything from now on but remain friendly and non-chalant.
2. Invite her along on a group thing you're doing and make it seem like you're inviting her to be polite. For example, "Hey, there's a party going on at my buddy's house and we're trying to get a bunch of people over there". If there are other people involved in the social activity then your offer will seem neutral and non-sexual. Then you can try to worm your way into her pants later when a decent opportunity presents itself.
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Give it some time, push too hard and you might push her away, if she wants to she'll tell yeah.
worse comes to worse you just might have to find another girl to like, theres lots of fish in the sea.
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well, to preserve the possibility of dating her in the future, I would say no, don't ask again.
By asking again you force her into an uncomfortable situation if she doesn't want to.
If you don't ask again, you can casually bring it up next time you see her like, "What happened to going to the comedy club with me?"
I guess I probably shouldn't be giving dating advice because I'm definitely not an authority but hey, nobody else has replied yet so I'm giving you my dos pesos.
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if *anybody* on this site knows what it's like to be a creep - it's me
and I'll tell you straight up:
if you ask her again - yer pulling a muppet
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Jeebies]
#7853528 - 01/09/08 01:02 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I have basically been acting like I never asked her and have remained non-chalant. I feel like she goes out of her way to say hi to me and stuff.
I don't really understand why she would seem excited for me to send her the schedule on Myspace and then just ignore it. Why couldn't she just say shes not interested in dating me when I talked to her?
Maybe she never got the message?
Maybe she just want to get to know me better in a group setting?
Maybe she wants to but is as scared as I am?
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maybe she's just psychotic
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7853679 - 01/09/08 01:32 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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psychoticly nice?
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dont listen to randalflagg about this, ask her out again, i feel stupid 24/7 and peeps think i am in control..basically i am always the one who is in control.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Skunk420]
#7853734 - 01/09/08 01:44 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I wish I knew her better so I could feel comfortable doing that.
I would feel stupid asking her to meet for drinks when she works in a bar that she also drinks in. Her work schedule always coincides with the times that I am able to go there, and sometimes she gets off and hangs around.
We have some of the same acquaintances so maybe I should just hang around and see what develops. Maybe I am an option but haven't proved myself personality wise because of not knowing her that well.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: why_not_me]
#7853998 - 01/09/08 02:30 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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im always in control, because i only ask the bitch once.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: mycopsycho]
#7854048 - 01/09/08 02:38 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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just call her up and say you found someone else thats wanting to go, but you offered to her first and need to know
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: mycopsycho]
#7854054 - 01/09/08 02:39 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
Best motherfucking advice you will get on here.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: appleorange]
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appleorange said: cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7854070 - 01/09/08 02:42 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I think I had better just avoid her altogether.
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You could ask her with violence.
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Ask her, if theres no reply, leave her be, if she comes back to you, you might have something.
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Sounds like she's not interested. Generally, just saying hi is being nice. If she was into you, she'd rip your pants off and start sucking you off when she saw you.
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Cannabischarlie said: I think I had better just avoid her altogether.
lol, you don't have to avoid her. she just doesn't feel you that way. just act like how you always would around her and don't try to push for any more dates. if one day she starts to warm up to you and she's showing signs that she's got the hots for you, then go for it again.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: appleorange]
#7854265 - 01/09/08 03:23 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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She has already began warming up to me and going out of her way to talk to me.
honestly she almost seems to have a hard time talking to me, almost in a way that says "oh hes cute and likes me but I don't know what to do" manner.
I think she may have some interest but is weighing other options.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: appleorange]
#7854267 - 01/09/08 03:24 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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you probably shouldn't ask her again, it could come off as pushy if she's not interested. And as the other guy said, her response may have just been her letting you down nicely.
you mentioned that she worked at a bar and i'm assuming you go there. her saying 'hi' to you would probably not be a show of interest if you're a customer in her place of work. but i'm just assuming things.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7854280 - 01/09/08 03:25 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Muppet said:
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appleorange said: cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
Best motherfucking advice you will get on here.
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Leave her little notes everywhere. Call her but don't say anything. Stare at her in class and look away real quick when she notices. Also, tell all your friends you've already slept with her. 
Most of all. You've already lost any shot you had by obsessing.
Have a nice day!
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Essen]
#7854292 - 01/09/08 03:28 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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that was only one part of the response. It came off as genuinely an indication of truth rather than just a way to avoid me. She is a self described workaholic.
you kinda had to be there...
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Cowgold]
#7854299 - 01/09/08 03:29 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Yeah chics LOVE when they "catch" you looking at them. Girls, us guys catch glimpses of WAY more than you know, but when you catch us it's because we're doing it on purpose.
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I wont ask again, but I won't avoid. I just talked to her friend and she has her eye on someone and thats that. I don't know if it would be any different if she wasn't but I should really get to know her better before trying it again.
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Talking to her friends instead of her shows lack of confidence and desperatoin. She hears what you say to her friends anyways.
Save face and just be her friend.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Cowgold]
#7854351 - 01/09/08 03:38 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Yeah take our advice dude, stop digging the hole deeper!
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Newbie]
#7854693 - 01/09/08 04:35 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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there giggling in the bathroom as we speak, i know because i can hear them though the walls
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No, don't ask her again. That doesn't mean that nothing can happen between you but it does mean she doesn't want anything to happen at the moment.
Would you ignore her? Course not. The fact she ignored you says enough. If she was unsure then she would most likely say so.
Ignore = I don't wanna hurt you (no).
Be a friend, she may change her mind in the future but for now do not create a false attatchment.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#7854759 - 01/09/08 04:49 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Then you can try to worm your way into her pants later when a decent opportunity presents itself.

Cannabischarlie most girls won't respond to being asked out anyway. I've noticed they prefer for stuff to just happen. Then they rationalise it to themselves later.
You gotta get her in close friend mode and wait till the time is right. That moment where you both look at each other a bit to long. Makes them feel theres a deeper connection - thats when you go in for the kill. If you get a kiss then game on. If you fuck her - she's yours.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: dr_gonz]
#7854772 - 01/09/08 04:51 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Yeah, anybody prefers the moves to be done in person.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Ego Death]
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I didnt ask her on myspace assclowns, Cowgold, her friend is a freind of mine as well, we talk about stuff anyway. She is not the kind to go running to tell secrets in the bathroom. Speaking of which OUR friend claims that she is not really the type to ignore. There could be other reasons for this.
You guys are overthinking this worse than I am. I think a woman who is nice enough wouldn't go the route of ditching by ignoring and then come up and talk to me later, she would ditch me and ignore me in person as well, NOT make it a point to talk to me.
I could tell that the thought interested her, but I think she is exploring other options as well as the fact that she probably needs to know me better.
I won't press the issue now, and if I never think to ask again, oh well.
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Haha, so you asked for advice and responded to every single bit of advice with a reason for it being bad if you didn't think it was the right move. Why do people do this so often?
Good luck dude, seriously. Whatever you do I hope it works out.
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Haha your infatuated. Face it bro, we all been there.
You think cuz she make a point to talk to you that she hidin something yet she ignored u?
Nope. Thats all I say. NO.
Go ahead ask her again, then come back and tell us all we were right...
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: jewunit]
#7855682 - 01/09/08 07:40 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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not really, I should have been more specific about things and I think people misunderstand the situation. Mostly I was looking to see if more people where for or against re-asking.
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Actually, you didn't really turn down any advice you didn't agree with. It seems you just had reasons to go against EVERY piece of advice. In all honesty I'm confident you're the one over thinking this. Just fucking make a choice, and if it doesn't work out then oh well. People waste so much time worrying about what consequences will come with their actions that they miss out on so much shit, girls included.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: jewunit]
#7855718 - 01/09/08 07:44 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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Just grab those titties and take control. It actually works half the time, you'll bag the bitch with your assertiveness.
Why do you think girls always going out with the assholes?
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: jewunit]
#7855884 - 01/09/08 08:15 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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jewunit said: People waste so much time worrying about what consequences will come with their actions that they miss out on so much shit, girls included.
Smartest thing I've read in a while.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7856049 - 01/09/08 08:48 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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appleorange said: cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
Best motherfucking advice you will get on here.
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well that makes it official then, eh
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Cannabischarlie said: For the record we get a long and she is nice to me and says hi when she sees me.
If this woman was romantically or sexually interested in you she would do a lot more than say hi to you. Unless shes a shy girl. Some of these shy girls, my god, they wonder why the hell you haven't asked them out yet after all they've done is say hi to you and give a subdued smile. If she's not a shy girl then she would make sure you knew she was interested by her conversation and body language.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: BoneMan]
#7856551 - 01/09/08 10:20 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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thats just the point, she does a lot more than say hi to me.
I think she is possibly shy about the situation.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7856620 - 01/09/08 10:33 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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no way.
I think I will lay low and see what happens.
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Cannabischarlie said: no way.
I think I will lay low and see what happens.
there you go.
you also mentioned something about her friend saying she is the type that needs to be asked or pushed a lot. that makes no fucking difference. you do not need to be wasting your time with ditsy girls who are unsure of themselves and play games.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: appleorange]
#7856737 - 01/09/08 10:51 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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point well taken but I don't remember saying she was the type that needed to be asked or pushed?
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