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Cannabischarlie
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should I ask her again?
#7853397 - 01/09/08 12:37 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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So there is this girl I like, I had a free pass for a comedy club that can be used for 2 people any of the set times on the ticket. I asked her out, she said "well I usually have to work" so I told her there is options of what day to go etc, so she said she would have to check her schedule. I told her I would send her a message on myspace letting her know what shows are available (provided link to the website with the schedule)
she hasn't responded at all. I am just assuming right now that she is not interested in dating me (she probably has better options anyway) I don't feel right about asking her if shes made any decision because I don't want to be a pushy creep.
there is some chance she is just as scared about it as I am, it kind of seems that way when I talk to her in person and maybe she does see me as dateable, but should I ask her again or leave her alone? For the record we get a long and she is nice to me and says hi when she sees me.
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If you ask her again you will look desperate/lame/creepy. Don't do it.
As I see it there are two options now:
1. Don't invite her to anything from now on but remain friendly and non-chalant.
2. Invite her along on a group thing you're doing and make it seem like you're inviting her to be polite. For example, "Hey, there's a party going on at my buddy's house and we're trying to get a bunch of people over there". If there are other people involved in the social activity then your offer will seem neutral and non-sexual. Then you can try to worm your way into her pants later when a decent opportunity presents itself.
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Give it some time, push too hard and you might push her away, if she wants to she'll tell yeah.
worse comes to worse you just might have to find another girl to like, theres lots of fish in the sea.
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well, to preserve the possibility of dating her in the future, I would say no, don't ask again.
By asking again you force her into an uncomfortable situation if she doesn't want to.
If you don't ask again, you can casually bring it up next time you see her like, "What happened to going to the comedy club with me?"
I guess I probably shouldn't be giving dating advice because I'm definitely not an authority but hey, nobody else has replied yet so I'm giving you my dos pesos.
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if *anybody* on this site knows what it's like to be a creep - it's me
and I'll tell you straight up:
if you ask her again - yer pulling a muppet
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Jeebies]
#7853528 - 01/09/08 01:02 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I have basically been acting like I never asked her and have remained non-chalant. I feel like she goes out of her way to say hi to me and stuff.
I don't really understand why she would seem excited for me to send her the schedule on Myspace and then just ignore it. Why couldn't she just say shes not interested in dating me when I talked to her?
Maybe she never got the message?
Maybe she just want to get to know me better in a group setting?
Maybe she wants to but is as scared as I am?
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maybe she's just psychotic
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7853679 - 01/09/08 01:32 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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psychoticly nice?
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dont listen to randalflagg about this, ask her out again, i feel stupid 24/7 and peeps think i am in control..basically i am always the one who is in control.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Skunk420]
#7853734 - 01/09/08 01:44 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I wish I knew her better so I could feel comfortable doing that.
I would feel stupid asking her to meet for drinks when she works in a bar that she also drinks in. Her work schedule always coincides with the times that I am able to go there, and sometimes she gets off and hangs around.
We have some of the same acquaintances so maybe I should just hang around and see what develops. Maybe I am an option but haven't proved myself personality wise because of not knowing her that well.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: why_not_me]
#7853998 - 01/09/08 02:30 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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im always in control, because i only ask the bitch once.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: mycopsycho]
#7854048 - 01/09/08 02:38 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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just call her up and say you found someone else thats wanting to go, but you offered to her first and need to know
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: mycopsycho]
#7854054 - 01/09/08 02:39 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
Best motherfucking advice you will get on here.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: appleorange]
#7854060 - 01/09/08 02:40 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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appleorange said: cannabis, let me tell you something about women. all that "I have to work", or "I'm busy" stuff is ABSOLUTE BULLSHIT.
When women are interested in a man, they will drop everything or find a way to make time for him. Trust me. Even if they actually do have to work, they will ask if you wanna stop by on their lunch break or something.
She is letting you down nicely. Don't message her again on that myspace place about a date, just be nice to her when you bump in to her again. Let her come to you; she knows at least that you have some interest in her and let it stay at that.
Best motherfucking advice you will get on here.
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Re: should I ask her again? [Re: Muppet]
#7854070 - 01/09/08 02:42 PM (16 years, 23 days ago) |
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I think I had better just avoid her altogether.
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You could ask her with violence.
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Ask her, if theres no reply, leave her be, if she comes back to you, you might have something.
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Sounds like she's not interested. Generally, just saying hi is being nice. If she was into you, she'd rip your pants off and start sucking you off when she saw you.
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Quote:
Cannabischarlie said: I think I had better just avoid her altogether.
lol, you don't have to avoid her. she just doesn't feel you that way. just act like how you always would around her and don't try to push for any more dates. if one day she starts to warm up to you and she's showing signs that she's got the hots for you, then go for it again.
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