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PyroBurns
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Hard time not hating my brother.
#7820890 - 01/01/08 05:41 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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First off, I'll leave a little background:
I'm 20, and at home for winter break until I can get a job and go back to college.
He's 32, living at home in tons of debts with no real plans.
Now I think that it'd defeat the purpose of this topic if I listed everything about him that pisses me off, and that would probably take me a day anyway. But he does piss off the rest of my family too. Especially for the way he treats my mom (yelling at her for getting the wrong groceries, even though he isn't paying for them or for rent).
I've lost a brother before so I already know how horrible it is to lose a sibling. And to treat them with less respect than you could have. It still tears me up to this day. And the brother that annoys me has a bad medical condition too.
I've tried ignoring him. I've tried to just let him be. I've tried "giving him a chance". But he'll ALWAYS find a way to piss me off or let me down. ALWAYS. And I don't know what to do about it. Suggestions?
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Re: Hard time not hating my brother. [Re: PyroBurns]
#7820901 - 01/01/08 05:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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My best friend reminds me a lot of you, same deal basically.
My friend just minds his own business and treats his brother well. Whenever his brother pisses him off, he just reminds himself that he will be moving out soon and will not have to be dealing with this forever.
Just be optimistic and focus on your future and moving out. He won't be able to bug you forever.
*Peace
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Hard time not hating my brother. [Re: PyroBurns]
#7820935 - 01/01/08 05:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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He doesn't piss you off, you get pissed off by his behavior. Big difference. 
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Suggestions?
Realize that you can only change yourself and use your brother as a mirror to your own frustrations. You will soon realize that you only get annoyed at the things you need to work with yourself.
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PyroBurns
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Re: Hard time not hating my brother. [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7821124 - 01/01/08 06:43 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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MushroomTrip said: Realize that you can only change yourself and use your brother as a mirror to your own frustrations. You will soon realize that you only get annoyed at the things you need to work with yourself.
True, but there are a lot he does that would just piss anyone off. A lot of backstabbing, you know? And lying to try to shift the blame from the shitty choices he makes. And being pathetically addicted to weed.
But again, it's kind of going against this topic listing everything about him that sucks.
I guess I need to just ignore it, but I need to hang out sometimes. He's really lonely so I usually feel bad ditching him altogether. Even though he'll usually just piss me off.
Then I'm worried about his mental health. Just by spending an hour with him, it's so easy to see the painful world he built up for himself. I get really concerned that some day he'll snap, and either do something stupid and get locked up or kill himself. There's no way to talk to him about it either because he'll just vehemently deny it then act like you're a jerk. Our whole family is unsure on what to do about that.
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Re: Hard time not hating my brother. [Re: PyroBurns]
#7821161 - 01/01/08 06:52 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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If I were you I would just not pay attention to him anymore. It's easy to get sucked into someone's depressing world because these persons have developed an ability to get attention. So just mind your own life, stop feeling concerned about him, and he will soon lose interest in you.
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