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Ego Death
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Girls driving me insane
#7819319 - 01/01/08 08:55 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I am actually going insane.
I started to get close to this girl - I love her to bits, she's everything I could possibly want.
She's very friendly to me but when I sked her out she ignored me.
So I ignored her, for the sake of my own sanity cuz I couldn't stop thinking about her.
Now I seen her again. We spent the whole nite together just messing around - I mean getting drunk and a bit touchy feely but nothing more than that.
Now she's got back in my fucking head again. I'm spending all my time trying not to think about her.
Its ripping me apart cuz I know she likes me enuf to be very good friends and it could probably go further in the right situation but shes not gonna let it go further by me just asking her.
So I'm stuck in limbo going insane.
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Ego Death
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7819335 - 01/01/08 09:03 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think its different for females.
They can take there pick of any man. No man turns down a girl.
So they like to fuck with us. It makes them feel good knowing that they can have you. So they head fuck you to get you smitten and then go onto the next guy.
They are not bothered about sex cuz they can get it when ever they want, with who ever they want.
The don't need to worry about love either cause everyone loves them.
I think us males have a fucking bum deal.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7819347 - 01/01/08 09:12 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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dont walk into their games! figure deal me
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Ego Death
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Konyap]
#7819390 - 01/01/08 09:26 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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But it feels so fuckin good just to touch her.
She's got me cuz I don't want the games but I want to be with her, even just to sit by her. Sex wud be good but I'd be happy just to hold her forever.
I'm a sad soppy bastard.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7819461 - 01/01/08 09:54 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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eh, does this even sound like a girl you would want to be with?
Ironically, things have a way of working out when you begin to stop chasing them. Just start being happy and comfortable with your life as it is now. The rest will take care of itself
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Ego Death
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: appleorange]
#7819496 - 01/01/08 10:12 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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yes she is a girl I want to be with, I've never met a girl that has such similar ideas etc
Shes not even that physically attractive, its her personality that is most attractive.
I stopped chasing girls about 10 years ago and I havn't been with one since I stopped !!! Now I'm chasing again. I don't chase her anyway really, I asked her out - she ignored me, so I gave up on the idea...
But now she chills with me and I want to take it further but I don't think she does or else why ignore me when I ask her out. I think she just wants to be friends - I want to be friends too but I go insane thinking about her cuz I want to hold her and her to tell me I can hold her forever. Shes like a drug to me.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7819532 - 01/01/08 10:23 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ego,
If I was in your position, I woud just let go and be friends with her. At least this way, you get a good friend, and perhaps down the road she will develop feelings for you.
Just my two cents.
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Le_Canard
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7819719 - 01/01/08 11:27 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Ego Death said: I am actually going insane.
Girls will do that. They're very good at it, too.
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Veritas


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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Le_Canard]
#7819935 - 01/01/08 12:44 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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No one can drive you insane without your cooperation. The actions of others are neutral--we assign negative/positive qualities based upon what we deem desirable or undesirable.
The best way to cooperate in being driven insane is to attach your well-being to the actions of another. Hand over all your power, abdicate the throne of your own life, and invest yourself fully in the belief that you cannot be well unless this person likes you/loves you/gives you a job/invests in your start-up company/etc...
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7824058 - 01/02/08 02:58 PM (16 years, 30 days ago) |
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I have recently overcome my problem with girls. Here is what you do. Get drunk. That way it won't feel bad when you get rejected. Alcohol is a great way to strengthen the ego. Anyway, just go hang out and when things start to get really touchy stop and look at her for a sec. If you make eye contact and she smiles then move close enough for a kiss. By then she will either kiss you or you will kiss her. I would recommend the second option. Girls like to be swept away and you take charge. Well, good luck and peace
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Ego Death
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Almost got there on new years, no shit though I was being followed around by two male friends just waiting to pounce. They were obviously annoyed that I was getting on so well with this lady. She took me outside and I was gonna do that whole kiss thing then but they both followed like busy bees. I don't reckon she wud of dun it in front of them cuz we are all friends. Life is strange but we know how it works, its just a choice of going with it or against it...
Lol.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7824664 - 01/02/08 06:13 PM (16 years, 30 days ago) |
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your exactly right. if you keep hanging out with her then you will eventually get a chance. Just try to get it sooner rather then later. If you wait 3 months or so you will end up in the "just friends zone". Believe me I know from experience:(
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imagine
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What kind of friends are those? Theres a man-pact that they need to back the heck off if you're hanging with a girl like that. It's almost like a 6th sense.
Kick them to the curb.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: imagine]
#7826558 - 01/03/08 07:15 AM (16 years, 29 days ago) |
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imagine said: What kind of friends are those?
Kick them to the curb.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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Ego Death
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Thats debatable.
The majority of male "friends" I've ever had are like that though. Out of my hundreds of friends theres probably only one I could trust alone with a girl I was seeing.
So theres the choice, if I kicked them then I wouldn't have any male friends, lol!
It was quite funny to watch them squirm anyway. Usually they get all the attention while I am left out. So it was funny to watch them try to no avail 
I'm not a big believer in monogamy either, I don't think theres many people that want to stay with just one person their whole lives.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7826649 - 01/03/08 08:36 AM (16 years, 29 days ago) |
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Ego Death said: Thats debatable.
The majority of male "friends" I've ever had are like that though. Out of my hundreds of friends theres probably only one I could trust alone with a girl I was seeing.
So theres the choice, if I kicked them then I wouldn't have any male friends, lol!
That's discouraging. Meet more people!
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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Ego Death
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You have to know people for a long time before you know if they will past the girl test
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Konyap


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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ego Death]
#7827887 - 01/03/08 03:06 PM (16 years, 29 days ago) |
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thinkin bout uma and travolta in pulp fiction
quite a sticky situation there
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Bro, if you really want this girl, then you can have her. Guaranteed. You can love her and have her love you back.
This sort of thing happens.
Seriously, if you really want her, then DON'T EVER LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WANT HER (until you actualy make love to her)
As soon as she knows she will lose all interest. This is the principle.
Play your cards right. Always play it off like you don't want/need her. Be yourself, do your thing. If she likes you, then she will like you even more. Eventually set up a time to get together one on one with her, yet never letting her know that you want her.
Then keep playing your game, being yourself. If she has the same interests, then elaborate on them, and show her how divine and enlightened you are. Eventually let her know fun you are, how fun and exciting life is, and how amazing this kiss is that you're about to give her. Take it from there. Even after the kiss you can fuck it up, so even after that, don't let her know that she has you. Keep playing the same game until you atualy have sex with her, then the tables are turned. After a long time, when you are truly with her, let her know that she has you, but never let her walk over you.
You will have her, guaranteed.
I've fucked up big time once with this chick that I started falling for. I knew she was into me too. One day she sent me a text message saying that I was in her dream (interestingly enough, about a week earlier she was in my dream and we were "having fun").
She said something like "I'm starting to remember the dream... and it was a good one "
No shit sherlock! She wants me! and I want her! So whats my next move? Confess my love to her? NO!!!!!!!!
I told her I was crazy about her, and guess what, she lost ALL FUCKIN INTEREST!
Scared her right the fuck away. I dont know why, I look good, im funny, im kind, but a girl doesnt want some puppy whimpering over her. It's pathetic. They sense that shit.
So don't make the same mistake I did. Have patience, do it slow. It will be worth it, and never let her know that you WANT her.
You're lucky that she still wants to spend time with you man. You have another chance. Do it right. Show her mystery and exitement. She will bite.
Good luck.
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Re: Girls driving me insane [Re: Ginseng1]
#7830810 - 01/04/08 06:04 AM (16 years, 28 days ago) |
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Ginseng1 said: Bro, if you really want this girl, then you can have her. Guaranteed. You can love her and have her love you back.
This sort of thing happens.
Seriously, if you really want her, then DON'T EVER LET HER KNOW THAT YOU WANT HER (until you actualy make love to her)
As soon as she knows she will lose all interest. This is the principle.
Play your cards right. Always play it off like you don't want/need her. Be yourself, do your thing. If she likes you, then she will like you even more. Eventually set up a time to get together one on one with her, yet never letting her know that you want her.
Then keep playing your game, being yourself. If she has the same interests, then elaborate on them, and show her how divine and enlightened you are. Eventually let her know fun you are, how fun and exciting life is, and how amazing this kiss is that you're about to give her. Take it from there. Even after the kiss you can fuck it up, so even after that, don't let her know that she has you. Keep playing the same game until you atualy have sex with her, then the tables are turned. After a long time, when you are truly with her, let her know that she has you, but never let her walk over you.
You will have her, guaranteed.
I've fucked up big time once with this chick that I started falling for. I knew she was into me too. One day she sent me a text message saying that I was in her dream (interestingly enough, about a week earlier she was in my dream and we were "having fun").
She said something like "I'm starting to remember the dream... and it was a good one "
No shit sherlock! She wants me! and I want her! So whats my next move? Confess my love to her? NO!!!!!!!!
I told her I was crazy about her, and guess what, she lost ALL FUCKIN INTEREST!
Scared her right the fuck away. I dont know why, I look good, im funny, im kind, but a girl doesnt want some puppy whimpering over her. It's pathetic. They sense that shit.
So don't make the same mistake I did. Have patience, do it slow. It will be worth it, and never let her know that you WANT her.
You're lucky that she still wants to spend time with you man. You have another chance. Do it right. Show her mystery and exitement. She will bite.
Good luck.
That is some excellent advice. I've been in similar situations so I know that you are completely correct. Girls are crazy.
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