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A question for the elders who once fell behind in life
#7813198 - 12/30/07 11:09 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813204 - 12/30/07 11:10 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I dunno man...I see people with careers and they're all stressed out because all they do is work. It doesn't look very fun.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: RandalFlagg]
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813222 - 12/30/07 11:14 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well, if that's what you want to do then get to it. Put down the devil's weed, get off the couch, and hit the books.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: RandalFlagg]
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813228 - 12/30/07 11:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LayYouIn said: how old were you until you realized that you had fallen behind and what did you do?
im 23 and i realize that i could have gone in a much better direction if i didn't start smoking weed and being lazy. now i suddenly want to go back to school really bad and i want to get a decent job and stop being such a scum bag.
When I started smoking weed I became very interested in botany, after I tried LSD I went into chemistry and philosophy.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813230 - 12/30/07 11:16 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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How about you stop whining and bitching on a drug forum then, stop wasting your potential!
Go read a book, go fill out your FAFSA information for school, so you can get some free grants, go figure out what you want to major in etc etc etc.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: Penguarky Tunguin]
#7813236 - 12/30/07 11:18 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Penguarky Tunguin said: How about you stop whining and bitching on a drug forum then, stop wasting your potential!
Hey, he's just taking after me. That is very admirable and cool in my opinion.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813303 - 12/30/07 11:39 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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My Uncle used to tell me: "Work to Live - Don't Live to Work."
Very wise words.
Everybody goes through cycles, especially in the earlier years of emotional development.
Im in my mid 30's - I can look back at the things i should have done - but didn't - I can also say - If I got that job, or moved to that city - I wouldn't have been where i was when I met the love of my life/best friend. So everything happens for a reason.
LYI - you need a change of scenery... see if you can take 2 days to do something totally contrary to how you normally act - try to jump start your mind/soul - you dont have to spend a lot of money - just make it eventful.
also - dont be so goddam hard on yourself - you have your whole life for that .
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: Oracle Of Delphi]
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813337 - 12/30/07 11:49 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Where do you work?
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813338 - 12/30/07 11:49 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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behind in what?
what measure are you using to rate your progress?
sounds like you have a good paying job - enjoy it - maybe train someone new - helping always makes me feel good.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: RandalFlagg]
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813380 - 12/30/07 12:00 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Get a job at a bar. It's fun as hell. It's not a career though.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: RandalFlagg]
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813414 - 12/30/07 12:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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You need to define what 'falling behind' means. If you are talking strictly money/career/success then I have definitely lagged. But I don't desire those things in my life. I am happily drifting along enjoying myself. I work hard to earn a decent living, but I don't work so hard that I can't enjoy life in the process. Basically I'm tragically doomed to be a half-success my whole life, but have a fantastic time all along the way. I don't think I've failed, but I'll never be as 'successful' as I am capable of (if you are equating success with money, that is). But I will always be happy, and that is most important.
If you are unhappy then figure out what you desire in life and go for it. Its really as simple as "Take what you want and leave the rest".
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813535 - 12/30/07 12:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I was about 24 when I realized I had fallen behind. (by fallen behind I mean I was a few years away from where I wanted to be at 24)
Thats when I got serious about school and the future, and stopped being consumed with pot, video games and other drugs. Glad I snapped into shape (though I still like to smoke on the breaks, like right now!)
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7813808 - 12/30/07 02:13 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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go for it man...I fell waaaay the fuck behind when I was 16
I developed fairly severe ocd(It was one specific thought which tortured me endlessly all day everyday unless I was at home)
so after 3 years of basically being in a constant state of "fight or flight" I gave up on life and isolated myself
but my oxy addiction eventually led me into jail and without a home and I stayed at a shelter and started up from nothing...I've faced sooo much and come so far but I'm still strugglin with my problems everyday of my life...but I won't give up again
realize that pain is not a bad thing and nessisary for pleasure to even exist
fullfil your goals no matter how hard it is and I'm gonna keep edging forward towards mine as well! 
if you don't you'll always regret it
25 now btw...was isolated for approx 8 years
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: ToTheSummit]
#7813834 - 12/30/07 02:20 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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ToTheSummit said: You need to define what 'falling behind' means. If you are talking strictly money/career/success then I have definitely lagged. But I don't desire those things in my life. I am happily drifting along enjoying myself. I work hard to earn a decent living, but I don't work so hard that I can't enjoy life in the process. Basically I'm tragically doomed to be a half-success my whole life, but have a fantastic time all along the way. I don't think I've failed, but I'll never be as 'successful' as I am capable of (if you are equating success with money, that is). But I will always be happy, and that is most important.
If you are unhappy then figure out what you desire in life and go for it. Its really as simple as "Take what you want and leave the rest".
I feel really similar to this when I look ahead at my own life..
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
#7813850 - 12/30/07 02:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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go back to school!
weed almost lost me my academic scholarship, i havent let it hold me down since. 4.0 baby!
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
#7813911 - 12/30/07 02:39 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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OneLessForeskin said:
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ToTheSummit said: You need to define what 'falling behind' means. If you are talking strictly money/career/success then I have definitely lagged. But I don't desire those things in my life. I am happily drifting along enjoying myself. I work hard to earn a decent living, but I don't work so hard that I can't enjoy life in the process. Basically I'm tragically doomed to be a half-success my whole life, but have a fantastic time all along the way. I don't think I've failed, but I'll never be as 'successful' as I am capable of (if you are equating success with money, that is). But I will always be happy, and that is most important.
If you are unhappy then figure out what you desire in life and go for it. Its really as simple as "Take what you want and leave the rest".
I feel really similar to this when I look ahead at my own life..
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: Iamthewalrus]
#7813925 - 12/30/07 02:43 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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when i was 18 i started working at a window/door company as a helper. pay sucked, but it was money, i got bored with it after i learned most of what there was to know,(about 2yrs) so i wandered off to other stuff for a couple years, but i couldnt find anything that paid as good and required so little work. so i went back to the window place as an installer and started payin my own helper and got my dba so i could be a subcontractor, which basically made it so i could make as much as i wanted, just depended on how much work i felt like doing. the company i sub for has been around a while, they can give me as much or as little work i want.
I went on like that for a couple more years, now i just turned 24 and i sub for 1 company 3 days a week, and do my jobs for the company i started 1 day a week. A few flyers with a phone number is all it takes to get calls coming in. its cheap to have them printed, and even cheaper to send someone else to stick them in door handles in neigborhoods. In that one day i usually make almost as much as i do working the 3 days for someone else. hopefully by next year ill be generating enough business on my own to not worry about working for somoene else, then stop working all together and just pay other people to do all the things i need done.
I aint gonna lie, im not rich or anyhting. i only made like 40k last year, but i only work 4 days a week, about 5 hours a day, i randomly take weeks off at a time, etc. during the winter it can slow and sometimes there just no work for a week or 4 which sucks, but its not bad enough for me to ever want to work for someone else again. If you can figure out something to do, or a product to sell, work for yourself.
the object is to get people to open their wallets and pay you. fuck trying to figure out who your going to impress with a resume, or worrying about how many days your "allowed" to be sick.
what can YOU do to make people give you money?
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: RandalFlagg]
#7813946 - 12/30/07 02:50 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Don't blame your struggle on weed, there is no chemical property that does not allow for progress. Unless you spent most of your money or got in trouble with the law. Perhaps you may have felt "couch locked" and decided to spend your time solely on weed, this is not the herbs fault though.
Why don't you get federal grants for school?
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: r311ik]
#7813967 - 12/30/07 02:56 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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r311ik said: what can YOU do to make people give you money?
sell them drugs i make...
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814008 - 12/30/07 03:11 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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can you work on computers?
print up some flyers to make peoples computers faster. run adware, and delte most things from the startup, defrag n charge 50$
if noone calls. your out some ink n 5 min.
starting a business is ub3rly easy. theres gotta be something you can do to charge people money for.
waterproofing basements is easy, all you need is a shovel n some friends. lol.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: r311ik]
#7814042 - 12/30/07 03:22 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814099 - 12/30/07 03:38 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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My .02. You had a powerful trip the other day that brought to light many feelings. These feelings may NOT be that you want to go back to school, but they are spurring you on to realize that you want more out of life than what you've been getting. I have a LOT of old friends who are getting up there (30+) and are still very content to consume weed (and other stuff) have a mediocre job, struggle with bills, ect. and claim that is all they want from life. A couple seem to be genuinely happy, but the others are burned out, lazy, jaded or whatever. It's sad, because all of them used to have dreams and goals, and now they're just gone.
"It's not so much where we are, but where we're going that matters".
Just get on it and don't look back. Dreams do have their demands.
Good luck.
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Re: A question for the elders who once fell behind in life [Re: whattheheck]
#7814121 - 12/30/07 03:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I've spent a lot of time working to advance myself and my career. Sure, I have had to make a lot of sacrifices but in the end I think it's worth it. I can always decide to give up my career and be a slacker, the opposite isn't always true. I look at my friends who have done the opposite, all they've done is party and goof off. Sure they have had a lot of fun, but the story is changing as we knock on the door of our thirties. A lot of them are looking back and wishing they had "done something with their life".
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