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Cepheus
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814841 - 12/30/07 07:08 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm 19.. I swear everyone goes through a period of not being able to get chicks.. and then fruitful times.
A lot of the time I think we all just try to hard.. we put the pussy on a pedestal.
I found my girlfriend (of about a year and 3 months) at a party.. I knew her beforehand, and I fancied the fuck out of her.. we got really drunk at my mates house party and ended up staying up all night chatting shit to each other, getting really high . Nothing happened. The next day, I was all deflated and thought I had failed.. we went back to one of my mates house and me and this girl slept on the floor. As soon as the lights went out she stripped me naked and jumped on
I think theres a trick to women, just like there is with everything in life. I don't think its to be an asshole or a bad guy, like everyone suggests, but more of be yourself, be confident, but not too forward.. and treat the girl like a friend. Jumping in balls deep is the best way to deal with these things.
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Jack Albertson
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814842 - 12/30/07 07:08 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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i havent had a real girlfriend since highschool, four years ago. My last one ruined me and then i found delics and now im far beyond what i was. It's kinda hard for to relate to "normal" people b/c that life isnt interesting to me or something. When i talk to people like that i feel like i have to hold parts of myself back and only show what's appropriate, it makes me feel fake.
-------------------- Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say "I think," "I am," but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose.Man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time TRANSCEND
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sirbojangles
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814846 - 12/30/07 07:10 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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does it really matter how old i am
im not a creepy old guy and im not a highschool kid
i have never had a girlfriend because i decide when im ready, not vh1 or mtv or seventeen magazine like the rest of the poor fuckers out there
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Jack Albertson
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: sirbojangles]
#7814849 - 12/30/07 07:11 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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how could tv stations dictate that?
-------------------- Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say "I think," "I am," but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose.Man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time TRANSCEND
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Cepheus
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: sirbojangles]
#7814857 - 12/30/07 07:13 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Age isn't a confinement at all.. its just an arbitrary number which represents how many times you've orbited the sun.... I don't see what there is to be so touchy about.
-------------------- "I only ever hope to reach equilibrium, in Nature's matrix, in line with the meridian" ~ Jehst "...and I know that I have to keep breathing, as tomorrow the sun will rise, who knows what the tide will bring?" Free Spore Ring Europe Send any spare spore prints you might have and help the distribution Open Source. Freedom. GNU/Linux Addicting is not a word.
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LayYouIn
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Cepheus]
#7814861 - 12/30/07 07:14 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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it seems hard sometimes to just be myself.
this one girl, im pretty sure likes me or something but i dont think she's my type but i dont know her on the other hand. she keeps giving me little signs but i feel like if i do something back, she'll take it and run. i've noticed that some girls act like they are interested to get my attention and as soon as i show that im interested, they lose interest...almost like they just wanted to see if they could have.
i know im a good looking guy, but at the same time im not sure what id do with a girlfriend since im 23 and still live with one of my parents.
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LayYouIn
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: sirbojangles]
#7814873 - 12/30/07 07:16 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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sirbojangles said: does it really matter how old i am
not at all. i just wanted to see how well we could relate.
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sirbojangles
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Cepheus]
#7814894 - 12/30/07 07:19 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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your right
im eighteen
i guess ive been part of this site long enough that it shouldnt affect my credibility
ive always been hesitant to give my age
i hope it doesnt change anything
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hoopershroomer
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Cepheus]
#7814912 - 12/30/07 07:23 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Cepheus said: Those fuckers only want what they can't have.
absolutely true
-------------------- "Life lived in the absence of the psychedelic experience that primordial shamanism is based on is life trivialized, life denied, life enslaved to the ego." "You teach the world how to treat you, by showing the world how you treat yourself." A well developed sense of humor is far superior to any religion" "Everything you could want and could be, you already have and are." &
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LayYouIn
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: sirbojangles]
#7814917 - 12/30/07 07:25 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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sirbojangles said: your right
im eighteen
i guess ive been part of this site long enough that it shouldnt affect my credibility
ive always been hesitant to give my age
i hope it doesnt change anything
no, just kidding. i have/had a friend that didn't really have a real girlfriend until he was 22.
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Cepheus
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: sirbojangles]
#7814928 - 12/30/07 07:28 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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If if feels awkward being yourself.. then you're not being yourself
The whole thing with this game is that you have to be prepared to loose. After all.. this is all it is; a game. Just because a girl shows interest in you, doesn't mean you have to show interest in her. I find that by not taking an interest in a girl that appears to take an interest in me they try a lot harder... Girls want what they can't have.
Acting desperate and eager is a major turnoff for males and females
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LayYouIn
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Cepheus]
#7814943 - 12/30/07 07:30 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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so how should i act?
i tried acting every time i saw her, like i had never seen her before and see looked like she didn't like me. should i just be friendly but not to friendly or something?
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Cepheus
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7814988 - 12/30/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Act as if shes one of the guys (only female). I don't mean all the insults and gross shit, but don't blindly agree with whatever she may propose.. debate, argue. Don't suck up to her.. and be witty.
After a while, you'll get past all the normal crapola that crops up in average conversations, and it'll progress to much more interesting topics, still don't let you guard down. When people say be an asshole, they mean don't hang on her every word.. treat her like you would any other person... this will prevent you from getting into the dreaded friend-zone.
If she's still keen after this, you'll probably be able to feel the mutual attraction between the 2 of you. Choose your moment right and jump in
-------------------- "I only ever hope to reach equilibrium, in Nature's matrix, in line with the meridian" ~ Jehst "...and I know that I have to keep breathing, as tomorrow the sun will rise, who knows what the tide will bring?" Free Spore Ring Europe Send any spare spore prints you might have and help the distribution Open Source. Freedom. GNU/Linux Addicting is not a word.
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Cepheus]
#7815118 - 12/30/07 08:34 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Cepheus said: Acting desperate and eager is a major turnoff for males and females
I guess that's just something only I look for in a girl.
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moon_glue
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Riboflavin]
#7815134 - 12/30/07 08:42 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have been jerking off to the internet since AOL 3.O. I was like 12 then. I sold porn when i was in elementary school. I was bored with sex before i even had it, and have never been able to get it up easily when fucking because of it.
Women don't offer any comfort. It's more like adopted a bastard retarded child who wants you to be responsible for her entertainment needs.
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blkjkrabbit
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7815168 - 12/30/07 08:51 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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i'm in the same boat man, i've been single my whole life and i'm almost 20. i've had some encounters with girls [recently, a really hot simoan one ] but it's never led to anything more..i think i've really stopped caring though - so much so that i just don't even try anymore. i'm not afraid of being rejected, i guess i just haven't really met a girl i gave a damn about [i'd have a better conversation with a plank of wood than a big chunk of the women i know] . physically there is always that desire to be with someone else but i think i'd rather be alone than with someone who doesn't get me.
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Silversoul
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7815208 - 12/30/07 09:01 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I had two long-term relationships back-to-back during my first couple years of college, and have been single ever since. Come to think of it, the last one ended shortly after I joined the Shroomery. I wonder if there's some connection there.
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blkjkrabbit
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: Silversoul]
#7815210 - 12/30/07 09:03 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Silversoul said: I had two long-term relationships back-to-back during my first couple years of college, and have been single ever since. Come to think of it, the last one ended shortly after I joined the Shroomery. I wonder if there's some connection there.
there might be, but the shroomery is still pretty kickass
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sirbojangles
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7816098 - 12/31/07 07:00 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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what is with you guys
girls are awesome
MOST of my friends are girls
you gotta go out and find the girls that seem like theyd be smarter than you
im just talking about friends here
its really sad that you guys dont know what its like to have girls as friends
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LayYouIn
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Re: At The Risk Of Sounding Desperate... [Re: LayYouIn]
#7818277 - 12/31/07 08:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: i'm in the same boat man, i've been single my whole life and i'm almost 20.
but im 23 and have had relationships.
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Silversoul said: I had two long-term relationships back-to-back during my first couple years of college, and have been single ever since.
this is like me. two long term relationships, back-to-back, and then single since. it's been two years since.
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sirbojangles said: its really sad that you guys dont know what its like to have girls as friends
it is.
but i think Cepheus is right now that i look back. treating a girl like a guy friend is how to go about it. it's not putting her on a pedestal and it's not completely avoiding her. now i just need to know how to encounter girls without going to bars and clubs. work seems a little weird but i might not last there anyways(i actually put a hole in top of a trailer with my forklift today and i didn't say anything, lol). where should one go to meet girls? my brother met a girl on a Christian date site...and i kindof like that idea...good Christian girls...
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