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Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship
    #7808784 - 12/28/07 09:58 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/75787/why-flirting-can-help-your-relationship/

i saw this on the front page of yahoo and it kindof irritated me. i haven't been in a relationship in a long time, but it reminded me of this girl i dated a long time ago that would flirt with all my friends and then say "it's only flirting, it's not like im cheating" when i got pissed. the crazy thing is, i ended up cheating on her because she was always flirting with my friends. not right, but it's just what i did.

what do you all think about this article?


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808791 - 12/28/07 10:01 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I didn't read the entire article but flirting is definitely, in my opinion, healthy. It's one thing to commit yourself to someone and enter into a monogamous affair...it's another thing to cut yourself off from what the excellent fun that is wordplay and social interaction between the sexes when flirting is going on. To just decide, "Ok, I am with this person now, I will not flirt with anyone.." that's just inhuman.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808793 - 12/28/07 10:01 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

bullshit. I had this girl once that always flirted with all my friends and it was fuckin retarded.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808798 - 12/28/07 10:02 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

well it depends on what kind of person you are and your partner

my gf and i flat out hit on other ppl in front of each other and neither of us really cares cause were secure enough with each other that we know that neither of us are actually going to act on it


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Leinahtan]
    #7808799 - 12/28/07 10:02 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

i find it far more invigorating to flirt with the same sex. it dispels the jealousy factor but still showcases the flirt.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
    #7808806 - 12/28/07 10:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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I didn't read the entire article but flirting is definitely, in my opinion, healthy. It's one thing to commit yourself to someone and enter into a monogamous affair...it's another thing to cut yourself off from what the excellent fun that is wordplay and social interaction between the sexes when flirting is going on. To just decide, "Ok, I am with this person now, I will not flirt with anyone.." that's just inhuman.




so you honestly dont think that flirting is a great way to cheat? are you a male or female? what if your boyfriend/girlfriend was flirting with someone that was slutty and didn't care if a person had a boyfriend/girlfriend? would you like that?


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808815 - 12/28/07 10:07 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

i just watched you avatar and imagined him saying, "How'd you like that?!" in the context of your response.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: debianlinux]
    #7808820 - 12/28/07 10:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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i just watched you avatar and imagined him saying, "How'd you like that?!" in the context of your response.




:tongue:

i had 8 grams of cubensis capsuled but im going to wait until tomorrow.  :wink:


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808824 - 12/28/07 10:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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LayYouIn said:
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OneLessForeskin said:
I didn't read the entire article but flirting is definitely, in my opinion, healthy. It's one thing to commit yourself to someone and enter into a monogamous affair...it's another thing to cut yourself off from what the excellent fun that is wordplay and social interaction between the sexes when flirting is going on. To just decide, "Ok, I am with this person now, I will not flirt with anyone.." that's just inhuman.




so you honestly dont think that flirting is a great way to cheat? are you a male or female? what if your boyfriend/girlfriend was flirting with someone that was slutty and didn't care if a person had a boyfriend/girlfriend? would you like that?




I'm male, and I think that monogamy while a fantastic adventure and interesting institution isn't necessarily "natural" and that we need to each find our own way of being free. Some people cheat - you did. Other people just play with the idea. Of course if a person's head is really into it in a certain way, it's cheating. But I mean, just from the sound of it you sound like you were in a pretty dysfunctional relationship if she's flirting with your friends all the time and then you cheat on her.


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-Erik Davis


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808827 - 12/28/07 10:09 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I had 750ml of port wine.
I didn't wait.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: debianlinux]
    #7808833 - 12/28/07 10:10 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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i find it far more invigorating to flirt with the same sex. it dispels the jealousy factor but still showcases the flirt.





most men arent secure enough to flirt with the same sex


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Prisoner#1]
    #7808843 - 12/28/07 10:13 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

you sure do have a perty mouf


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
    #7808845 - 12/28/07 10:13 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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I'm male, and I think that monogamy while a fantastic adventure and interesting institution isn't necessarily "natural" and that we need to each find our own way of being free. Some people cheat - you did. Other people just play with the idea. Of course if a person's head is really into it in a certain way, it's cheating. But I mean, just from the sound of it you sound like you were in a pretty dysfunctional relationship if she's flirting with your friends all the time and then you cheat on her.




yes, very dysfunctional.

have you ever been in a relationship where you really liked the girl? maybe loved her?


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808860 - 12/28/07 10:16 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, I just got out of a four and a half year long relationship with a girl I was deeply madly in love with.


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-Erik Davis


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
    #7808881 - 12/28/07 10:23 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Yeah, I just got out of a four and a half year long relationship with a girl I was deeply madly in love with.




so, if she was flirting with a guy that you knew was notorious for fucking girls that were in relationships, you would feel fine with that?


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808883 - 12/28/07 10:23 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Love is not exclusive. Flirting is a playful expression of love. What's wrong with that? I don't get this mindset that if you're "with someone" you can only love and flirt with them and nobody else. Wow, that sounds dull. I agree with Robot's posts wholeheartedly. Monogamy doesn't feel natural, to me anyway.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: debianlinux]
    #7808892 - 12/28/07 10:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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you sure do have a perty mouf




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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7808898 - 12/28/07 10:26 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Our relationship was totally secure, and neither of us ever cheated on one another. And both of us respected one another enough that if we'd wanted to cheat on the other, we'd probably just end up telling that person first. She is an extremely intelligent person and even if she "talked to a guy notorious for fucking girls in relationships" why would I have to worry about anything? People can talk all they want. Getting possessive solves nothing.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: OneMoreRobot3021]
    #7808980 - 12/28/07 10:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

not to pokew around, but why did the relationship end?


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Zinglons Acolyte]
    #7809021 - 12/28/07 10:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I think relationship articles on yahoo or msn are just plain retarded


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: debianlinux]
    #7809723 - 12/29/07 03:46 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I don't really flirt, I'm in a long term relationship but I can see how flirting would give you the emotional experience you might want from the opposite sex without doing anything bad. I guess I would flirt a little if I could actually talk to girls without being shy and awkward.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7809854 - 12/29/07 07:12 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Flirting has a purpose....it's like a pre-sex game....a warm-up....the purpose is a smoother introduction to something that will follow...

Of course it feels great, cos it tickles your imagination, and prepares your mind and body for something that would normaly happen if your current reality wouldn't reject.

For me it's like rollling a fatty without smoking it. lol, i mean, shure it helps your relationship since the law of jealousy makes your partner love you more when he/she thinks you are a very popular person....

...but the ego boosting qualities of flirting could be more destructive to us than what it seems on the surface.
During a successful flirt you always get your ego inflated. This not only takes you far away from your ability to feel the cosmic love that surrounds us, but also manages to block the energy flow within your relationship, since even the smalest sexual transaction with another individual is felt by the hyper-sensitive network of subconscious receptors.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Sterile]
    #7851732 - 01/09/08 12:40 AM (16 years, 24 days ago)

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Flirting has a purpose....it's like a pre-sex game....a warm-up....the purpose is a smoother introduction to something that will follow...

Of course it feels great, cos it tickles your imagination, and prepares your mind and body for something that would normaly happen if your current reality wouldn't reject.

For me it's like rollling a fatty without smoking it. lol, i mean, shure it helps your relationship since the law of jealousy makes your partner love you more when he/she thinks you are a very popular person....

...but the ego boosting qualities of flirting could be more destructive to us than what it seems on the surface.
During a successful flirt you always get your ego inflated. This not only takes you far away from your ability to feel the cosmic love that surrounds us, but also manages to block the energy flow within your relationship, since even the smalest sexual transaction with another individual is felt by the hyper-sensitive network of subconscious receptors.




Flirt without attachments.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7852758 - 01/09/08 09:23 AM (16 years, 23 days ago)

I agree with omr and moth on this one.

Flirting is healthy


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Spooge]
    #7852800 - 01/09/08 09:37 AM (16 years, 23 days ago)

A little healthy competition can get people off better. Go out to the bar with your GF and flirt all night, but know in the end, you will win.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: Prisoner#1]
    #7853310 - 01/09/08 12:12 PM (16 years, 23 days ago)

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i find it far more invigorating to flirt with the same sex. it dispels the jealousy factor but still showcases the flirt.





most men arent secure enough to flirt with the same sex




Me and a buddy of mine usualy greet eachother with a 'hey sexy'.
Most girls giggle at this kind of shit. You know its a joke, and they know it.
A bit of flirting from both sides will keep the relationship exiting to an extent. So I will agree, flirting can be healthy.

Statement does not apply to whores.


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7853444 - 01/09/08 12:46 PM (16 years, 23 days ago)

I think flirting is healthy for relationships because it is a confidence booster. It keeps the head right and keeps the couple from completely depending on the other for that boost. You being attractive to her friends is important to her, whether she admits it or not. Though I have high respect for women... Very few are mature enough to think for themself. She wants her friends to approve of her catch. Flirting can definitely improve your image with her friends.



(there is a difference between a friendly flirt and a 'I want some pussy' flirt.)


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Re: Article: Why Flirting Can Help Your Relationship [Re: LayYouIn]
    #7853457 - 01/09/08 12:49 PM (16 years, 23 days ago)
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