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Anonymous #1
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My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading.
#7802951 - 12/27/07 04:46 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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As stated, I finally got it out of her as to why she feels sick to consider putting her mouth down there.
She feels that it is degrading and makes her sick to the stomach, even when I compared my ..... to a banana she was about to eat, she got upset and told me that she felt sick.
So... what can I do to make her feel like this isn't degrading?
She wants to feel better about it so she can, and I want to help her.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7802962 - 12/27/07 05:00 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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the only thing that's important in this situation is whether or not she expects you to eat her out...cause if it's degrading for her to go down on you - then it's also degrading for you to do the same
and if you can manage sex without the fucken foreplay - then, you sir, are every man's hero
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Anonymous #1
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7802969 - 12/27/07 05:08 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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(Original Poster)
She doesn't expect me to and sometimes she does feel bad about it, but yes, most times she gets oral and if she doesn't she does get foreplay. She doesn't usually return, but sometimes. Just no oral from her.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7803029 - 12/27/07 06:42 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well what the hell.
STOP going down on her. See if she cares. If she likes getting it, she'll say something, and then you can explain that if she feels the act is "degrading", then why would she want to degrade you in the same way??
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Anonymous #4
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7803038 - 12/27/07 06:50 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I suppose she feels dry smashing the shitbox is degrading too.
Probably need to look into getting a new girlfriend.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #4]
#7803072 - 12/27/07 07:17 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I love to give blowjobs! I don't feel they are degrading. In fact when done correctly it puts the girl in the position of power.
I'm sure the same can be said about guys going down on a girl. When you have someone right on the edge and almost begging you not to stop...................that's when you are in control.
At that point you can cause the most extreme pleasure or anguish. But I didn't always feel this way. It takes getting really good at it.
Maybe showing her that you don't think less of her and that it's a wonderful gift she can give you might help.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7803075 - 12/27/07 07:19 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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(Original Poster)
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Anonymous said: Well what the hell.
I'm a chick, and I don't like oral- I don't like giving OR receiving. Sounds like she's being selfish.
STOP going down on her. See if she cares. If she likes getting it, she'll say something, and then you can explain that if she feels the act is "degrading", then why would she want to degrade you in the same way??
Seriously. I don't like it, but at least I'm consistent and fair.
I don't consider it selfish because I enjoy doing that for her, but she doesn't enjoy giving it. She enjoys getting it and holding that hostage would not change anything but strain us. And reduce our quality of sex.
As for getting a new girlfriend... She's not going to be my girlfriend anymore soon though, she'll be my wife.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7803118 - 12/27/07 07:43 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
STOP going down on her. See if she cares. If she likes getting it, she'll say something, and then you can explain that if she feels the act is "degrading", then why would she want to degrade you in the same way??
best advice that could be given 
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I don't consider it selfish because I enjoy doing that for her, but she doesn't enjoy giving it. She enjoys getting it and holding that hostage would not change anything but strain us. And reduce our quality of sex.
...and worst response
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Anonymous #6
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7803136 - 12/27/07 07:52 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: (Original Poster)
She doesn't expect me to and sometimes she does feel bad about it, but yes, most times she gets oral and if she doesn't she does get foreplay. She doesn't usually return, but sometimes. Just no oral from her.
What a shitty one way street.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7803158 - 12/27/07 08:06 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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to the OP
are you familiar with the term 'tough love' ever heard of the concept of negative reinforcement ever consider that psychological reprogramming can be accomplished with the 'proper' motivation
do you see where I'm going with this???
cause what you're doing to your woman is the equivalence of giving-in to a child every time they throw a temper tantrum (i.e. the child is doing something wrong, and you're rewarding them for it) take the advice of others and quit eating this bitch out / strain your god damn relationship already by not giving her that *privilege* unless she starts damn well returning the favor / and practice a little tough love until she learns to overcome this little phobia of hers (or social programming, or whatever you wanna call it)
either that or shut the fuck up about it already
if you're not going to take people's advice - then don't ask for it
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Anonymous #1
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7803178 - 12/27/07 08:21 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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(Original Poster)
I know what you mean, and I have used this in many cases in the relationship, but only to benefit us in a large, long term way. There is a huge risk in this and for this particular case, it isn't worth it.
Forcing her to do this that way would not be good, because at best she would not hate it that much, but she still wouldn't find it positive for our relationship.
You know, I think I'll just wait it out and see if she decides to. At one point she will, I'm sure, she has wanted to before. Maybe on our wedding night. Haha.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7803270 - 12/27/07 09:06 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Op is a pussy, and would be commiting canbalism if he ate pussy.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #7]
#7803280 - 12/27/07 09:13 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I may not understand the second part of that statement...
but I agree whole heartedly with the first
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7803328 - 12/27/07 09:35 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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never mind...I just now got that one
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Anonymous #8
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7803453 - 12/27/07 10:32 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Here is a thought; Maybe you don't marry someone who has drastically different views on sex then yourself? Do you also have different views on other issues? Children? Money? Religion? Culture?
Sounds like a Divorce to me.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7803469 - 12/27/07 10:39 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I once dated a girl and the first time she had me go down on her she came and shit but when it was time to return the favor she said "no, thats gross" so i was like fuck u bitch and i left.
Havn't regretted it yet.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #9]
#7803507 - 12/27/07 11:01 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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words to live by
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Anonymous #7
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7803734 - 12/27/07 11:59 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Is it true dat azn chicks have sideway vaginas?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7803793 - 12/27/07 12:14 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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(Original Poster)
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Anonymous said: Here is a thought; Maybe you don't marry someone who has drastically different views on sex then yourself? Do you also have different views on other issues? Children? Money? Religion? Culture?
Sounds like a Divorce to me.
No, we don't have different views on religion, culture, money, or children. Pretty much, we're exact matches.
We both were Christian because our family was, but now we both said screw it to that. We both want a kid, but not now. Money, we both like money, neither of us have it, but I like to give it when I have it to her and she likes to spend it (no, not gold digger like. Cheap little things that her family doesn't let her buy for herself.)
Culture? Not really. Not even sure how to poke at that one.
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Anonymous #10
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Re: My Chinese girlfriend thinks blowjobs are degrading. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7803837 - 12/27/07 12:26 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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This blowjob issue sounds like a cultural thing.
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