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Anonymous #1
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New girlfriend rarely wants sex
#7790598 - 12/22/07 09:36 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ok, this is fuckin' driving me nuts.
My new girlfriend of a month now was a virign when we met, a fact I didn't believe till I popped her cherry about 2 weeks ago, and she actually bled and all that, and well she enjoyed it, at least she says she did, and she sure sounded like she did, but we've only had sex once since. She used to give me head if I caught her in the right mood, but lately I've been getting nothing. Am I being impatient?
My last girlfriend was a crazy nympho and couldn't keep her hands off me, so I'm not used to this. This girl is 18 and is pretty much controlled by her mother to an unhealthy extent. She says she worries about geting pregnent, and that she fears that I only want her for sex, and that I'll leave her once I've had my fill.
I'm kind of looking for a girl's advice here.. what do I do? I feel like I'm going crazy without sex, I could easily go fuck some bar slut, and I've had the opporitunity, but I don't have any desire to cheat on her, just to be with her.
Now she starts telling me stuff like, she wants to wait to have sex for 'less than half a year' .. what the hell?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7790627 - 12/22/07 09:49 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Girl here.
Did you by any chance heard of the term teasing and what it means? If you did, I suggest you do so to her. Everything that you do has to turn her on: the ways that you touch her, the way you're looking at her, the ways you talk to her... everything even the smallest gesture has to increase the sexual desire between the two of you. Everything but no word about having sex... that's what she will ask of you soon of you know how to stimulate her. Spend as much time as possible naked, playing and exploring each other.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7790667 - 12/22/07 10:01 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, i try teasin her, but i got to admit i'm a little too straight to the point, although not to say i dont believe in foreplay, i like to make sure the girl i'm with is satisfied.
doing what u described is how i finally got her in bed, it took awhile, but she was all fired up to go. i guess i am just to impatient, not used to having to work for it.
also, she is very shy, its hard to get her completely naked. she automatically assumes im gonna try to fuck her as soon as our clothes are off, which isnt true, she is very beautiful and i would just love to take my time and explore every part of her body.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7790711 - 12/22/07 10:14 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well then just stop being hurried. These games are really interesting, they make the sexual attraction even bigger and you get to discover new aspects of yourself as well as hers. She will know what you don't wanna fuck her because you will not... fuck her. She will build her confidence in you and maybe this is what you both need at this stage of your relationship right now. Take her easy and make her feel sexy and she will respond to all that.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7790735 - 12/22/07 10:21 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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thanks for the advice
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Anonymous #3
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7790763 - 12/22/07 10:34 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Man here.
Id honestly drop her like a bag of potatoes if she doesnt start putting out.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7790771 - 12/22/07 10:39 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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yeah, but c'mon, where do find a *hot* 18 year old virgin?
im tired of sluts, least they like to fuck a lot.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7790839 - 12/22/07 10:56 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Man here again.
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yeah, but c'mon, where do find a *hot* 18 year old virgin?
Yep, bag of potatoes.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7790848 - 12/22/07 10:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: thanks for the advice
Glad I could help.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7790952 - 12/22/07 11:17 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Man here again.
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: thanks for the advice
Glad I could help.
Why are you taking credit for all my great advice?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7791013 - 12/22/07 11:35 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: Fag here again.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7791348 - 12/23/07 01:45 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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a fag would have just as good of advice as a chick
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Anonymous #4
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #4]
#7791349 - 12/23/07 01:45 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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o yeah and I agree potato's
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Anonymous #5
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7791404 - 12/23/07 02:05 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Female typing.
>also, she is very shy, its hard to get her completely naked. she >automatically assumes im gonna try to fuck her as soon as our >clothes are off, which isnt true, she is very beautiful and i would >just love to take my time and explore every part of her body.
I am this way. I am not prude, but I certainly don't like having sex more than twice a week. It becomes painful and a "chore".
It sounds like you should explain to her that you are at a different stage than she is, and although you like her, you don't have the patience to wait for her.
I say this because I have been in two relationships where the fellow i was dating was FAR more sexual than I am, and the only thing that changed between us over time was the resentment. I am still mad.
I don't think you are a whore for wanting more, or that she is being prude. There are CERTAINLY differences in sexual needs, and to be deprived of something so central to a relationship, or conversely, to be forced or coersed into doing something more frequently than your body can handle, is excruciating. Sad but true, some people are just not meant for one another. This is a HUGE deal breaker for me. I don't think I will go through the same bull shit again.
I end up in pain and feeling guilty for rejecting him frequently, and he feels deprived, unsatiated and rejected. It's all bad.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #4]
#7791441 - 12/23/07 02:26 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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fags do not = chicks
i wouldnt ask a fag for hetero relationship advice.
this is the original poster, i'm not gona drop her cause she wont put out right away, she's probably the hottest girl i have ever dated, and the only one of the few girls in this town that isnt a total slut.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #5]
#7791470 - 12/23/07 02:50 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: Female typing.
>also, she is very shy, its hard to get her completely naked. she >automatically assumes im gonna try to fuck her as soon as our >clothes are off, which isnt true, she is very beautiful and i would >just love to take my time and explore every part of her body.
I am this way. I am not prude, but I certainly don't like having sex more than twice a week. It becomes painful and a "chore".
It sounds like you should explain to her that you are at a different stage than she is, and although you like her, you don't have the patience to wait for her.
I say this because I have been in two relationships where the fellow i was dating was FAR more sexual than I am, and the only thing that changed between us over time was the resentment. I am still mad.
I don't think you are a whore for wanting more, or that she is being prude. There are CERTAINLY differences in sexual needs, and to be deprived of something so central to a relationship, or conversely, to be forced or coersed into doing something more frequently than your body can handle, is excruciating. Sad but true, some people are just not meant for one another. This is a HUGE deal breaker for me. I don't think I will go through the same bull shit again.
I end up in pain and feeling guilty for rejecting him frequently, and he feels deprived, unsatiated and rejected. It's all bad.
shit, this is way too... uhh. excatly the way it seems to be, at the monent at least. I actaully said this to her today, "different stage than she is, and although (i) like her, (i) don't have the patience to wait for her." and she started tearing up saying she didnt want to break up.. and to be honest i didnt really want to anyway, so i'll hold out and see how things progress.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7791633 - 12/23/07 06:45 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Man, I know where you are coming from. She was a virgin, and its going to take time for her to get used to things.
What you really need to focus on is giving her confidence, and try to abstain as much as possible. I'm a dood, I know. I will tell myself I'm not going to fuck someone, and a simple backrub for 30 seconds turns into me whipping my cock out...sometimes its just hard to deny yourself those sexual urges.
But what you want to do is show her you do like her for who she is, and let her bring up the sex part. You need to make sure she is very comfortable with you, and trusts you. As far as she knows, you might just be trying to steal her virginity, and run. Let her know you are in for the long haul, trust her with some secrets about you that nobody knows.
Give her some sincere compliments, especially with intimate things. Dont tell her she is hot, or bangable. Let her feel confident with her own body, her sexuality, and with you. You need to make her feel so comfortable around you, and help her out in any way possible.
Girls are crazy.
If you dont mind me asking, how old are you?
Because you might have opened pandoras box. I know alot of virgins, who stay that way for crazy periods of time...but with the mentality of "when I lose it, I lost it" and go on fucking spree's.
Not to mention she is so young, and will do most of her maturing in the next 3-5 years. Dont be suprised if she breaks your heart to explore the real world after being oppressed by her parents for so long, and then you unleashing the true world on her ass.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7791646 - 12/23/07 06:58 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: Girl here.
Did you by any chance heard of the term teasing and what it means? If you did, I suggest you do so to her. Everything that you do has to turn her on: the ways that you touch her, the way you're looking at her, the ways you talk to her... everything even the smallest gesture has to increase the sexual desire between the two of you. Everything but no word about having sex... that's what she will ask of you soon of you know how to stimulate her. Spend as much time as possible naked, playing and exploring each other.
man here
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Anonymous #8
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #7]
#7791871 - 12/23/07 09:43 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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LOL
hahaha that made my morning
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Anonymous #2
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Re: New girlfriend rarely wants sex [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7792220 - 12/23/07 11:43 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: LOL
hahaha that made my morning
That's because your IQ is below the sea level.
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