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imagine
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Lying
#7784396 - 12/21/07 03:00 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Everyone does it right? My MAIN concern is to someone you care about. Let's say a girlfriend. They ask you if you have cheated in the past. You explain to them no, although you indeed have (even if it was just a kiss). The reason for lying is to save the trust you two have for the future while you KNOW that you would NOT cheat on them no matter what. But the fact is...you lied. Should you let your conscious eat you everyday and affect the way you act\speak towards them? Should you justify the LIE and keep in mind that they didn't need to know because it is totally unnecessary?
I struggle with a very sensitive conscious, and although this thread may not help me at all, i'm very curious as to how everybody deals with their conscious and how they can decipher when lying is necessary. I love you all
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in_sherman
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Re: Lying [Re: imagine]
#7784520 - 12/21/07 04:31 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Don't lie
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QuantumMeltdown
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Re: Lying [Re: imagine]
#7784523 - 12/21/07 04:34 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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just tell her to ask no questions and youll tell no lies take in from skynard.
-------------------- -QuantumMeltdown Total abstinence is so excellent a thing that it cannot be carried to too great an extent. In my passion for it I even carry it so far as to totally abstain from total abstinence itself. -Mark Twain "The time has come the walrus said, little oysters hide their heads, my Twain of thought is loosely bound I guess its time to Mark this down, Be good and you will be lonesome Be lonesome and you will be free Live a lie and you will live to regret it That's what livin' is to me That's what livin' is to me" Jimmy Buffett
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WhiskeyClone
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Re: Lying [Re: imagine]
#7784689 - 12/21/07 07:21 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't know if my conscience would bug me about that particular lie. It's kind of ironic, but you are lying to prevent a (probably unwarranted) lingering seed mistrust in her mind, right?
And if you think about it, by asking "Have you cheated in the past" she was really asking "Do I have a reason to suspect you might cheat on me?" If the answer is no, I think your little lie is probably fine. If your conscience keeps telling you you're doing something wrong, though, you should listen to it.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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jenns_hot
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i wouldve told her what happened and why. Explain things. I hate to be lied to so i dont do it myself. But ive heard worse lies.
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Re: Lying [Re: imagine]
#7785449 - 12/21/07 12:30 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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The reason for lying is to save the trust you two have
Do you really not see the problem with this statement? I think your conscience seems to.
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mushroomplume
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There is a right place and time for lying.
If you girlfriend did ask you that, you should probably be honest.
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fazdazzle
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I'd have to agree with the anti-lying crew...if she really does trust you in the first place, and loves the person you are you should be able to trust the outcome, no matter what.
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imagine
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Good words friends...thank you. I would like to bring it up to clear everything and keep it healthy however I feel it would be selfish to randomly bring it up to clear my conscious.
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MushroomTrip
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Re: Lying [Re: imagine]
#7788882 - 12/22/07 12:45 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
I feel it would be selfish to randomly bring it up to clear my conscious.
No I think this is exactly what you should do, especially that you feel like doing it. Don't let something meaningful waste because of silly stuff.
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