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Z0S0
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i think i might be gay
#7771298 - 12/17/07 08:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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seriously, i have thought it my entire life but could never accept it. i just have never been attracted to females. i dont know really though, a few of my friends recently came out and maybe im just trying to jump on the band wagon but when i fantasize sexually itsabout men. anyone got advice or experience please pm me or just post. thanks
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771306 - 12/17/07 08:10 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Z0S0 said: but when i fantasize sexually itsabout men.
sounds like your gay.
i find healthy women the most attractive.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771311 - 12/17/07 08:11 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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ya, youre gay
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771316 - 12/17/07 08:12 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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well, if you've never been attracted to females, and think sexually about men, I would say that you are gay.
I don't think you need much more evidence than that.
I'd imagine the transition to acting upon those feelings would be a big step. Maybe you need some one to coax them out. (I'm being serious.)
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771318 - 12/17/07 08:12 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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lol you are gay, for real. read what you typed.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771323 - 12/17/07 08:13 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hi, I'm gay.
I came out when I was 16. I went through all the weird "wtf is wrong" moments. Just find the friends you know will accept you and it'll be as if nothing's changed really.
When I told my friends, they all were like, "Oh, ok, whatever, wanna play some Smash Bros.?"
I didn't really change who I was, I was just more honest about it.
My mom threw a bible at me, but that was a whole different story.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: zSDMF]
#7771325 - 12/17/07 08:13 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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zSDMF said: lol you are gay, for real. read what you typed.
haha yeah really.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: zSDMF]
#7771331 - 12/17/07 08:15 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Don't worry about the label, if your gay great! If your bi great! If you can love... that is what is important.
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yeah but i think in this case the label is clearly "gay." like all day long. definitely not a single thing wrong with it, but honestly lol
also, op: congrats, after coming out you'll probably feel tons better once people get used to it.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771347 - 12/17/07 08:16 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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You might just be confused by all the gayness around you but if you fantasize about men then your probably
My brother is gay, he's way cooler than my straight brother. Gay people are pretty cool to me. You will probably feel a lot better once you can openly address this possibility within yourself.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: LayYouIn]
#7771355 - 12/17/07 08:18 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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yea well, i have been intimate with women and liked it and liked them but i feel more attracted to the male physique but i have never had sex with a man. i have kissed men and recieved oral but am scared to death of penetration. i still am attracted to girls but solely based on their personalities and not their bodies. i just crave men so badly and the repression is killing me
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771357 - 12/17/07 08:18 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Z0S0 said: seriously, i have thought it my entire life but could never accept it. i just have never been attracted to females. i dont know really though, a few of my friends recently came out and maybe im just trying to jump on the band wagon but when i fantasize sexually itsabout men. anyone got advice or experience please pm me or just post. thanks
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771378 - 12/17/07 08:21 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Z0S0 said:i feel more attracted to the male physique but i have never had sex with a man. i have kissed men and recieved oral... i just crave men so badly and the repression is killing me
Why was your post called "i THINK i might be gay"?
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Gay Men = How Straight Men Should Aspire To Be. how so?
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: zSDMF]
#7771407 - 12/17/07 08:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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i think he just means being a neat freak is somewhat better than a total slob.
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Z0S0 said: seriously, i have thought it my entire life but could never accept it. i just have never been attracted to females. i dont know really though, a few of my friends recently came out and maybe im just trying to jump on the band wagon but when i fantasize sexually itsabout men. anyone got advice or experience please pm me or just post. thanks
Wanna party?  GAY!
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771422 - 12/17/07 08:27 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hello there,I just finished a research paper on this subject.I found some really good info and books on homophobia and the interpretation of the bible(if that is an issue,it most always is)Check this out.
Homosexuality; The Accepted Prejudice In ancient Greek and Latin times there were no words to describe homosexuality. Some of the great philosophers such as Plato, Socrates, and many others all wrote of sexual relation- ships with the same sex. They also practiced homosexuality. The Greeks accepted sexual act- ivity between both sexes. It was a coming of age, and a rite of passage into adulthood for young men of that time period. All ranks of society were involved in this. As you know things have changed since then, and it is no longer accepted as normal in society (Mondimore 1). As we move further along into the time when North America was being discovered, miss- ionaries and explorers observed same sex relationships in Native American people. The French explorers used the word berdache (male homosexual) to describe men who took on traditional women’s roles, as well as women who took on the traditional men’s roles. These people were also integrated and accepted as part of their society without any hatred or prejudice toward them. They were the shaman of most of the tribes throughout North America and were held in high regard (Mondimore 13).
Why are homosexuals hated and reviled so much in modern times? It seems obvious that no one would choose to live this way in light of all the negativity that surrounds being gay. The fact that most preachers in most religions say it is a sin, and claiming it says so in the books they preach from, is really open for interpretation. The crucial part of the story lies in the verb “to know.” In Hebrew text the verb is yadha; it appears over nine hundred times and means “to become acquainted with.” The translation of this word has been identified as an “implication of carnal knowledge or to abuse”. Even though the word yadha has implications of sex it has always referred to heterosexual sex (Fone 77). There is no doubt that a great majority of people that discover they have the feelings of same sex desire, often struggle with the guilt, and fear of modern day societies’ negative view on homosexuality. This leads many people to try and “correct” or “fix” their sexual identity. There are many psychologists and groups of people that still believe homosexuality is a mental disorder or a choice. They assign treatments and “reparative therapy” to the individual. The American Psychiatric Association has issued statements rejecting the use of any treatments designed to “alter one’s sexual identity”. These therapies have made people worse or not cured them at all (Bane 2). Some of the negative aspects of these therapies can be linked to teen suicides. The stress of not being able to come out or talk about their feelings comfortably can be related to the pressure of the mainstream idea that homosexuality is wrong. In a study involving “six-thousand adolescent girls and five-thousand boys, it was concluded that those that were gay were twice as likely to commit suicide”. This brings the question to light of how many attempts or successes occur without knowing the sexual orientation of the person (Li Kitts 3). In other places, a recent study from Massey University, Auckland, New Zealand has
shown that an assumption by the patients’ healthcare provider on the patients’ sexual orien- tation can have a negative effect on recovery. The patients’ are uncomfortable if their health- care providers are uncomfortable; thereby affecting the patients’ adherence to treatment reg- imes (Sexuality Impacts on Quality Care 2). There has also been extensive research in the animal kingdom on the subject of same sex relationships. A research team led by physiologist Charles Roselli of Oregon Health and Science University has concluded that “eight percent of rams have sex exclusively with other rams.” In humans there is a ten percent ratio of men that are gay (one in ten). They have also discovered that the brain structure of the homosexual ram is different than that of the heterosexual one. This could lead to biologically concrete evidence in humans (Cloud 2). Evidence is something the gay community needs to solidify acceptance within the society in which they live. William Lee Adams, an undergraduate at Harvard College has been studying homosexual “gay-dar” in both men and women. When volunteers were observed from a head shot in pictures and videos gay men and women made the most accurate assessments of other gays. “Gays often face isolation, depression and anxiety,” says Adams. “Maybe gay-dar is a coping mechanism” (Lawson 2). The term “gay-dar” has only been around for the last ten years or so. There was no evidence of the history on the word “gay-dar” (pronounced gay’ dar, like radar). This is a word invented by the gay community to let other gay people know when they sense another gay persons’ presence.
In some colleges and universities, there seems to be a complacent attitude among young adults about important issues concerning gay people of today. In a homosexual-studies course at California State University at Northridge, the teacher has noticed this complacent attitude among gay and lesbian students concerning gay marriage and AIDS. He attributes this to them being exposed to out-gay characters on television, and being exposed to gay issues in the media all their life. They see AIDS as a manageable disease with medication, and some students also believe the laws on gay marriage will come to fruition without their participation (Hall 2). Take a look at the military point of view on homosexuality. They have still found a way to classify homosexuality as a mental disorder. The American Psychiatric Association stopped doing so in 1973. The military has put homosexuality in with certain “conditions”, circumstan-ces and defects. Some of which are bedwetting, sleepwalking, dyslexia and others. This deems gays as having a defect. This also makes acceptance even worse for gay people in the military (Rosenburg 1). In the British military gays openly serve. The ban on gays has been lifted there and it has shown great success. A poll on troops who served in Afghanistan and Iraq showed “seventy-three percent are comfortable in the presence of gays.” They are trying to repeal the “Don’t ask, Don’t tell” policy so gays can serve without limitations. “Gays openly serve in twenty-three of twenty-six Nato [sic] countries; U.S., Turkey and Portugal are the exceptions” (Old Prejudice Dishonors New Military Generation 1).
If we look at televisions role in the acceptance of gay people in society, gay characters began to appear on television after the Stonewall riots of 1969. Archie Bunker (a character on the TV show “All in the Family”) dealt with emotional stress and issues when he learned an old drink- ing buddy was gay. At the time, President Nixon was quoted as saying, “Goddamn it, I don’t think you glorify homosexuality on television.” Television has come a long way since then but people’s attitudes have not. Cable television shows are the forerunners of gay issues pres- ented in the shows that they run (Highleyman 1, 2). The people who remain intolerant of gay people including the president (past and present) and his staff continue to fuel populist fear of gays. As more people come out publicly and gain more political power there will be more acceptance and tolerance. There are more hypocrites being exposed by the media as well. The need to remain in the closet is becoming less necess- ary. It should never have been a necessity (Sullivan 3). With the media characterizations of gay people on television and cable it would seem as though there is more acceptance by society. There still remain social stigmas attached to living openly gay. The loss of jobs, friends, housing, and families continue as some of the problems; and hate is a breeding ground for the harass- ment and murder of gay people as well (Van Buskirk 1). There also seems to be an acceptance of “straight acting” gay people. The gay people who come out and do not act feminine or masc- uline seem to be more socially acceptable. The ridicule of effeminacy in men is an issue that also needs to be addressed. Gay men and women should not have to bargain their behavior
to be more socially acceptable in today’s society. “Saying that one is straight acting just pits one type of person against the other” (Rice 2). Concluding with a survey on the acceptance of gays in society in general, a census by the American Community Survey has shown a “thirty percent increase in acceptance of homosex- uals in society from the year 2000 to the year 2005” (600,000 – 777,000 respectively). They also showed that “fifty-six percent of the people surveyed approve of gays in society, and sev- enty-five percent of the people surveyed aged eighteen to thirty four approve”. It seems as though the younger generation will improve things for the gay community and society as a whole (Out and Proud Parents 2). There is nothing wrong with you,you will be fine,try not to listen to negativity,it is a tough road but you can overcome the stupidity of some people by learning as much as you can.I am an out and proud gay/homosexual/whatever label you want to say.I found that the mental connection with someone is all that matters,sex is secondary anyway).
Go to the library and read,read read.Knowledge is infinite and powerful.I hope this helps.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Drewwyann]
#7771425 - 12/17/07 08:28 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Z0S0 said:i feel more attracted to the male physique but i have never had sex with a man. i have kissed men and recieved oral... i just crave men so badly and the repression is killing me
Why was your post called "i THINK i might be gay"?
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>_< Reading is gay.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771435 - 12/17/07 08:29 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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ok first of all, i know zoso, and he is totally not gay. i have been down that road and that is definitely the road less traveled. if you know what i mean. his cock is huge and extends like a lone highway in the desert. it is encrusted with veins like a bejeweled crown. i wanted to have it resting on my cheek. but its like a gamble with all of the drugs he is on. half of the time its like a scared turtle. and the other half like an intimidating serpent.
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Re: i think i might be gay [Re: Z0S0]
#7771449 - 12/17/07 08:30 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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The thought of having a dick in my ass or putting my dick into some smelly and hairy male hole repulses me...but whatever floats your boat man.
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