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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: sherm]
    #9124709 - 10/24/08 12:40 AM (15 years, 3 months ago)

It is so true.  I use to be a nice guy.  For 2 years actually.  She would walk all over me.  Then one day she was like " I wear the pants in this relationship" 

I guess my ego got the best of me and I started acting.. well... a little mean. 

Boy that was a change!  More sex (as much as I could handle(never thought that would happen))

I'm not saying this is right to do.. Now I just act like me... not nice or mean and it seems to work out. 

I think you have to think of yourself first because alot of girls do.. don't be there for every need and want.  Make your self important.


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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: Cakes]
    #9128819 - 10/24/08 08:14 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

I agree that women want a confident guy, duh, but this post takes something so simple and stretches it to preposterous proportions and makes "nice guys" sound like pathetic insecure losers who completely rely on women to give them self worth. Not true!

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PoisonedV said:
It's easy to see that this whole bitch thing isn't just a facade. She is a bitch, and she can't accept it so she goes and makes a fucking lame blog.

Awesome. :rolleyes:




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demius said:
i can't agree with this.  some of us are nice guys and have self-confidence.  but because we are not aggressive, usually results in us not getting what we want (because some girls do want to be treated like a piece of meat first, after all, that's why many women dress the way they do...they crave the attention) or eventually losing it


i'm laid back and am not going to go out of my way for a girl in a lot of the ways they want.  however, if i'm in a relationship, you sure as hell better believe i'm going to treat her right, while being respectfully playful/mean




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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: demiu5]
    #9128835 - 10/24/08 08:18 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

I think different girls like different men. Attraction varys from person to person and is a question of personal taste and life experience. Its the same with men choosing females. Some men like the confident types others like the shy type. Nature likes variety because it makes our species more adaptable. Thats why we are all attracted to different types of people, so that we can keep the gene pool varied.


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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: DimensionX] * 1
    #9129531 - 10/24/08 11:38 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

Every relationship is different, but the fundamental "nice guy" traits espoused in this article do create somewhat predictable or at least likely dynamics in relationships. I fit the description in days past, which was terrible; I went through emotional hell because of women. But I learned much and grew a lot stronger because of it.

You deserve whatever you give yourself in life, a fact which I find tremendously important and worthy of writing down and reading everyday. Don't expect to ever find sustainable satisfaction if you settle for less than you desire and go for whatever girls will flick you attention. Like they say, you ain't gonna hit a home-run if you don't swing the bat! Otherwise you're set up to be inevitably fucked over and it will only make you feel worse. It wore me down so much that I was either going to die or metamorphose into a new me, and thank God for that.

It isn't really about being an asshole. It's about not being afraid to go after what you want instead of taking whatever comes along and feigning contentedness. You have to find that contentedness within yourself before girls come into the scene.

The case in point here is Tucker Max (www.tuckermax.com). The first impression you get from this guy is that he's an arrogant asshole - which to be fair isn't always untrue. But he has slept with hundreds of class A girls and when you read enough of his shit, his secrets become clear - he just isn't afraid of being himself and going after what he wants (and he's very intelligent). That's really what it all comes down to...you have can great looks, tons of bank, whatever...but if you aren't fundamentally confident in who you are and what you want, save yourself the trouble - there will be no shortage of it - and get a hooker.


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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: Cakes]
    #9132445 - 10/25/08 03:34 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

who was this written by a teenager?

fuck this nice guy bullshit labels. if youre nice youre nice. that doesnt have anything to do with confidence or insecurity or that bullshit. It CAN, but its a personality trait, just like being an ass, or being insecure or whatever.

Its ok to be nice, just be human to others and expect to be treated like a human.


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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: ManianFH]
    #9132482 - 10/25/08 03:44 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

there is a difference though between somebody whos overly nice and someone who just trys to put out good vibes to people


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Re: Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS [Re: ManianFH]
    #9132496 - 10/25/08 03:47 PM (15 years, 3 months ago)

:thumbup:


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