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All We Perceive
Sea Cucumber



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Best Move Possible...
#7757218 - 12/14/07 03:59 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Ive been chilling with this really cool chick from class for the past month, month and a half which has grown to us hanging out basically 4 or 5 times a week. As I'm sure many of you know, finals have been crunching recently and I've really started to get into her through our mutual studying, chilling etc. through finals week (and a week or two before when preparations began - my interest in her has grown as time goes on). However, due to finals, we were both under pressure to get our shit done and we weren't able to connect on a level that I feel is adequate that she knows that I really like her. I get really mixed signals from her in that she calls me like 2-3 times a day and will wait around during the day to meet up and chill; moreover, she has FINALLY gotten straight with some playful touching (before she was very domineering of her own space and as an intj I can respect that) and we have a great time whenever we do hang out; however,I will call her to come out to such and such party and she will stay in or not call me back because she has gone to sleep at like 1000 (wtf?! who does that in college). She doesn't seem to be that outgoing about chilling although she did invite me to panera to grab lunch and walk around the mall the other day. In any case, I have very limited time; however, I would really like to build a relationship. I just don't want to waste my time on bullshit. I really don't want to play the games where I will cut off talking to a chick thinking I just don't click with her and she will act all pissed off wondering why I won't chill. The problem is she leaves saturday to go home for break (like ~weeks) and I don't want her to feel like "who the fuck are you again?" In essence, I want to put the thought in her mind that I really like her but I don't want to maker her uncomfortable. I was thinking about taking her out to the beach tomorrow and cruising a few parties ... but I want to make sure she knows that Im diggin her without making things weird. What do you think is the best move here?
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TripleTree3
makinPROgRESS


Registered: 09/03/07
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  it's so wierd, I can almost always find a recent post about something i've been needing to post. I met a really cool chick the other day and we've chilled but finals and shit have really screwed things up.
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jimbohsp
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Re: Best Move Possible... [Re: TripleTree3]
#7757282 - 12/14/07 05:23 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sounds like you've made a real good friend. Chances of "building a relationship" I think are slim... Unless she's one of them antisocial chicks that aren't as socially conditioned as her hot prissy counterparts. But still, if you guys didn't hit it off at first I don't see there being a chance you will. But still stay friends with her. If you become friends with her then all a sudden cut off all contact because you didn't get what you want, that would be wrong. If she's the kind of chick that you would date, then still stay friends with her and you'll learn to deal with women that are like her.
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deXtrous
complete tool



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Re: Best Move Possible... [Re: jimbohsp]
#7757286 - 12/14/07 05:33 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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What's this girl on looks? PICTURES mate, pictures.
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SmellyMushroom
Top Hat Mushroom


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Re: Best Move Possible... [Re: deXtrous]
#7757344 - 12/14/07 06:23 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
deXtrous said: What's this girl on looks? PICTURES mate, pictures.
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Ego Death
Justadropofwaterinanendlesssea


Registered: 04/27/03
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Loc: The War Machine
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Give up now. All women are lesbians.
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circularvortex
Bass Head




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Re: Best Move Possible... [Re: Ego Death]
#7757478 - 12/14/07 08:32 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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GHB?
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EllisDSox
King Hella!

Registered: 01/22/07
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Just be cool. Talk to her a lot before she goes away, and maybe set up some form of contact (email, phone, whatever) for while she's gone. If you've only been hanging out with her for a few weeks, you'll look desperate and scare her off if you suddenly start telling her you really like her.
Girls, by and large, want you to be into them personally- don't come across as someone who will just fall for any girl who's nice to him. That said, do what you want. I don't want to be one of those arseholes who do dating advice.
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badchad
Mad Scientist

Registered: 03/02/05
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It's been "a month, month and a half" and you haven't made any progress?
You have no chance. If she wanted anything to do with you (romantically), she would have made a move of some sort. You have been eternally banishe to the "friend zone". Move on.
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igwna
The Cap'n


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Re: Best Move Possible... [Re: badchad]
#7757627 - 12/14/07 09:27 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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you never know she might be real stressed, doesnt want to start a relationship now because OF finals. i'd wait til after, build up friendship, wait for things to move on.
just go with the flow. and good luck to ya.
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