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why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship?
    #7750450 - 12/12/07 05:56 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I never understood this.

even if two people who seemed to have the exact same beliefs, would eventually find something regarding religion/spirituality that they disagreed with within each other... just mere personal interpretation would create the slightest difference in two peoples beliefs.

Who is seriously looking to date themselves? self absorbed people maybe? a relationship is communication, compromise and complementing (not: your eyes are pretty, the other complement).
I can see some peoples aversion to dating on the other side of the fence: atheist to fundamentalist and vice versa.... but still that shouldnt matter if the two people are on the same level...
meaning that they are mature enough to let their beliefs get in the way of getting to know someone without automatically labelling them as a "brainwashed bible thumper" or "an immature heathen".

I think people have much more in common than they think.... there are so many characteristic/personality facets of social interaction beyond polarizing a situation by whether or not you believe a god exists.


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: SneezingPenis]
    #7750500 - 12/12/07 06:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I think it's interesting how differently people think. I'm beginning to think the human being is more varied and flexible than I once believed. Someone could have the same beliefs as you, but have a completely different temperament and different goals and means of achieving their goals. Someone could have completely different beliefs, but be similar in character.

I agree, polarizing someone from yourself because they believe something that you do not is pretty silly. I do this all the time though. I seem to be drawn more towards people like-minded to myself. It's not so much the What you think about that I am attached to, but the Way you think.


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: SneezingPenis]
    #7750511 - 12/12/07 06:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Everyone has their own deal-breakers. My ideal partner doesn't have to be a particular religion, but I think some religions would be more compatible with others. I could easily deal with a girlfriend who was Wiccan, Gnostic, Buddhist, Hindu, Sufi, Taoist, Bahai'i, Jewish, Agnostic, or a progressive Christian or Muslim. I don't think I could deal very well with a Mormon, Scientologist(sorry Yawning Anus), or fundamentalist of any stripe(including fundamentalist materialism). That's not to say that I couldn't agree to disagree with such a person. But a relationship requires more than just acceptance. It requires chemistry, and there are some belief systems that would make it very hard for that chemistry to be there.


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: SneezingPenis]
    #7750637 - 12/12/07 06:28 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

i don't think it has any bearing on a relationship if the people don't let the religion/beliefs themselves effect them. however, when they beliefs influence or drive the actions is when problems are most likely to arise

also, i'm sure a lot of people take offense to someone who doesn't believe what they believe, or feel the need to go on the defensive because they immediately doubt their 'moral' character


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: demiu5]
    #7750750 - 12/12/07 06:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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demius said:
i don't think it has any bearing on a relationship if the people don't let the religion/beliefs themselves effect them. however, when they beliefs influence or drive the actions is when problems are most likely to arise




Yes, but I too think it is possible for two people with different religious beliefs to be together.
I think that it all breaks down to intention. If both partners are decided to build their relationship on understanding and acceptance. After all, love IS about acceptance too. If both of them choose to be relaxed and focused when a contradictory discussion occurs and keep in mind all the other aspects that are good about their relationship. People don't really fight about beliefs, they fight because of frustration and anger.


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: SneezingPenis]
    #7750882 - 12/12/07 07:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I dont think most religion is in itself is imposing. Its the people that adopt this attitude.

All ethical responsibilities aside, everyone should realize you can only show people the path. You cant force anyone to "be" anything.


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7751033 - 12/12/07 07:43 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

yes, but most religious people seem to have pretty defined lines of what is right and acceptable and what is not


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: demiu5]
    #7751125 - 12/12/07 08:07 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yes, I am aware of that fact. What I truly wanted to express was that I am convinced that if there's determination coming from both partners, if they act from the love that they feel for each other instead of setting their stubbornness, it is very much possible that they get pass the differences.
Frankly, I don't see much of a difference between two people who are fans of different football teams and two people who have different religions. Those who are determined enough to focus on the love that they feel for each other instead of their differences have great chances of having a happy relationship. :smile:


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Re: why should a persons religion have any bearing upon a relationship? [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7752686 - 12/13/07 06:44 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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MushroomTrip said:
Yes, I am aware of that fact. What I truly wanted to express was that I am convinced that if there's determination coming from both partners, if they act from the love that they feel for each other instead of setting their stubbornness, it is very much possible that they get pass the differences.




i don't doubt that at all, i just can't think of anyone i've ever known who has had success there.


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