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My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married.
    #7712818 - 12/03/07 08:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

A lot of you already know about this Chinese girlfriend, as someone decided to point out the fact that I was making some posts about her in the anonymous forum.

Anyway, I'll give a bit of info on what's up.

Here's a basic time line of the relationship.
-We internet dated for a long time, fell in love, sent nudes, etc.
-I came to Shanghai to live with her.
-She told her parents, they wouldn't let me live there, so we got an apartment.
-One month later, I had to go back to Canada.
-Four months later, she broke up with me because her parents put too much pressure on her.
-I spend a couple months finishing my study, then jump on a plane to China.
-I spend one month living with a female friend.
-I spend three months living in a hostel.
-The ex-girlfriend contacts me and asks me if I want to go to Beijing.
-I meet her in Beijing, she's there for work so she has a hotel room.
-The hotel room has one bed.
-She fakes conversation, with a small, sexy silk dress on. Nipples visible through it.
-Tells me she wants sex, but after Beijing we won't see each other again.
-We had a great time for three days, then went back to Shanghai separately.
-We go on some dates, I go with her and her cousins a few times.

Then we're basically back together, but her parents don't know and she won't promise me any future together, although she talks about our future, she will not admit there is one.


What follows is what happened the last couple days.
Take note that this was all over MSN, so her quotes are exact and the grammar is unchanged.
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I was talking to some American that lived in Shanghai for seven years, primarily because he likes weed, dated a Chinese girl of 23 when he was 14, and he looks like a Mexican.

We talked, and talked, and he told me that his dad used to make 30,000rmb teaching English in Shanghai. I ask about his resume, 35 years experience, training in 3 countries... etc. Not something I'll ever have on my resume.

But I decided I would tell my girlfriend the amount of money he made, without mentioning the resume requirements. So I did. And as expected, she says.

"Wow. I can buy many bags with that money. Can you get a job like that?"

And I decide to play her a bit, see if she's greedy. Just out of fun.

So I tell her that I don't need so much money, it's too much for my single life.

Then, as expected, she tries to convince me that I do
"If you want to live in China, haha, you won't say that. You need to pay everything. Once you are sick, go to hospital, that thing costs huge money."

I say, "But your family combined has never made that much money, how are they still alive?"

"Life can be cheap, uncomfortable, or expensive - convenient. Do you like spend 1.5 hours take buss, subway home or spend 30 minutes driving home?"

Then I tell her, "But saving an hour of resting on the subway is better than the work required to get such a good job."

She says ok. And I thought it was over. No biggy.
But here's the shocker.

I asked her why she tried to convince me I needed so much money.

She said, "You don't, I wish I had it. That's all. And why I need so much money, because I want to buy a house. Why I want to buy a house, because I can to live alone, without my parents. Why I want to live without my parents, because I want my own life. If I can buy a house, my parents won't say much."

I didn't know what to say, so I said good bye and we stopped talking.
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Next day I ask her what I should say. She says just hold her. I'm ok with that.

She asks if I hate her. I tell her I don't think so. She tells me she's such a bitch. I say nothing.

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Later on I tell her that if she wants to marry me, she must marry me before I start work.

She accused me of not wanting to work. But this isn't true.

I told her the truth, that it is because I want to be sure she wants to be with me for the right reasons.

She again told me she was a bitch. Nothing more was said.

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This morning after a while she asks me,

"What should I say?"

I tell her that I don't know.

Later on she asks, "What do you want me to say?"

I tell her, "Maybe that I should buy you a ring, maybe not. I don''t know what I want you to say. You don't need to say anything right now."

About ten minutes later, she asks me.
"Can you buy me a ring?"

I say yes.

Then she adds, "A pretty one. Not some ring for my mom."
(The mom thing is because all of the clothing/bags (cheap) I have bought for her have been nice in my eyes, but in fact, they are more suited to a middle aged woman than someone her age. She doesn't mean expensive by pretty.)

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So, that's it. That's how it happened.

Now, how should I pick the ring?


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712841 - 12/03/07 08:53 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Get the fuck out of there. Now.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Innominate]
    #7712847 - 12/03/07 08:55 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Nah, nah, nah.

I know it sounds crazy, after what I've shown you, but there are many good things in this relationship that I'm not going to pass up on.

I'm confident in my decision.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712858 - 12/03/07 08:59 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Well, I wish you the best. I've been in that kind of situation, and I know there's not much I can say to make you change your mind. You might want to consider a pre nup. Good luck.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Innominate]
    #7712865 - 12/03/07 09:00 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Innominate said:
Get the fuck out of there. Now.





Seriously


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Innominate]
    #7712871 - 12/03/07 09:02 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Well, I wish you the best. I've been in that kind of situation, and I know there's not much I can say to make you change your mind. You might want to consider a pre nup. Good luck.




Will consider.

But I don't have anything valuable anyway. No house, no car, no cash.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712884 - 12/03/07 09:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

well if your ok with everything valuable you end up getting...being all her's then you should be set, because she has clearly stated to you that "she is a bitch", so be ready for w/e that word means in chinese


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712886 - 12/03/07 09:06 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

dude.... don't take offense or anything, but how old are you? are you really, really sure that marriage is a smart idea? I know the relationship can be great and that you two love each other, but wouldn't it be wise to just let things lie for a while, just to make sure the relationship can endure the test of time?

i'm not saying don't get married, just that you should really wait a bit. it doesn't seem to be the most stable relationship, and you don't want to end up another divorce statistic.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
    #7712903 - 12/03/07 09:09 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Divorce rates aren't that high here.

But anyway.

I want to live with her and if she lives with me, her family will out her again. Unless we get married.

It must be done!


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712919 - 12/03/07 09:12 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

First of all buddy, you are way too young to even think about getting married. You are way too unexperienced with women to even deal with this relationship. You went WAY out of your way to move to China to be with this chick (surpriseingly, I actually moved to china with a women to do the same stupid stuff you are doing...but in a slightly more fucked up version maybe)

Women want money from their men for the most part, they want a man who can support them and you're too young to even start doing that if you ask me.

This chick soooo much has the upper hand on you and you dont even see it. You're blind to it.

And, it is extremely common in China for families to live together in the same house. Not like in north america. In China the whole family often lives together with the kids, mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, cousins, the whole shabang bro, for their whole lives chinese live like that often

i've been back and fourth with you in the anonomous forum, and i kinda like you, because ive done the same thing in my life moving to stupid-China to be with a women I was in love with.

Anyways, you're waaayyy too young and waayy to unexperienced. You can put a ring on her finger and be all engaged and shit, but if I was you I would prolong that wedding sooo far away, because believe me, the chances are very high for you that shit is going to hit the fan eventually and then you'll be stuck in stupid-China wondering what the hell happened and why you're even there.

Just from reading your topic, I can tell you, this brawd is playing you like a one of those annoying chinese string insturments (i forget what theyre called) that make that loud annoying screechy noises. She's fucking with your head in all sorts of ways, and is doing a very successful job at doing it i might add.

Maybe i am wrong, maybe you are in "love"..you can put a ring on her finger if it makes you feel better, but prolong that wedding sooo far ahead in the future if you know what is good for you.

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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7712937 - 12/03/07 09:15 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

lives with you where? do you even have a job? you're severely under-qualified for that job you spoke of in your story

her being so excited at the prospect of money, you tactfully leaving out information about your ability to get that job; there are just so many uncertain/false pretenses in this engagement, it's just asking for trouble.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Innominate]
    #7712948 - 12/03/07 09:17 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Get the fuck out of there. Now.


I have to agree

especially since you didn't post any pix :goodmorning:


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
    #7713016 - 12/03/07 09:33 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

He can get a job teaching english lessons in China faster than he could get a job scrapeing shit off the ground in Canada. For most places you don't need any type of degree or any experience doing it, all you have to do is walk into a english lessons place and say a few sentences in english and he could get a job faster than a chinese person can make a fucking stirfry. I'm not kidding you, I did it myself.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: tiny_rabid_birds]
    #7713027 - 12/03/07 09:35 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I think she knows that I can't get that job.

The jobs that I would be capable of without additional training and experience would pay about 8000rmb per month + apartment. (Teaching English. This is about $1100 US/CAN and would provide a fairly good life for me. Her job is IT with 4000rmb per month, 4 years university. Her parents are uneducated and make 700rmb each per month.)


To clear things up, she's not living with me now. And I am familiar with the Chinese traditional many families per house. Her family has a pretty big ass house, for China, so after marriage, hopefully I can live there.


Edited by kidaihuan (12/03/07 09:37 PM)


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: skydog]
    #7713040 - 12/03/07 09:38 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I agree with ggreatone 234. Get engaged to her, but don't get married to her, or maybe don't even set a date with her right away.
This girl told you she didn't even EXPECT a future for you two. That was her thinking of herself and her future, making sure she didn't back into any holes that she couldn't get out of later on if she decided that you weren't what she wanted.
YOU are doing EXACTLY what she was trying to AVOID. Pardon the caps.
What I believe you should do, is don't back into that bottomless pit of marriage until you know it's right.
This girl knows your going to be worth something. I would rather marry a girl who didn't know my net worth, but it's too late for that now.
She has shown herself to be the scourge of the woman gender, the Gold Digger. How you choose to deal with THIS situation may well decide your entire happiness in life. This is a really big deal and I'm not sure if you realize the consiquences that may (and I feel will) come of marrying this girl so soon.
I apologize if I offend you, but I can see you giving a big sigh of relief when this girl fucks up or leaves you, and you had decided not to marry her, so it would be a live and learn situation. If you had been married though. Your life and well-being could well be irreperably damaged. I would think VERY hard before giving this girl (who I believe is a freeloader looking to get a better life than she grew up in, with the least effort possible) your financial wellbeing.
Regardless, I bid you good luck, however you decide to go about this situation.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713044 - 12/03/07 09:39 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

lol your gf is saying "i wanna live on my own on my own with your money" and your saying "i wanna live with her parents" :lol:

never bail a relationship out with a ring, because thats all it will ever be worth...a ring which will be sold as soon as she realizes all she's getting after that is teabags


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: makaveli8x8]
    #7713091 - 12/03/07 09:47 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Although it is fun to be spontaneous, I know. At least give this more thought- I don't think she wants marriage for the right reasons. You'll regret it later.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: makaveli8x8]
    #7713096 - 12/03/07 09:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah...

We'll see what happens. I don't plan to set a date, and when we do, it will basically be going to hong kong, getting married, then coming back to Shanghai to have the wedding supper.

There isn't any fancy dresses or anything in her family tradition...

I realize what she was saying.


The thing is though, I'm never going to own any property here, at least not for many years, so in reality, there won't be much she can take for a long time. If she was playing me, she couldn't stop at marriage. It'd have to go on forever.

I think it's more than that. If she wanted money, she has a lot better options than me.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713112 - 12/03/07 09:50 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

It's not spontaneous, at all.

Before the breakup we had talked a lot about marriage and it was in the plans. But the legal problems that caused me to go back to Canada took a big toll.

Since then we've talked a little, not directly saying marriage between us, but talked about our lives in the future... including marriage. Talked about our lives together.

I think it'll work out. When we lived together, that was amazing. Best time of my life.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713127 - 12/03/07 09:54 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

If she can't even be straight up about marriage, why are you considering it?


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    #7713139 - 12/03/07 09:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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If she can't even be straight up about marriage, why are you considering it?




She wasn't sure about whether she was ready to tell her parents.

She's said it now.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713141 - 12/03/07 09:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

So this marriage "proposal" came about because of the 2 of you playing head games with each other? This is such a bad idea. Really, think about what you're doing here - not a good idea!!!


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713154 - 12/03/07 10:00 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Oh, I see now.
Be careful man.
You said living with her was awesome.
Well, I think you should get engaged and live together.
Consider it the "test run" :wink:


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713171 - 12/03/07 10:03 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

It sounds like this girl has dollar signs in her eyes...

Whenever a chick has that...I'm fucking out of there.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Innominate]
    #7713174 - 12/03/07 10:03 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Get the fuck out of there. Now.




Also, how old are you and how old is she?


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Xeluc]
    #7713175 - 12/03/07 10:03 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I hope this guy is a puppet. I wouldn't curse the things this guy has going for him on nobody.


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    #7713185 - 12/03/07 10:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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So this marriage "proposal" came about because of the 2 of you playing head games with each other? This is such a bad idea. Really, think about what you're doing here - not a good idea!!!




No proposing yet.

This is just the 'Are you going to say yes if I propose to you?'.

It's not that I hadn't wanted to marry her before, it's just now I've got her to finally give the OK to it.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713201 - 12/03/07 10:09 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

No offence, but I wouldn't even think of marrying a girl that I have to ask to make sure it's alright with.


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    #7713213 - 12/03/07 10:10 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

"Me want American man who make money good. Me no want to live like peasant. Give me now money."


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Xeluc]
    #7713222 - 12/03/07 10:11 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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No offence, but I wouldn't even think of marrying a girl that I have to ask to make sure it's alright with.




I think I know where you're coming from, but I needed to know if she was ready to tell her parents.

Last time she did, that did not go well.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713238 - 12/03/07 10:14 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, I can understand what you mean by that as well. You've got yourself a predicament, to say the least.
I think it's be amazing to just fly to China though..
Girl set aside, I'm jealous.


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    #7713342 - 12/03/07 10:37 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Naw I dont look at this kids (yes I am calling you a kid) situation with being very money related. True, women want a man who can bring in the bucks no doubt about that, but his situation is far beyond just money. She sounds no greedier than any other chick who wants a man to support her financially.

First off, this chick has "vaginal rot" or whatever you call it, highly likely it is an STD. So, we can all assume he is getting no pussy right now.

Second, she doesnt give him head. Nuff said about that.

Next, he has no money other than the cash he "mooches" off his parents, that always goes well with the ladies (sarcasim)

He has no job. What women in her right mind would want to marry a guy who has no job?

He doesnt have the education yet to get a high paying job.

He comes to the fucking shroomery to ask complete strangers "help me find a engagement ring". Dude, get a fucking clue. Pick the ring your own damn self you idiot.

He moves halfway around the planet to live with this chick, and he doesnt even actually live with her.. wtf is that all about?

He is probably only 18 years old and has never even been in any other serious relationships before (and i wouldnt even consider what you have with this girl a serious committed relationship anyways)

The dialog in your first post of this topic between the two of you is worse than jr high school communication. It's really stupid, and the bastard doesnt even know it!

I could go on and on and on with this turkey-boy.

Shes going to eventually roll you up like a fucking egg-roll and throw your stupid ass all the way back to Canada where you belong. And she will be laughing her ass off in the process

lol - no, i really do like this kid though, highly entertaining, but he wont even reply to any of my replies from first-hand-experience being in the practically the same exact pair of shoes he is walking in, so alls i can say is follow your unexperienced heart and watch it get smashed to shit by her and pulverized into some kind of exotic Chinese delicesy and served to some Shanghai billionare at a fancy resturant. When you should really listen to what other people are telling you in this topic, but i doubt you can youre so blind and stupid for a chick with vaginal-rot-STD's

Wish I could have helped.

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    #7713371 - 12/03/07 10:42 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

i'd switch all my dollars to rmb in the mean time.


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    #7713383 - 12/03/07 10:44 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Already did it.

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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: GGreatOne234]
    #7713410 - 12/03/07 10:51 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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GGreatOne234 said:First off, this chick has "vaginal rot" or whatever you call it, highly likely it is an STD. So, we can all assume he is getting no pussy right now.



It's not an STD and this is false. It's cervical erosion and I find no reason to not have sex.

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Second, she doesnt give him head. Nuff said about that.



True.

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Next, he has no money other than the cash he "mooches" off his parents, that always goes well with the ladies (sarcasim)

He has no job. What women in her right mind would want to marry a guy who has no job?

He doesnt have the education yet to get a high paying job.



True.

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He comes to the fucking shroomery to ask complete strangers "help me find a engagement ring". Dude, get a fucking clue. Pick the ring your own damn self you idiot.



I didn't actually expect to get help here. I planned to ask her cousins and my female Chinese friends.

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He is probably only 18 years old and has never even been in any other serious relationships before (and i wouldnt even consider what you have with this girl a serious committed relationship anyways)



True.

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lol - no, i really do like this kid though, highly entertaining, but he wont even reply to any of my replies from first-hand-experience being in the practically the same exact pair of shoes he is walking in, so alls i can say is follow your unexperienced heart and watch it get smashed to shit by her and pulverized into some kind of exotic Chinese delicesy and served to some Shanghai billionare at a fancy resturant. When you should really listen to what other people are telling you in this topic, but i doubt you can youre so blind and stupid for a chick with vaginal-rot-STD's



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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713447 - 12/03/07 11:07 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

> She tells me she's such a bitch.

One thing you should remember about women:

When a woman tells you that she is a bitch early in a relationship, she is being absolutely truthful.

You will ignore it because you don't want it to be true, and it doesn't seem true because early on she will hide her bitchiness - but one day you will be like...damn...it's not like she didn't warn me.


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    #7713520 - 12/03/07 11:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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> She tells me she's such a bitch.

One thing you should remember about women:

When a woman tells you that she is a bitch early in a relationship, she is being absolutely truthful.

You will ignore it because you don't want it to be true, and it doesn't seem true because early on she will hide her bitchiness - but one day you will be like...damn...it's not like she didn't warn me.




I've been with her for a total of about 2.5 years before she told me she was a bitch.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713609 - 12/03/07 11:47 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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kidaihuan said:
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GGreatOne234 said:First off, this chick has "vaginal rot" or whatever you call it, highly likely it is an STD. So, we can all assume he is getting no pussy right now.



It's not an STD and this is false. It's cervical erosion and I find no reason to not have sex.




Q. What Causes Cervical Erosion?

Various types of trauma can cause cervical erosion. Sexual intercouse, tampons, the insertion of a speculum or other objects into the vagina are all ways that trauma may occur. Other causes include severe vaginal infections or STDS such as herpes or early syphilis. Forgetting to remove your tampon can cause vaginal infections that can lead to cervical erosion. Occasionally vaginal douches or other chemicals such as contraceptive creams or foams cause cervical erosion.

http://womenshealth.about.com/od/cervicalerosion/f/causecerverosio.htm


Naw, it's just her tampon :hehehe:


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: GGreatOne234]
    #7713653 - 12/03/07 11:59 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Naw I dont look at this kids (yes I am calling you a kid) situation with being very money related. True, women want a man who can bring in the bucks no doubt about that, but his situation is far beyond just money. She sounds no greedier than any other chick who wants a man to support her financially.

First off, this chick has "vaginal rot" or whatever you call it, highly likely it is an STD. So, we can all assume he is getting no pussy right now.

Second, she doesnt give him head. Nuff said about that.

Next, he has no money other than the cash he "mooches" off his parents, that always goes well with the ladies (sarcasim)

He has no job. What women in her right mind would want to marry a guy who has no job?

He doesnt have the education yet to get a high paying job.

He comes to the fucking shroomery to ask complete strangers "help me find a engagement ring". Dude, get a fucking clue. Pick the ring your own damn self you idiot.

He moves halfway around the planet to live with this chick, and he doesnt even actually live with her.. wtf is that all about?

He is probably only 18 years old and has never even been in any other serious relationships before (and i wouldnt even consider what you have with this girl a serious committed relationship anyways)

The dialog in your first post of this topic between the two of you is worse than jr high school communication. It's really stupid, and the bastard doesnt even know it!

I could go on and on and on with this turkey-boy.

Shes going to eventually roll you up like a fucking egg-roll and throw your stupid ass all the way back to Canada where you belong. And she will be laughing her ass off in the process

lol - no, i really do like this kid though, highly entertaining, but he wont even reply to any of my replies from first-hand-experience being in the practically the same exact pair of shoes he is walking in, so alls i can say is follow your unexperienced heart and watch it get smashed to shit by her and pulverized into some kind of exotic Chinese delicesy and served to some Shanghai billionare at a fancy resturant. When you should really listen to what other people are telling you in this topic, but i doubt you can youre so blind and stupid for a chick with vaginal-rot-STD's

Wish I could have helped.

GG




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    #7713688 - 12/04/07 12:10 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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StreetFreak said:
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kidaihuan said:
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GGreatOne234 said:First off, this chick has "vaginal rot" or whatever you call it, highly likely it is an STD. So, we can all assume he is getting no pussy right now.



It's not an STD and this is false. It's cervical erosion and I find no reason to not have sex.




Q. What Causes Cervical Erosion?

Various types of trauma can cause cervical erosion. Sexual intercouse, tampons, the insertion of a speculum or other objects into the vagina are all ways that trauma may occur. Other causes include severe vaginal infections or STDS such as herpes or early syphilis. Forgetting to remove your tampon can cause vaginal infections that can lead to cervical erosion. Occasionally vaginal douches or other chemicals such as contraceptive creams or foams cause cervical erosion.

http://womenshealth.about.com/od/cervicalerosion/f/causecerverosio.htm


Naw, it's just her tampon :hehehe:




Yeah, I know. I've read that.

If it is herpes, that's not good.

But There are a lot of other options.


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    #7713845 - 12/04/07 01:56 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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    #7713908 - 12/04/07 03:08 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Merkin said:
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If it was herpes, it means I have it too, so we'd both be fucked.

She didn't cheat, so it's not like she got it from somewhere else.

But there's little reason to believe that it is. There are a lot of other possible causes for cervical erosion, and if it was herpes, the doctor would have gave her some meds.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713933 - 12/04/07 03:34 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Is this marriage going to be recognized/legitimized by your country of citizenship? Is she going to want to become a citizen of whatever country you're originally from (canada?)?

One of my wife's coworkers caught a pretty bad case of yellow fever and married a thai dancer on a trip to Thailand several years back. She didn't come back to the states with him right away. After three years of sending her parents money to build a bigger house, a couple of fuckvisits back in Thailand, and lots of lies & broken promises, she never got her paperwork in order or whatever it should have taken to get her over here. 6 months ago he was made one last trip back.... he came back alone and does not wear the ring anymore.

But as far as the USA is concerned, he was never married. So it's nothing more than a hard lesson learned for him now.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Gr8fulJ420]
    #7713963 - 12/04/07 03:53 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Is this marriage going to be recognized/legitimized by your country of citizenship? Is she going to want to become a citizen of whatever country you're originally from (canada?)?

One of my wife's coworkers caught a pretty bad case of yellow fever and married a thai dancer on a trip to Thailand several years back. She didn't come back to the states with him right away. After three years of sending her parents money to build a bigger house, a couple of fuckvisits back in Thailand, and lots of lies & broken promises, she never got her paperwork in order or whatever it should have taken to get her over here. 6 months ago he was made one last trip back.... he came back alone and does not wear the ring anymore.

But as far as the USA is concerned, he was never married. So it's nothing more than a hard lesson learned for him now.




Yeah, the marriage will be legitimate.

But I don't plan to bring her back to Canada. Not indefinitely, at least. She can live a much better life here and I can too. I have no intentions of going back.

It's such a hassle getting citizenship, too. She'd have to live in Canada for five years or something. We'll see though.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7713983 - 12/04/07 04:25 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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About ten minutes later, she asks me.
"Can you buy me a ring?"




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    #7714005 - 12/04/07 04:41 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

If I buy her a ring and she pawns it, that's cool.

I'd learn my lesson then.

But that won't happen.

Gotta get her ring size with a string next time she's here.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7714076 - 12/04/07 06:26 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Seems like she's not the girl for you, it appears she just wants money.

You need to flip that shit on her - tell her you can get a nice ring but it won't be worth much and if she loves you she will be happy with that.

Tell her you found a job making a low wage and you can afford for you both to live economy in an apartment - if she bails then she never did like you.

If you get married anyway just so you keep hitting the rotted puss then you definately better get a contract so she can't take half your shit.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Ego Death]
    #7714085 - 12/04/07 06:35 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Seems like she's not the girl for you, it appears she just wants money.

You need to flip that shit on her - tell her you can get a nice ring but it won't be worth much and if she loves you she will be happy with that.

Tell her you found a job making a low wage and you can afford for you both to live economy in an apartment - if she bails then she never did like you.

If you get married anyway just so you keep hitting the rotted puss then you definately better get a contract so she can't take half your shit.




Well.

Cost of the ring isn't important, and I know that she doesn't expect an expensive one. When we were looking at rings months ago she shows me the ones she liked and they were under $100.

I had to explain the difference between a $100 ring and a more expensive one, but she didn't seem to mind. Told me to that I can just tell her it is expensive and as long as it is pretty, she is happy. I would bet my life that she told the truth.

The job I would be working at, still isn't much. We would be living in an apartment and we would never be able to afford a house of our own, if we wanted to live any life outside of paying for the house. She's not exactly marrying for riches. A lot of her co-workers make almost as much as I would, but as Engineers. And yes, they are single for the most part.

Half my shit, as I keep saying, is still nothing. And since I'm not a Chinese citizen, I don't think it would apply. But it wouldn't bother me, anyway. I don't see it as being something I have to worry about.


As for where I met her, I'm not going to say specifically, because it wasn't a dating site. She was technical support for a program that didn't work that well, so I spent a lot of time talking to her. But I had been on that site chatting with the tech support for a couple years then, just for fun, since it was such a cultural difference. Started off the same with her, just went further.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7714234 - 12/04/07 08:00 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Divorce rates aren't that high here.

But anyway.

I want to live with her and if she lives with me, her family will out her again. Unless we get married.

It must be done!




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    #7714437 - 12/04/07 09:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Get the fuck out of there. Now.



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    #7714890 - 12/04/07 11:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

I'd be a mile away seconds after the words "vaginal-rot" came out of her mouth. yeeeeeeeck.


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    #7715284 - 12/04/07 12:50 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

This guy comes her for advice and ignores everything people tell him. He's young and dumb and so is his chinese slave. In 5 years she will be laughing that some fucking canadian came to "live with her," and this guy will be laying in bed all day wondering what the fuck he was thinking.


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    #7715316 - 12/04/07 12:58 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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I'd be a mile away seconds after the words "vaginal-rot" came out of her mouth. yeeeeeeeck.




ahhhahahaha oh man this topic is so highly entertaining for me lmao:grin:

I want more details, I want daily updates, more dialoge of their conversations, more about your sex life with her

I love the actual topic name, "My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married." LOL!!! "man this relationship is going no where fast, so, we decided it would best to just get married!" lol

oh man, please tell us more, i beg of you


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    #7715319 - 12/04/07 12:58 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

You're mental, and not in any healthy sense. China has some really great food, and if she can't make it, and..

I'm just going over old things again and again. But I'd be tempted to go out with a chef, just because of all I could learn.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7715351 - 12/04/07 01:08 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Vaginal Rot.




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    #7715437 - 12/04/07 01:28 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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Vaginal Rot.




...dude.:flowstone:




BUT HE LOVES HER MAAAAAN!

Until she dumps his ass for a fat chinese business tycoon who can buy her many bags.


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    #7716688 - 12/04/07 06:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Well, I'll try to update as much as possible, but you've got to understand that this relationship isn't based on daily drama. Overall, it's a fairly good relationship.

My only buff is that although I talk to her from 9 am to 10 pm every day, I only get to see her once every couple weeks when she decides that she has a worthwhile excuse to tell her parents. That's why I've been pushing her a bit to tell them more, get married, etc. I miss the time when we lived together.

Someone asked about the sex...

Ahhh... she has been really down lately because of the cervical erosion and she believes that it may cause her to not be sensitive to sex anymore (which it won't). So she keeps telling he how our sex on the first night together was best. I agree, but I keep telling her it was the circumstances that caused that, not that it was the first time. Although it might have helped, she hadn't had sex for at least two years and told me "it felt like 1000 ants bite my middle".

It was my first time then, with her, so I was quite cautious, and the fact that we had just met in person then added to that. But as she said, as soon as i touched her skin, she pulled my hand under her shirt and rubbed her breasts with it. It was a really good first time.

But I thought on the first night I gave her oral and she gave me a hand job because we had no condom. I don't know. I do remember the first sex, I just don't know when it was. I'm not going to contradict her anyway because I'd rather not burst her bubble.


Buuut! You're probably more interested in current sex.

That's why she comes here. Every time she comes here it consists of sex and then she leaves. But I told her this really isn't what I want and I'd much rather watch a movie with her than have sex. She told me she didn't even like sex. We agreed.

Next time she comes, we watch a movie, have sex, I cook dinner (I insisted, she usually does), have sex, have a nap. We then went out with her cousins before she went home. She can't spend the night because her parents would wonder where she is. Both satisfied. That's basically what happens when she gets to come here.

I was also having some problems... climaxing, when she would basically just come, have sex, then go. I keep telling her that it was psychological, but she keeps telling me that it is because she's doing something wrong.

I still think it was psychological, but maybe not, I'll never tell her, but it probably has something to do with the fact that foreplay is completely one sided in our sex.

I don't complain though, because she doesn't give oral and a handjob consists of a bunch of uncomfortable shaking and squeezing. If it hurts I tell her, but otherwise I try to keep a straight face and give her oral. She stops then.

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As for cooking, yes she is a good cook. She tells me she can't cook anything, but in reality she's very good at cooking. Makes a lot of nice dishes and out of all of them, there's only been one that I was unable to eat.

It's just important that I watch the meats to make sure they aren't pink inside. I don't think she understands that the meat should be cooked through, especially since this meat isn't exactly regulated.

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Since it's the morning right now, no dialog yet. But!

Last night I was wondering whether she was still OK with her decision, because we hadn't talked about it when she said.

"Will our kid be cute?"

I've been waiting a long time for her to acknowledge that. For the last few months we have talked about life together, but not directly stating that. It would be saying 'Will my kid be cute?' then 'Depends, if the dad is cute, then yes'.

Meh, sounds small. But feels good. And yes, I do plan to have a kid or two at some point. She's not talking right now.


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    #7716731 - 12/04/07 06:18 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

man


It is really weird that you would post all this on a forum.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: moosehead]
    #7716761 - 12/04/07 06:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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It is really weird that you would post all this on a forum.




He has nobody to talk to, not even his own gf. I'm sure the local Chinese shun him. Must be lonely over there. I guess finding a girl he likes without vaginal rot in Canada was too much of a burden.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: StreetFreak]
    #7716770 - 12/04/07 06:27 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

This thread is bumming me out.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7716811 - 12/04/07 06:37 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Eh, now you're kind of boring me now..

Come back when you find out shes been cheating on you or something else good so we can all rub in your face and tell you "told you so!"

Then again, this whole vag-rot thing honestly limits her in a huge way. 99% of men would be smart enough to run away screaming after seeing that. So she found a guy/kid who is desperate or stupid enough to stick around with her rotty-vagina and still actually bang her. wow, you sir are one fucking piece of work! A fucking Picasso in true form. Fucking Einstein..

Fuck China, those bastards have taken over the world basically already. Economic geeks taking over the world. The meek will inherit the earth and all that jazz.

I like America better

Check this out, this is american, Richfield fucking Ohio '93:


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: StreetFreak]
    #7716823 - 12/04/07 06:40 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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moosehead said:
man


It is really weird that you would post all this on a forum.




He has nobody to talk to, not even his own gf. I'm sure the local Chinese shun him. Must be lonely over there. I guess finding a girl he likes without vaginal rot in Canada was too much of a burden.




I do have people I can talk to, but that's not the point. I'm not exactly looking for answers here.

But I don't have many people, you're right. I don't speak mandarin.


I don't mean to bum you out, but there's not much to say right now.

It'll get more interesting once I've got the ring and her parents find out.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7716845 - 12/04/07 06:45 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

no. i mean, it's not like your story isn't "good" enough or whatever, it's that I don't wanna hear it.

I don't mean to be a dick about it. This whole thing reads out like im spying on my unusually boring neighbors. it's uncomfortably close, back up with the detail.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: moosehead]
    #7716914 - 12/04/07 07:00 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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no. i mean, it's not like your story isn't "good" enough or whatever, it's that I don't wanna hear it.

I don't mean to be a dick about it. This whole thing reads out like im spying on my unusually boring neighbors. it's uncomfortably close, back up with the detail.




Fair enough.

I'll update when something more interesting happens. May be a while from now.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: StreetFreak]
    #7716982 - 12/04/07 07:18 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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It's just important that I watch the meats to make sure they aren't pink inside. I don't think she understands that the meat should be cooked through, especially since this meat isn't exactly regulated.




So many people get this wrong.

Beef: If it's steak, searing each side will be sufficient to kill the surface bacteria, the muscle inside will not be contaminated. Any other form of cooking is wrong. Anyone that complains that their meat has blood in it, I fully endorse you become a vegitarien. For those of us that don't have a problem with killing for food, accept the blood. There's nothing wrong with blood, and it makes great soups, puddings and gravies.

Pork: Bloodworm still exists, better cook it thoroughly.

Chicken/birds: Kay, from decades of having belgian women cook it, the way NOT to cook chicken is to stick it into a wok with half a kilo of butter and boil it in water. Unless you like your chiken to taste like a cross between meaty string and chalk.

Fish: Really quick, and really hot. Fish should be enjoyed as close to raw as possible. If you can verify the freshness, eat it raw, or marinade as this will partially cook it.

Shrimp: I really want dried shrimp again. I loved that stuff as a kid.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: Visionary Tools]
    #7717294 - 12/04/07 08:29 PM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Oh, ok. I wasn't clear on that.

There is a lot of pork here and that's mainly what I'm referring to.

Thanks.

As for the blood... solidified duck blood, anyone?


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7718064 - 12/05/07 12:02 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

Duck bill and camel tendons. Delicious.

I haven't really had either, but I'm heading to the Sichuan province in not too long for a foreign exchange.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7718744 - 12/05/07 08:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

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I think it'll work out. When we lived together, that was amazing. Best time of my life.




IT WILL NOT BE LIKE THAT

IT WILL NOT BE FIFTY YEARS OF THAT SAME THING

Throughout your marriage, your relationship will always be changing. It cannot stay the same. You will never again re-experience the excitement of having lived with her like you did. You will both be growing up during this time, and the chances you'll end up feeling the same towards each other five years down the road are ZERO.

ZERO.

You are still a kid. Discussing marriage at an early age is a SURE sign that you are not ready. Not even close. Believe me, this will not go down the way you think it will.

Let me ask you this simple question:

Why do you want to marry her?

If the answer is "Because I love her," then there is no reason to do it now.

If the answer is anything else, it is the wrong reason.

Listen to the people in this thread before it's too late. You have no idea what you're getting into.


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Re: My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married. [Re: kidaihuan]
    #7718749 - 12/05/07 08:19 AM (16 years, 1 month ago)

CRITICAL ALERT: ABORT MISSION<<< ABORT ABORT ABORT


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