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Drewwyann
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my girlfriend's parents suck
#7711401 - 12/03/07 03:09 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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not to me, but to her. They treat her terribly. Not outwardly, its more of a passive agressive thing. Her dad will constantly be on her ass about nothing, they will both yell all throughout the house, they don't feed her well at all, and I'm really fed up with how they treat her.
She has depression, and can hardly deal with her life outside of home. So when she gets home, she needs to relax. But she can't because her dad is a dick and constantly feels the need to stress everyone else in the house the fuck out, and never admits that he is wrong (even though he frequently is)
I was fasting with my girlfriend, and when they asked her why she wasn't eating she explained that she was fasting with me, and they flipped shit.
I don't know what to do, but they are running her ragged. Especially because of the depression.
Her dad is also a drama queen. He likes to make everything seem a shitload worse than it actually is. He reminds me of a child.
What do you suggest i do? I could talk to them about it, email them, or keep quiet. But we have been going out for a long long time, and they know me pretty well, so don't think I'm alienated from them.
She has considered living somewhere else, though they would never let her for the time being at least. So she is thinking of staying with a friend without telling them where she is going. (I'm thinking that would just make it worse though)
So any advice would be appreciated. I'm really fed up with her parents.
(this thread was inspired by losfreddy's "pissed at my girlfriends grandparents" thread.)
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truffleupagus


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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Drewwyann]
#7711493 - 12/03/07 03:38 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Are you in your own place?
And why the hell did they get so upset about you guys fasting? It's actually pretty healthy to do that once in a while from what I gather. I wish I was better at it.
Do they have any idea how unhappy she is though? Sounds like they're probably clueless about that. Maybe both of you should sit down with her parents and talk about the whole situation.
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Drewwyann
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: truffleupagus]
#7711506 - 12/03/07 03:40 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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they called it "annorexic" and stupid. They thought she was going to die basically. The HILARIOUSLY ironic thing is, that they are pagan, and are all about earthy, natural things, but didn't know a god damn thing about fasting.
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truffleupagus


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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Drewwyann]
#7711512 - 12/03/07 03:42 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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That sounds pretty ignorant. How long were you planning on fasting though?
I mean, it's probably only considered annorexia once it becomes a way of life. They sound kinda dumb in any case.
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Jabensis
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: truffleupagus]
#7711582 - 12/03/07 04:05 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would consider myself a dr. phil of sorts. I have been dating my GF for a very long time. If we were living together we would almost be considered legally married. WE started dating at a very young age, one of those "high school sweet hearts" things. I felt it necessary to explain myself to build credibility. Through my relationship i've given every one of my friends advice on everyone of their GF's.
I was jw.... how old are you both? if you don't mind. and how long have you been dating? a year,2,3,4...?
in any case the best thing to do is to catch the dad on something wrong. pay close attention to him so that you can listen for faults in whatever he is saying then you can call him on it via google, if youd like, or store it in your head until he contradicts himself, then bring it up.
DAD: "some bullshit statement" YOU: (passively sitting listening)
a few days/weeks later
DAD: "completely diferent from the previous bullshit statement" YOU: "but didn't you just say something different a few days/weeks agao"
After so many of these his attitude may change.
One thing is for sure. If you two love each other, there is nothing that can come in the way of your happiness together...not even fucked up parents
J
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JonnyOnTheSpot
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Drewwyann]
#7711595 - 12/03/07 04:09 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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my advice is turn 18 and then come back to the shroomery.
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robbyberto
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Drewwyann]
#7711614 - 12/03/07 04:16 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Tell her to feed herself and get out her parents house? Is she a small child or something?
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Mojo
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Come on guys the pub is not here to help you with your highschool girlfriends or getting through your teenage years.
What you’re going through right now is a pre requisite for this website. It’s like that for many important reasons, one being to lower the number of teenage drama threads we accumulate here at the pub.
I say we make the pub 21 and over as the name insinuates.
All these teenage drama posts are really getting under my skin, seriously if I was a mod id go on a banning spree, all these kids are a fucking liability anyway.
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kriminalelement
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Your girlfriend's dad is depressed. That is how older men act when they are depressed. They get cranky and scream a lot.
I went through this with my dad, and it got better once I left the house. If your gf can't live with her parents anymore, y'all should just sign a lease together.
DONT TALK TO THEM about their relationship with their daughter. Unless you've been married for ten years, that is TOTALLY inappropriate. If she has a problem, she has to work it out with THEM. Even if you feel terrible for her, it's none of your business. It's their FAMILY'S problem, and you're not a part of the family as far as they're concerned. Sure, you might be considered a friend of the family, but that does not entitle you to fuck with their family business.
But if you want to piss them off and make them hate you, definitely mention something.
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slackophage
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711631 - 12/03/07 04:19 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Mojo said: Come on guys the pub is not here to help you with your highschool girlfriends or getting through your teenage years.
No shit, use booze and masturbation like the rest of us.
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RipVanWinkle
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711646 - 12/03/07 04:23 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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You're underage, aincha?!
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Mojo
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: RipVanWinkle]
#7711667 - 12/03/07 04:26 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Talkin to me?
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RipVanWinkle
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711677 - 12/03/07 04:29 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yessiree billy bobtail
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Tangerines




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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711679 - 12/03/07 04:29 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Mojo said: Come on guys the pub is not here to help you with your highschool girlfriends or getting through your teenage years.
What you’re going through right now is a pre requisite for this website. It’s like that for many important reasons, one being to lower the number of teenage drama threads we accumulate here at the pub.
I say we make the pub 21 and over as the name insinuates.
All these teenage drama posts are really getting under my skin, seriously if I was a mod id go on a banning spree, all these kids are a fucking liability anyway.
21 and over? thats retarded. Besides we have one of the highest drinking ages in the world.
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711685 - 12/03/07 04:31 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Mojo said: I say we make the pub 21 and over as the name insinuates.
heh, so underage users wud just put their birth year back another few years...that'll stop em...
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Tangerines




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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: SapphireCat]
#7711694 - 12/03/07 04:33 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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By your dumb logic it should really be 16+???? Because I am pretty sure the word 'pub' did not develop here in America...
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Drewwyann
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Mojo]
#7711817 - 12/03/07 04:51 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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what i meant by her parents feed her badly, is they have no healthy food in the household. It's all junkfood and frozen dinners. I am old enough to use the site, and yes i realize my post sounds like it came from a high schooler. I don't want to give any info as to who I am on the shroomery, as I've admitted to doing things (of the illegal sort) and I would much rather keep things to myself. If you can't understand that, then I don't know what to tell you.
and yes, our drinking age is shit.
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Mojo
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Tangerines]
#7711825 - 12/03/07 04:53 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Oh im sure it is since the shroomery servers were in America when it was created. Websites are bound by the laws of the country in which the servers lay. And in America, pubs are 21+. Not to mention, it would take a child the think I was trying to make a serious argument about it.
Meaning,
My logic > than yours.
Its ok, I knew the kidies would be mad.
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JonnyOnTheSpot
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Re: my girlfriend's parents suck [Re: Drewwyann]
#7711852 - 12/03/07 04:57 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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cool drawings in your sig.
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LucidDream
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Quote:
kriminalelement said: DONT TALK TO THEM about their relationship with their daughter. Unless you've been married for ten years, that is TOTALLY inappropriate. If she has a problem, she has to work it out with THEM. Even if you feel terrible for her, it's none of your business. It's their FAMILY'S problem, and you're not a part of the family as far as they're concerned.
Also, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by inserting yourself into your girlfriend's familial relationship dramas. If her parents ask your opinion, fine. But they aren't going to, because right or wrong they aren't open to advice from someone with roughly half the life experience they have. As far as their family goes, you are a NOOB. Try to act accordingly. Bite your tongue and stay out of it.
I understand your frustration, but you'll only step in shit.
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