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Siekoaktiv
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How to talk to a friend
#7682289 - 11/26/07 03:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have a friend who, for the past couple months, has been smoking about a pack a day... I've talked to him before about it, telling him the obvious ("you're gonna get cancer if you keep doing this") but he doesn't seem to care. He just says "Well, I don't care... we're all gonna die sometime, right? Non-smokers die too!". He doesn't realize that doing this doesn't affect just him... it affects everyone, his family, and ME. I can't stand knowing that I'll, at some point, be without him... he's my best friend, and we've been friends for a long time. He has a very impulsive personality, and has hardly any self control. I mean, I'll smoke a cigarette every now and then (maybe once every few weeks, when I'm hanging around with friends), but I NEVER feel the urge to do it again. Maybe it's hard for him to stop if he sees me doing it to, and thinks I'm being hypocritical? I just don't know what to do... I don't know how to get through to him...
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682297 - 11/26/07 03:44 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It is his choice. You expressed your opinion to him and obviously it made no difference. Leave him be and live your own life. I hate when people tell me how to live mine.
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Rustifer
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Tangerines]
#7682303 - 11/26/07 03:46 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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yah I hate it when people give me shit about smoking.
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Jack Albertson
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Tangerines]
#7682307 - 11/26/07 03:47 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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all you have to do is tell him once to plant the seed. youve done that. if his mind is fertile enough your seed will grow.
-------------------- Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say "I think," "I am," but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose.Man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time TRANSCEND
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682332 - 11/26/07 03:54 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Leave him alone, it's his business and his life.
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demiu5
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682339 - 11/26/07 03:55 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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sounds like you have some attachment issues to me
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Rustifer
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: demiu5]
#7682346 - 11/26/07 03:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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maybe he's gay?
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demiu5
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Rustifer]
#7682355 - 11/26/07 03:58 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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not quite where I was going with that
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He doesn't realize that doing this doesn't affect just him... it affects everyone, his family, and ME. I can't stand knowing that I'll, at some point, be without him...
but this is his problem, not his friends
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Rustifer]
#7682361 - 11/26/07 03:59 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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he's probably gay but maybe he just cares about his friend. could be his only one
-------------------- Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say "I think," "I am," but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose.Man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time TRANSCEND
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VisionsToReality
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nothin like a little rustifer & co to lower the maturity level in a thread! my god, will you grow the fuck up already?..
-------------------- Life is one big road with lots of signs, So when you're ridin' through the ruts, Don't you complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy Don't bury your thoughts, Put your vision to reality, yeah!
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Rustifer
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I bet you're gay too.
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CherryBom
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682435 - 11/26/07 04:13 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's just ciggarettes. Who cares. He's not destined to die from cancer at a sad young age because he decided to pick up smoking.
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pong
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: CherryBom]
#7682465 - 11/26/07 04:17 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i dont think you should care too much about his smoking.
if he was fat would you tell him to lose weight every day?
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: pong]
#7682492 - 11/26/07 04:21 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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siek,
even if he does continue smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, he probably won't get cancer until he's 60. some people never even get cancer. my grandma has smoked a pack a day since she was 13 and she is 95 and still kicking like a mule.
besides, you guys will probably get married before your 30's and no longer be friends anyway. marriage > friends
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682494 - 11/26/07 04:22 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Let the guy do whatever he wants with his life.
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Siekoaktiv
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: pong]
#7682512 - 11/26/07 04:25 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm not gay, it's just that he's been my friend for a long time, and he's pretty much my ONLY friend... he's always been there for me, he's pretty much family. Anyway, I guess you're right, he's not going to just randomly die just because he smokes tobacco, plus he smokes a lot of weed, and I heard that the chance of lung cancer goes down if you smoke weed along with tobacco (I guess it's the CBD)... anyway, I guess it's more about getting him to think about his actions. It's a minor thing now, but he could really fuck up his life if he doesn't make some better decisions...
-------------------- I'm in need of a sterile sporeprint, if anyone wants to do a trade for some seeds or something, or maybe just for free if you have a lot of them............. i'd really appreciate it NuggetPorch said - "YES! YES!!!! Coaster its Faint, but its fucking there YOU see it!!! Perhaps we are both on some sort of unusual wave length associated with unusual neuro-transmitters, mind expansion white light, or something we can not even begin to understand or fathom to conceive because it is a gift of insight or a curse given to us by powers beyond our control, something we are not meant to know."
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: GGreatOne234]
#7682514 - 11/26/07 04:25 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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try thos nicotein filters, they are like plastic lil cigerats and you can use them as a sustitute untill you off.
it worked for my mom and she smoked like the devil seance she was 13.
her excuse was " i have been smoking seance i was 13"
but u havent seen her even with a lighter for a while. im really proud. cause i hate cigs
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Rustifer]
#7682530 - 11/26/07 04:27 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Rustifer said: maybe he's gay?
looks like maybe your fishing?
man thats it im ignoring rusty. first it was that gay ass sig he has. i let that fagit shit slide and then hes always making these off the wall comments. i think rustifer you should move to OTD with all the other freaks.
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: GGreatOne234]
#7682535 - 11/26/07 04:29 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i tell them how i feel once, and then from that point on i just give them shit every time i see them smoking, make comments like "man, those things make youre breath smell like burning garbage" or "i see your teeth are an even darker shade of yellow today" 
in the end its their lives and noone but themselves can make them quit. anyone who smokes commercial tobacco is an idiot. let them be one if thats what they want. maybe they want to get cancer and die young? ive been nagging at my parents for years, to no avail.
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Siekoaktiv
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: LeftyBurnz]
#7682568 - 11/26/07 04:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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LosAngelesGraff said: try thos nicotein filters, they are like plastic lil cigerats and you can use them as a sustitute untill you off.
it worked for my mom and she smoked like the devil seance she was 13.
her excuse was " i have been smoking seance i was 13"
but u havent seen her even with a lighter for a while. im really proud. cause i hate cigs
Hehe, I your avatar...
Anyway, the problem isn't that he CAN'T quit, it's just that he doesn't feel the need to.
But really, I don't really have much of a problem with TOBACCO, I mean, it's just a plant... its the chemicals and radioactive fertilizers that they put on it... well, both me and him are growing Rustica plants, and I've got plenty more seeds where those came from. Hopefully, I'll be able to get him to start using that. Homegrown Rustica means a greater nicotine/smoke ratio, and without all the bad pesticides and fertilizers.
-------------------- I'm in need of a sterile sporeprint, if anyone wants to do a trade for some seeds or something, or maybe just for free if you have a lot of them............. i'd really appreciate it NuggetPorch said - "YES! YES!!!! Coaster its Faint, but its fucking there YOU see it!!! Perhaps we are both on some sort of unusual wave length associated with unusual neuro-transmitters, mind expansion white light, or something we can not even begin to understand or fathom to conceive because it is a gift of insight or a curse given to us by powers beyond our control, something we are not meant to know."
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Cowgold
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7682585 - 11/26/07 04:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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1. If your friend won't let you make decisions for him...
2. ...don't be his friend anymore.
3. ???????
4. PROFIT
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Rustifer
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Cowgold]
#7682600 - 11/26/07 04:42 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Cowgold said: 1. If your friend won't let you make decisions for him...
2. ...don't be his friend anymore.
3. ???????
4. PROFIT
qft.
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Siekoaktiv
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Rustifer]
#7682751 - 11/26/07 05:19 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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-------------------- I'm in need of a sterile sporeprint, if anyone wants to do a trade for some seeds or something, or maybe just for free if you have a lot of them............. i'd really appreciate it NuggetPorch said - "YES! YES!!!! Coaster its Faint, but its fucking there YOU see it!!! Perhaps we are both on some sort of unusual wave length associated with unusual neuro-transmitters, mind expansion white light, or something we can not even begin to understand or fathom to conceive because it is a gift of insight or a curse given to us by powers beyond our control, something we are not meant to know."
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Cheezit
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Rustifer]
#7682929 - 11/26/07 06:17 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Rustifer said: I wish you were gay too.
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kriminalelement
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Cheezit]
#7683343 - 11/26/07 08:16 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I am going to tell you some news.
No, I am not running for President, although I do know that a sentence, if it is to be complete, must have both a subject and a verb.
Nor will I confess that I sleep with children. I will say this though: my wife is by far the oldest person I ever slept with.
Here's the news: I am going to sue the Brown & Williamson Tobacco Company, manufacturers of Pall Mall cigarettes, for a billion bucks! Starting when I was only twelve years old, I have never chain-smoked anything but unfiltered Pall Malls. And for many years now, right on the package, Brown and Williamson have promised to kill me.
But I am now eighty-two. Thanks a lot, you dirty rats. The last thing I ever wanted was to be alive when the three most powerful people on the whole planet would be named Bush, Dick, and Colon.
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Cigarettes are the most elegant way of committing suicide.
~Kurt Vonnegut
Maybe your friend has reached a point in his life where he doesn't care if he dies a few years early. As he gets older, this will change, and he will probably quit. Don't worry about it.
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Re: How to talk to a friend [Re: Siekoaktiv]
#7683426 - 11/26/07 08:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Mind your own business.
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