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Anonymous #1
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i think moth is lying to herself.
#7680459 - 11/26/07 02:22 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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she recently told her husband she was gay, then decided she's asexual. they're thinking about separating. quote is below.
"Well, we still love one another...the problem is that I am distanced from sex and that I don't want to force myself to do something that doesn't feel natural for me. At the same time, I want all of his needs to be fulfilled, and since I can't do that, the only other thing to do is to enjoy what we have, which is a close friendship and trust, and let each other do their own thing. That feels good to me.
If you love someone, gotta set them free...you know."
i think she just is not attracted to him, or otherwise bored of him, mad at him, whatever, and invented this to create a seperation.
amirite!?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7680478 - 11/26/07 02:38 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah.
She's a bit fucked up there.
Maybe their sex is just... bad?
I had a friend, ugly as hell, that was tried to convince me the fact that he'd never get laid didn't matter, because he said he was asexual.
But... who was he kidding.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7680511 - 11/26/07 03:20 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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She does seem a little fucked up, but who isn't?
I mean..whatever the reason, being gay or not attracted to him, she should be able to walk away from the relationship. Yeah, that can be fucked up, but if you don't feel it your just waisting your fucking time.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7680516 - 11/26/07 03:28 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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How many marriages have that much sex anyway?
They don't need sex for a marriage.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7680682 - 11/26/07 06:16 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I typically kick the women out when they quit putting out married or not. Fuck your possessions set yourself free and everything else will follow. Maybe they need professional help.
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Anonymous #5
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7680700 - 11/26/07 06:40 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: How many marriages have that much sex anyway?
They don't need sex for a marriage.
5 times a week after 15 yrs still...... its not essential for everyone but for some sex is the glue that keeps it all together.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7680711 - 11/26/07 06:47 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Eh, she's a chick. Who the fuck knows what she means? I doubt she knows herself.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #6]
#7680721 - 11/26/07 06:50 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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yeah maybe go read some books
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Anonymous #7
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7682883 - 11/26/07 06:06 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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she's most definitely not asexual, that's for sure
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Anonymous #8
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #7]
#7682897 - 11/26/07 06:08 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yea. She is just really confused I think. Maybe she has a shitty husband/boyfriend...
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Anonymous #9
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7682979 - 11/26/07 06:33 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think she's so unbelievably honest to herself about her feelings that it dooms her because her feelings sweep across wide spectrums moment to moment...
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Anonymous #10
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7682983 - 11/26/07 06:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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she just needs someone to dry smash her shit box
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Anonymous #11
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #10]
#7683188 - 11/26/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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you guys are pathetic. take a look in the mirror.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #10]
#7683219 - 11/26/07 07:47 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: she just needs someone to dry smash her shit box
That may be the problem.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #8]
#7683349 - 11/26/07 08:16 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Yea. She is just really confused I think. Maybe she has a shitty husband/boyfriend...
What the fuck do you know
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Anonymous #2
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #12]
#7683408 - 11/26/07 08:32 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: Yea. She is just really confused I think. Maybe she has a shitty husband/boyfriend...
What the fuck do you know
It's just an idea.
What makes you so defensive? Are you the shitty boyfriend/husband?
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Anonymous #13
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7683454 - 11/26/07 08:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: she recently told her husband she was gay, then decided she's asexual. they're thinking about separating. quote is below.
"Well, we still love one another...the problem is that I am distanced from sex and that I don't want to force myself to do something that doesn't feel natural for me. At the same time, I want all of his needs to be fulfilled, and since I can't do that, the only other thing to do is to enjoy what we have, which is a close friendship and trust, and let each other do their own thing. That feels good to me.
If you love someone, gotta set them free...you know."
i think she just is not attracted to him, or otherwise bored of him, mad at him, whatever, and invented this to create a seperation.
amirite!?
Hey, it's me. Well, I don't know what the future holds, I only know what is happening now. I am only aware of my feelings every present moment and can rarely predict my own actions in the future. (can you? if so, give me some tips! )
The answer is that I know myself much better now at almost 25 then I did when I got married at age 18.
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Anonymous #13
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #3]
#7683468 - 11/26/07 08:42 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: She does seem a little fucked up, but who isn't?
I mean..whatever the reason, being gay or not attracted to him, she should be able to walk away from the relationship. Yeah, that can be fucked up, but if you don't feel it your just waisting your fucking time.
You got it man. I'm living for me.
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Anonymous #14
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #13]
#7683496 - 11/26/07 08:49 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
Hey, it's me. Well, I don't know what the future holds, I only know what is happening now. I am only aware of my feelings every present moment and can rarely predict my own actions in the future. (can you? if so, give me some tips! )
The answer is that I know myself much better now at almost 25 then I did when I got married at age 18.
This happens to me after a few weeks...I just fall out of lust for the person.
I have no idea what it's like being in Love, and I am older than you,
I can't imagine being married at 18. I was 18 when I kissed my first boy.
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Anonymous #13
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7683531 - 11/26/07 08:59 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said:
Hey, it's me. Well, I don't know what the future holds, I only know what is happening now. I am only aware of my feelings every present moment and can rarely predict my own actions in the future. (can you? if so, give me some tips! )
The answer is that I know myself much better now at almost 25 then I did when I got married at age 18.
This happens to me after a few weeks...I just fall out of lust for the person.
I have no idea what it's like being in Love, and I am older than you,
I can't imagine being married at 18. I was 18 when I kissed my first boy.
Exactly...I was raised that the proper "Christian" thing to do is to marry a good man and be a good wife. So I did that after I graduated from high school and moved out of my parents house, and thought I could be happy with that arrangement FOREVER.
WRONG. I didn't realize how long forever can be whenever you just are not feeling happy. There is so much stigma attached to marriage that a whole tide of ideas flood your mind when you hear someone is married. WEll, I want to be free of any attachment or stigma in my life. I want to be free of everything. That's just how I feel like being and what's wrong with that. Bound to nothing and no one, free to love everything and everyone.
So anyway, I'm just kinda content where I'm at right now...feeling out of touch with my sexuality but I still feel open-hearted towards everyone, no exclusion.
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Anonymous #12
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7685329 - 11/27/07 10:15 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said: Yea. She is just really confused I think. Maybe she has a shitty husband/boyfriend...
What the fuck do you know
It's just an idea.
What makes you so defensive? Are you the shitty boyfriend/husband?
No, I'm a regular shroomerite who respects MOTH enough not to publicly speculate about her personal life. I'm not being defensive... you're out of line.
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Anonymous #15
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7685969 - 11/27/07 12:58 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Sounds like she has Borderline Personality disorder.
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Anonymous #16
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7686156 - 11/27/07 01:59 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It seems not too long ago she was talking about how she was so hyper-sexual, and her husband couldn't keep up with her sex drive. I suspect this gay/asexual thing is yet another phase that will pass.
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Anonymous #13
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #15]
#7686634 - 11/27/07 04:11 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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MOTH here.
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Anonymous said: Sounds like she has Borderline Personality disorder.
Yeah, that was one of the "labels" given to me. Big fucking deal. I have oodles. Nobody can figure me out, including me. 
As for whether or not this is a "phase," the hyper-active sex drive fixation was more of a phase. That lasted, like, not even a year, of me trying to be a "normal oversexed girl."
Fuck that. I have a disconnection between my sexuality and my feelings for people, that's why I'm confused, but I can bet that I am a hell of a lot less confused about ME then you are.
***Oh, and to the OP***:
You're a coward. What you wrote didn't offend me; you could have PMd me or questioned me publically and I would be happy to discuss. No, instead you are sniveling and snickering about my sex-life in an anonymous forum because you're too much of a pussy to show me who you really are. Just what are you so afraid of? Am I that scary? Does me not adheering to traditional roles clung to by YOUR ego CONCERN you? Apparently you care enough about your online reputation to shield your identity while you talk shit about members that I'm sure you're cordial to in "public."
PUSSY! If you wanna talk shit, lets go. I'm open and willing to discuss ALL aspects of my sexuality for you, if you can stomach it. 
And based on your writing style and previous experiences, I can probably guess who you are too.
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Anonymous #17
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #14]
#7686774 - 11/27/07 04:37 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I can't imagine being married at 18. I was 18 when I kissed my first boy.
wiccan_seeker?
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Anonymous #17
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Re: i think moth is lying to herself. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#7686783 - 11/27/07 04:38 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: How many marriages have that much sex anyway?
They don't need sex for a marriage.
4 or 5 times a week, here. one of those times is gonna be a 2 banger. whwnever wife is grumpy or stressed or... whatever, a good nailing puts her in a good mood.
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