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MOTH
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Roommates?
#7678152 - 11/25/07 02:20 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey...I was wondering what you guys thought of having roommates, if it's worth it or better to live alone. Seems like you could save more money with a roommate, or several.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678164 - 11/25/07 02:23 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Better to move in with a stranger than a friend. Odds are, if you move in with a friend, they won't be such a good friend once its time to move out. At least if you room with a stranger or acquaintance, then it doesn't matter if you part on bad terms or find out the other person has super annoying habits.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678165 - 11/25/07 02:23 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I love roommates, as long as they are people you are happy being around.
Saves money, you always have someone to talk to, fixing stuff around the house is easier.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678167 - 11/25/07 02:24 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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people are annoying. don't live with them. then again, you could brave it and save your $$. Splitting rent = key.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678176 - 11/25/07 02:26 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Its really up to you. Think about the positives and negatives of having a room mate and decide for yourself. I mean if you want to get a nicer house and you don't have a high, steady income then definitely get some room mates.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: TODAY]
#7678179 - 11/25/07 02:27 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i would prefer to live on my own, but as i'm in college and the 'rents pay the bills, i share a 2bedroom.
i've alwyas lived with good friends of mine.
Freshman year i lived with my best friend from highschool in the dorms (it worked out great).
Next year his parents bought a house right off campus (5-bedroom) and i moved in there with him and 3 of our other friends, there was always someone "in the doghouse" but never any real bad problems.
Moved out of there to live with an acquaintance and my then-girlfriend (WORST IDEA EVER).
moved out of there back into the 5-bedroom for a few months while i waited for my current lease to start.
now i live with the drummer in our band and we get along great becuase we weren't good friends pre-band era, he just lived down the street and i saw him every now and then.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678183 - 11/25/07 02:28 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Don't move in with a friend. For some reason it seems like if you move in with someone you're already friends with, you'll end up at each other's throats... I think it's that all your interactions with them up to that point have been really positive and then you realize all the weird things they do or whatever. Don't move in with total strangers either. It works best if you move in with someone you know just well enough to understand their personality. Then you find out all their good traits at the same time as their bad traits, rather than seeing all their good traits first and then later finding out all their crazy-isms after you live together, as is often the case when friends move in together. The person you share a living space with is going to have a huge impact on your own psyche, so it's kind of an important thing.
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MOTH
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I have a lot of pets...do you think I will be able to find people who don't mind animals?
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678336 - 11/25/07 02:38 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Like already mentioned living with roomies is a 50/50 tossup. Sometimes it works out awesome, sometimes it doesn't, IMO there are a few basic things you need to work out before making this choice.
1.) How responsible are they? (Bills being most important, your roomie needs to be able to pay on time everytime, take it from me you don't want to cover your roomie for an extended period of time)
2.) How clean are they? (if you're a messy person then you want a roomie who doesn't mind a mess, vice versa as well)
3.) How courteous are they? (do you really want your roomie to bring a party home at 2 am while you have to get up at work at 5?)
4.) Can you see yourself spending a lot of time with said person? (not as important, but often times you find yourself spending a lot of time at home so having someone you get along with well can be essential if you're the hermit type)
Those are the four things i can think off of the top of my head that you should think about when choosing a roommate. Obviously if you're the type of person who prefers solidarity and privacy you don't want a roommate, if you're a very social person like me having a roommate is a great thing.
As for the pets it's just easy to ask, if they don't want to live with a lot of pets and you do just find someone else. Some people don't want to deal with 5 cats, a dog, and their related messes, others don't mind. As of now that's the level of animal activity in my house and we try and split up the responsibility of caring for them. It can, however, be frustrating when you're constantly cleaning up after your roomies pets messes with no help from them whatsoever.
To me i enjoy a lot of the things you get with having roomies, but sometimes i wish it was just my girl and I. It really is a tossup though because i like my roomies and we all get along very well.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: coda]
#7678347 - 11/25/07 02:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thanks, that post was very informative and gave me a lot to consider. What's the best way of finding roommates that are in your groove? (i.e. won't mind smelling weed coming from my room )
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678351 - 11/25/07 02:42 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It you're going to have a roomate(s) its best if they have a pretty similar lifestyle as you. My first roommate liked to party and drink alot, he worked at a fast food job so it wasnt to important and he didnt have to go in usually till noon. Me on the other hand had to get up at 7 when people are over and up untill 3-4am gettin down. That shit gets old and you'll start hating comming home anymore ha.
It does help you save alot of money thats for sure. I'm in a position where i cant afford to live alone but if i could i prolly would. On the other hand if you live alone im sure you're home alone more then you'd want to be. It's nice to have someone to shoot the shit with and not have to buy them dinner and panties.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7678375 - 11/25/07 02:47 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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MOTH said: Thanks, that post was very informative and gave me a lot to consider. What's the best way of finding roommates that are in your groove? (i.e. won't mind smelling weed coming from my room )
Well, i think people who use drugs are able to visibly select others they think have the same mindset. If you have a group of friends who you smoke and trip with ask them if they need a place to stay or know others who are needing a roomie. If you don't go through the friends route and are interviewing people there's nothing wrong with asking them outright. When i start a relationship with someone it's usually the first question i ask honestly. I usually phrase it like "i need to know if you smoke weed or don't care that i do", then let the person know that smoking or tripping is important to you and it's essential they don't have an issue with it to avoid any future problems. Most people who have a problem with it will let you know and usually walk out gracefully with no problems. If they don't have a problem they'll say so and if they're telling the truth you won't have any drug related issues in the future.
Worked well for me with dating anyways, i axed a lot of girls because they didn't like me smoking weed. Saved a lot of headaches, who wants to put up with bitching every time you want to smoke a bowl?
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When I first went to school I was staying alone...which is awesome...but when money got tight I had to move in with someone and I decided to move in with 2 female friends. We're still friends to this day but when you have one friend who can't get over her ex (Who also happens to be your friend) wanting to go home becomes a task lol. Just find someone who has the same common interests as you really.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH] 1
#7678719 - 11/25/07 04:15 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I've lived with a lot of different roommates and in general, it sucks. When they flake on rent/bills it really sucks, especially if you can't cover their portion. Then there are roommates you just clash with, for whatever reason. Maybe they are loud and obnoxious when you want peace and quiet. Maybe they make a huge mess of the kitchen after you just spent 3 hours cleaning it from top to bottom. Maybe they eat your food without asking when you have very little to begin with. Those are just a few things that pop up. I'm probably guilty of some of those things myself, but I make an effort to be as corteous and respectful as possible when living with another person(s).
Like Coda said, he pretty much laid out the groundwork when looking for roommates. You want someone who is responsible that wont miss bills and fuck your situation up (has happened to me more than one time). You definitely want someone you can get along with, even if you don't plan on being best friends. Someone that respects your privacy and your shit, thats a given.
I've had two roommate situations that I would consider my best experiences. One was a house full of basically, strangers. But we got along just great. Everyone was respectful of each others space and paid bills on time and didn't get all up in your shit. And for the most part they were all chill people, that was a cool situation. The other was when I shared a house with 2 of my good high school friends. One guy was basically my best friend since the 8th grade, and remains so to this day. But they were all responsible, respected everyones space, etc. We probably weren't the cleanest bunch, but we did most things together (when it was time to clean, we ALL got on each others ass and helped each other clean the place down). If someone lost a job we would help that person find another one, or we'd get together and find a way to make money together. It was a group effort and it worked out very well.
So yeah you'd want to find someone that 1- Pay bills ontime. 2- Respects your shit and your privacy. 3- Someone you generally get along with and isn't a total douche. Those are good guidelines to follow.
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I wanna live with TM.
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where are you residing these days man?
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Re: Roommates? [Re: Adom]
#7678845 - 11/25/07 04:48 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Upstate NY. But I gotta move (again) due to one of those roomy situations I was just talking about. It's like neverending man. I'd move in with one of my parents but.. fuck that. I havent lived with them since I was 16, and for good reason. So yeah, gotta figure my shit out.
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I can only live with a few select people. I'd never, ever, ever, live with a stranger unless I had to.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679120 - 11/25/07 05:50 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679144 - 11/25/07 05:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Saving money is the only reason to have a roommate. I've lived alone for over 3 years and I love it. I never want to go back to living with someone else unless I'm having sex with that person.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: Learyfan]
#7679160 - 11/25/07 06:01 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I feel pretty much the same way.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679191 - 11/25/07 06:13 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I always live with at least 2 people, and have lived with 10+ a couple times.
Currently i live with 4, have my own room and pay 111 for rent.
Usually the situations are good, noise levels and messy kitchen are my only concerns. Sometimes i think about living alone, but really, i dont think its worth it.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: PDU]
#7679209 - 11/25/07 06:18 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm going to be living with my Aunt in about a week
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679401 - 11/25/07 07:04 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i personally have never had a problem with roommates. i'm currently rooming with my best friend and am having a blast. it depends on you and your friends. if either of you have abrasive personalities and you know it, then it probably won't be a good idea.
i'll probably end up getting a stranger for a roommate next year since i want to stay in the 2 bedroom townhouse apt i'm currently in, and my roommate wants to get a big house with a bunch of other guys. maybe my opinion will change then. but as of right now, splitting bills is fucking key to my financial survival.
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Thanks for the replies people. The thing is, I've never lived all by myself in my entire life, and I was thinking it might be beneficial for several reasons. There is a part of me that needs to be very alone.
The other option is that I get a room to myself somewhere and make peace with that.
But the more I think about it, the more certain I am that I might be better off giving solo living a try...might be an adventure.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679438 - 11/25/07 07:13 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Shit, but so much more expensive...
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679442 - 11/25/07 07:14 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Um...what about your husband?
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Quote:
RandalFlagg said: Um...what about your husband?
You're behind the times...I came out that I was gay and we are seperating our lives as friends to create space. (However now that I've had time to think about it, gay doesn't go far enough: I'm asexual) But I still need my space and have considered living alone lately. Divorce has come up casually a few times, but we're just going to live our own lives and see what happens within a new type of space. I want to be free of any exclusive relationship and so does he.
Of course husband and I still might be roommates. It's possibly the best option in this expensive state. It might be better to have a roommate or a few and then have lots of money to save for traveling to fun places and entertaining myself.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7679496 - 11/25/07 07:31 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Wow.
Well, good luck with everything. That's good that he seems ok about the whole thing and that you two are remaining civil.
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Well, we still love one another...the problem is that I am distanced from sex and that I don't want to force myself to do something that doesn't feel natural for me. At the same time, I want all of his needs to be fulfilled, and since I can't do that, the only other thing to do is to enjoy what we have, which is a close friendship and trust, and let each other do their own thing. That feels good to me.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7680433 - 11/26/07 01:59 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's all depends, varying from person to person. I really dig having roommates.
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I live alone now for the first time in my life. It's definitely got its benefits. But it makes it impossible for me to save much money... I spend about 40% of my income on rent 
I tried living with strangers out here and it was just too difficult for me. I got along fine with the quiet/conservative ones and only had issues with the ones who were loud/annoying or in my business, eating my food, or anything of that nature.
My best roomate experiences have been with close friends... yes you will bump heads from time to time, BUT - at least for me - this made it easier to shrug off any conflicts at the end of the day because you know this person, and actually made my friendships with these people a lot stronger - I know I will cherish them as friends for the rest of my life having lived with them and shared a lot of great memories together.
As long as your lifestyles are similar, you both commit to open communication and are willing to compromise when need be, it works out great.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: kake]
#7680467 - 11/26/07 02:27 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I have 2 broken leases.
I'll be rooming up for a while.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: adrug]
#7704243 - 12/01/07 08:27 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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adrug said: Better to move in with a stranger than a friend. Odds are, if you move in with a friend, they won't be such a good friend once its time to move out. At least if you room with a stranger or acquaintance, then it doesn't matter if you part on bad terms or find out the other person has super annoying habits.
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Re: Roommates? [Re: MOTH]
#7704282 - 12/01/07 08:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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My last roommate robbed me. He didn't think I knew, I waited till he was at work and took a massive shit on his bed. he flipped and we beat the shit out of each other...then it was cool.
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