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Offlinedonatello
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Drugs and girlfriends...
    #7674922 - 11/24/07 03:17 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

So I've finally found a nice gf but she hates drugs...
I've tried talking to her but she's really close minded about that.
I always had a really good relation with drugs (psycho actives, etc), all my mates usually like to smoke their spliffs but she can't stand "drugged people"...
I've been with her since June and she's really open concerning lot's of subjects but her parents had some problems with heroin and crack, so that made her like that.
I can't really deal with that narrowmindness but I love her.
Anyone had the same problem?


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InvisibleZippoZM
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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: donatello]
    #7675451 - 11/24/07 06:13 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

yeah, my last gf was a real bitch about it, always complaining that she couldnt stand me getting high or drinking........ despite she used to get high herself...

suffice to say, that we didnt work out


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: ZippoZ]
    #7675536 - 11/24/07 06:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

I was in a situation very similar to yours for a long time.

I highly recommend not trying to have a relationship with a girl while hiding drug use from her. Not because it's wrong or anything, but it will cause more problems than you can imagine.


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: Rustifer]
    #7675706 - 11/24/07 07:28 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

right man, what you have to do is slowly and subtley try and make her see the differences between drugs. Tell her that you're against crack and heroin (presuming that you are), and that you know many drugs are destructive,also tell her that some drugs are not destructive. Use strong arguments, like the fact shrooms, lsd, etc, are non toxic, and cannot kill you. just keep it all subtle, but if she really won't accept them, dont hide them. Just be yourself and see if you can teach her something.


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: donatello]
    #7675778 - 11/24/07 07:45 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

i think drugs were a semi-significant factor in the reason this one girl and i actually never got together for any length of time

it's not that i was using a lot or anything terribly hard, but she really just didn't understand. she used to smoke some and drink some, now drinks at least somewhat often as far as i've heard...dunno bout anything else

but yea, unless she's at least respectful about it, it's going to cause some issues


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: demiu5]
    #7676367 - 11/24/07 10:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

there are three things that make or break a woman for me. if we dont see eye to eye on all three, then we might as well not even try. because im not giving up any of them for one woman.

1.guns
2.drugs
3.frequent enough sex

if a woman doesnt match your ideals, then you cant expect it to work. unless of course youre ready to give up something you love.


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: donatello]
    #7677673 - 11/25/07 12:07 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

--Anyone had the same problem?

yea

let her go now
before you let it go too far
you'd have better luck drilling a hole in your skull
than changing her mind

and the hole in the brain would be less painful


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OfflineGill

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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: sherm]
    #7682520 - 11/26/07 04:26 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

My girlfriend hates drugs and alcohol, which is fine with me. However, before we even got into a relationship, I made it very clear that I wasn't going to stop smoking herb or enjoying the occasional beer/shot just because she didn't like them. I know relationships are about giving and getting, but this doesn't apply to everything.

The way I see it, if any girl expects you to stop doing something you enjoy that isn't destructive simply because she doesn't like it, you should just toss her back into the water. If you give that up, she'll get it in her head that she has control over your habits, and it's only a matter of time before she starts making more stupid demands. The only compromises I made on my habits were smoking in the next room when she's over here, and using a little bit of listerine after I do it because she doesn't like the smell of weed on my breath.

Try going about your substance use in a way that's more conscious of her desires. I'd just only do them when she's not around. However, as somebody else said, don't make her think you've given them up. That'll only cause more problems later on down the road. She needs to know you still do them responsibly when she's not around. If she can't handle that, then you're much better off ending the relationship before it progresses too far and makes separating that much more difficult.

Nobody wants complications involving a kid, a bitchy anti-drug girlfriend, and a love for psychoactives.

:stoned:


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: Gill]
    #7682644 - 11/26/07 04:53 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

my gf just doesn't like the lonely spliffs i have. if i'm out with friends or anything she doesn'T mind, just the night time spliffs when there's no reason shes against. Which i dunno i actually like, since i wanted to cut down my pot use anyway and alot of the spliffs i go for i'm not even in the mood for. but i probably prefer the lonely one as oposed to the group smoking, so like no problem if i have one every now and again.

i do smoke alot less now though, and i'm definitely happy about it. happy i could find a middleground with her.


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OfflineShiftyS
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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: SapphireCat]
    #7683806 - 11/26/07 10:33 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

Eh, I've gotten pretty lucky with finding girls that don't really get mad about my habits. They still care about me and would rather I didn't do them, but were never angry or anything.


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Re: Drugs and girlfriends... [Re: donatello]
    #7683967 - 11/26/07 11:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago)

I'm sorry to hear about some of your past relationships....

I'm EXTREMELY lucky...My girl doesnt really give me any guff about anything except my occasional coke habit. Needless to say, my bank account was almost drained before I came to my senses.

Back on track though. She doesnt care about my pot usage at all. Infact, she'll even smoke with me sometimes and we'll journey over to Arby's or get really bangin' mexican food.

Just know guys. If she wants you to quit a habit...and it's NOT pot/mushrooms/acid/cigarettes .....run.


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