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LiFe_Trip
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My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore)
#7665958 - 11/22/07 07:37 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well, so I'm all for responsible drug use and the respect the drug thing, but I just lived a situation I feel bad with.
Here's the story :
There's this good friend A that I got along with in High School, we were really good friend, then he left to a bigger town 2 hours from here. He started being a pothead in my town, but he got worst in the other town, but he had no money for weed so he would to shit to get it. Now he's tried Cocaine, he came to my town for a couple of days, and he starts always talking about coke and "coke using story". I've told myself : It's cool, he discovered something new and he wanna talk about it so I listened him while telling him I would never do any pill or coke (meth and those shit like that, I got a cousin which pretty much started shit in my familly coze of his coke addiction). So it says like that. Keep in mind I really trusted this guy before, I had give him weed before and he would always pay me back even if it was long, but I gave him some this time and this fucker just bullshitted me, like he's always getting it in 20 minutes. I've waited 4 days.
Yesterday night I'm going in town to a few bars seeing friends and he's there. I ask him about my weed and how he could just pay me back by smoking a bowl together. He tell me again in 20 minute so he sees his dealer. Later the night, I'm walking to get out of a bar and he takes me to a corner and start whispering to my ear : Come on, come with me we'll do some tracks (I said : no) Come on dude, it'll be your first time, you'll just be a little buzzed (I said : I said no) Ahhh COME ON we're going to have a blast, it's gonna be awesome ! (I said no many many time but I don't remember what he said, but in the end I finally said : Listen to me, stop insisting, what the fuck you don't understand in : no) He was just too fucking insisting, he was trying to grab me to take me to the bathroom. So when I said my last phrase, he suddently startes grabing his pants and be like : omg, where is it ? Then he started run toward the exit, now there he just fucked my buzz, I get back home.
Before I go home, I encountered 2 friends that I started talking with, [A] just fucking appear out of nowhere : I lost my wallet man, I got 450$ in it, I left it in the pocket of my coat, and I left my coat on a table a couple of hours. Now I need to go back to Quebec but I don't fucking have money, I need to return to quebec this night.
Now the thing is, he was always broke, he never had money, and suddently he takes off to a trip in bus to my town with 450$ in his wallet ?
It stays like that, I go away with my 2 other friends and finally I thought of a reallly good friend of mine (B)(now this guy is a good friend of A, and he's too naive, he's the guy you can ask twenty dollars without any reason, so I thought, if A go see him he's going to get fucked. He got no will power, he can't affirm himself the wallet story would have worked as far as I know. This guy drink but don't take any drugs, he's just a simple guy, livin a happy life. He never saw coke of even pot.
So I went back to the bar I knew B was in. I talking to him if he saw A and do you know what he told me ? A came to him all sketchy and asked him to lick his finger, he then opened a bag and told him to put his finger in there and put what was in it in his mouth. Now what the fuck ? B told me in a joking way that he wasn't a preffessional but it surely wasn't flour then I just got angry and fucking went to talk to him (and he was with another guy I know exactly in the same place where he wanted me to do some tracks.)
I ask him what was his fucking problem pushing people around me to try coke, I told him I didn't believe his wallet story and I asked him to clearly make it clear if it was for coke. I told him why I didn't believe it. I asked him what the fuck he was trying to do here ? That the choices he make aren't everybody's and that pushing to try drugs is not of his age anymore and he should be having some conscience problem. He told me he never pushed me, he never asked such thing to B, he told me he has done coke only 3-4 times but he told me like 20 coke stories different but the more I talked the more he started looking at his feet and he was taking some fucking huge puff of his cig.
Now I don't trust him anymore, I would want to help him, but he broke the relation with his parents, they don't want to hear about him, he got loans to the bank for 8000$ but he ain't got a job, it was supposed to be for a car to go to work but instead he wasted it in beer and weed and I doubt not coke. He's a human wreck. This is fucking sad coze I'm pretty sure he tried to fuck me over, and people around me, (coze I got some naive friends that don't do any drugs and I got drug friends, so I kinda protect my naive friend by informing them about drugs and telling them stories, I just don't want ignorant fucks as friends and for once it was a good thing I talked to them. But what A did was really shady.
So that's it, I had to talk, I'm depressed since this happened, I've just lost a good friend but I don't like people like that as my friends, so I'll stick to my values.
P.S. I kinda categorized my friends here, there are some that are mixed, my naive friends aren't stupid now it's just that I have known cokehead trying to get money and they're just lies masters but those friends haven't seen anyone trying to get money by all fucking means and would bought any good stories only because A is a friend in need. I fuckin' hate coke, but don't got anything for users that use it for fun, but when you make it priority on your list before some more important stuff (sleeping, eating, working) this is bad. Oh and he insisted to other people but this is already a too long text.
Now If you read all this, do you believe I did a good thing ? I mean, it was stupid to push me trying coke and my other friend, and the wallet story sure seems fake, should have I used a little more psychology ? I really asks myself if I had to take it this bad, I was pumped. But I just feel it wasn't the way my real friend would act.
-------------------- Shrooms are something any lost human being should try. Why think sober when you can trip and explore your mind out of the consciousness stress.
Edited by LiFe_Trip (11/22/07 10:32 AM)
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: dr_gonz]
#7666112 - 11/22/07 08:30 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Free drugs in general is fun, but when you don't wanna do it, why push to give free drugs ? That's stupid ...
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666128 - 11/22/07 08:36 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Stay away from people like him.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666155 - 11/22/07 08:45 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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By all means, there's no reason that your friend should be so insistent upon you trying coke if that's not something you're trying to do. One "no" is all it should have taken and he should've left you alone about it after that.
I'm sorry man, I did my best to follow the story but I'm a little confused about the wallet situation. Basically, what I got out of it is that you lost your wallet that had a bunch of money in it, you confronted your friend A about it and he gave you what seemed to be bullshit. Is that pretty much it or did I misunderstand something?
Honestly dude, it sucks but I think in situations like that, all you can really do is give the person the benefit of the doubt unless you can prove that they actually did that shit. Now if you start to see a pattern of sketchy things happening when this A guy is around, then I would really start to question it. But don't be too quick to give up on people. Friendships are important.
I can relate to what you're dealing with though. I just stopped being friends with the kid that I had considered my best friend. We've known each other for over a decade too so it was really upsetting for me. Basically, he lied to me about something that was really stupid and I feel like I have trust issues with him now. Also, he would offer to try to get stuff for me and then would do sketchy shit like use the money for something else. He'd always pay me back but he would say that he couldn't end up getting anything and it would take him a while to get the money back in my hand. There's other things that happened but I won't go into that. I'm trying to stay open minded about it and allow for things to get back on track with us. But at the same time, we're very different types of people and I sorta feel like this happened for a reason and that I'm better off now.
How long have you been friends with this guy anyway? Do you suspect that he might be developing a problem with the coke? If you indeed feel this way then I would try to let him know that you're concerned. Lots of drugs can change people but coke usually doesn't change them for the better.
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666416 - 11/22/07 09:57 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anyone care to summarize that post into one sentence?
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LiFe_Trip
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: Thin White Duke]
#7666446 - 11/22/07 10:07 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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In one sentence ?
My friend tried to push me to try coke, he also tried on another guy this time he wanted him to lick his finger and then put it in a bag and then in his mouth (why not tell him its coke wtf with the secret ?) and when I wanted him to stop insisting so I try coke, he started to say he lost his wallet with 450$ in it (that I never saw of heard of before) and he was trying to talk me in giving him money to replace the "lost" money but without telling me directly, he said things like "I'm in the biggest crap ever, I can't return home, I don't have place to sleep here, I can't go to my parents since I don't talk to them anymore, i'm caught here what should I do ? I reaaaaally need that money ...
One big sentence but that's the best I can do.
I also, would like to stay open-minded to that and tell myself to mind my own stuff, but it's difficult for me to pass over that stuff, I'm trying to tell myself it's not really him acting like that but the drug making him too excited over it or something, a no is a no and he passed my tolerance point.
-------------------- Shrooms are something any lost human being should try. Why think sober when you can trip and explore your mind out of the consciousness stress.
Edited by LiFe_Trip (11/22/07 10:13 AM)
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666554 - 11/22/07 10:37 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Okay, so it's his wallet that was lost?
Well then it sounds like it's his own damn fault and that it shouldn't be your problem. The "lick your finger" thing definitely makes him sound a bit weird.
Anyway, I'm not really sure I know what advice I could give you here. Do you think that he's at least clear at this point that you have no desire to blow any lines? If he's just gonna keep pressuring you do to do shit like that then he may very well not be worth it.
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LiFe_Trip
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: truffleupagus]
#7666577 - 11/22/07 10:45 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah now I'm pretty sure now that he knows I'm not a coke lover. It's just that he changed so much, before he wouldn't have done something like that, I didn't really want advice, I just wanted to talk and empty my bag (thats an expression in french but does that make any sense in english ?). I think I'll keep talking to him, thought I'll make it clear I was pumped and I really thought his attitude was disgusting. I'm a pretty comprehensive guy but I won't forget it easily.
-------------------- Shrooms are something any lost human being should try. Why think sober when you can trip and explore your mind out of the consciousness stress.
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666741 - 11/22/07 11:56 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Empty my bag. Haha!
Yeah, in english that sounds like the equivalent of bust my nut.
Anyway, good luck with working things out with the guy if that's what you decide to try and do.
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Re: My friend just went to far (aka when you don't trust a friend anymore) [Re: LiFe_Trip]
#7666974 - 11/22/07 01:06 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Doesn't sound like too big of a deal to me. Basically your friend is becoming a tweeker, or just dabbling with coke. Just be more cautious. In many situations cocaine/crack habits make people steal things and con/rip off their friends in tweeky ways for more drugs.
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