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blkjkrabbit

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at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do
#7619708 - 11/10/07 05:33 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I guess everything started since I got back from my first year of college and decided to try to go to another school. My mom is bipolar and can flip out on me on a dime, and my step-dad hates me because I'm the last of 10+ kids he's raised. I've made my fair share of mistakes in life [I've made a few pretty serious bad ones], but overall I think I'm a pretty good person with a lot of ambition in life. Last night had me in a suicidal state though...I was drinking a bit and have been not knowing where I'm going to sleep on a nightly basis for about 3 weeks now. I get in these fights with my parents that I can't even understand, they flip out on me over nothing. So now I'm jobless, homeless, and have been wearing the same clothes for a week now. My parent[s] are leaving me in the dark as to whether they'll let me come back home. They've moved 4 times within the last two years and I've had to readjust and readjust constanstly because of it...I know suicide is not the solution but fuck, I have NO idea what to do right now. I want to go to school, and get a job, and get back on the path - but I can't do it when I don't even know where I'm staying anymore. Basically, I'm scared and alone, and powerless over my situation. I don't know what to do. I guess I'm at that rubicon every young man faces in their late teens where you have all these dreams and ambitions but I'm just scared as hell to get sucked into the job/rent world with no hope for school or personal enrichment. I wonder if anyone has had any experience in a situation like this and could offer some advice? Thanks for any advice in advance - seriously anything will help right now.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619729 - 11/10/07 05:38 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: TurntableJunky]
#7619741 - 11/10/07 05:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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...you get the award for most random comment today.
really...how does that even apply to his question?
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Jeebies]
#7619743 - 11/10/07 05:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: TurntableJunky]
#7619759 - 11/10/07 05:46 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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This is what i suggest....take all advice with much thought:
Choose one... Army Marines Navy Airforce Coast Gaurd
Sounds like you need some stability and some direction, armed forces has just that.
OR
Go back to school, go into some serious debt, but get a high-payind degree.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: nolongerinuse]
#7619777 - 11/10/07 05:52 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I got a felony when I was 13 for possession, so the military is out without a lot of waiver action. I was just looking into returning to college, looks like I can still sign up for classes.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: TurntableJunky]
#7619786 - 11/10/07 05:53 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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TurntableJunky said: Princess mononoke.
I was trying to figure out where I knew that from!
But now to the topic at hand
How old are you? One thing I want to stress to you is that everything happens to use for a reason. Don't focus on the negative so much. Yes there's nothing but negativity around you but that doesn't mean that's all you should see. I've been there...jobless...homeless...and it sucked but I refused to give up. I'm still struggling right now trying to find out what it is I want to do. Like the poster above me just said the army ect is always an option if that's something you'd like to do. Life won't always be this way though dude so hold on. If it doesn't kill us it makes us stronger and each day you wake up you're stronger than the day before. Life is tough but the golden rule is to never give up no matter how hard and impossible it seems.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619794 - 11/10/07 05:55 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: I got a felony when I was 13 for possession, so the military is out without a lot of waiver action. I was just looking into returning to college, looks like I can still sign up for classes.
Then take that route. What is it that you think you want to do? College atleast gives you a steady place to stay for a few years. Costs alot of money and I'm dreading the day when my repayments start but it's better than nothing
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Mocha Bear]
#7619804 - 11/10/07 05:58 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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tclsc03 said:
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TurntableJunky said: Princess mononoke.
I was trying to figure out where I knew that from!
But now to the topic at hand
How old are you? One thing I want to stress to you is that everything happens to use for a reason. Don't focus on the negative so much. Yes there's nothing but negativity around you but that doesn't mean that's all you should see. I've been there...jobless...homeless...and it sucked but I refused to give up. I'm still struggling right now trying to find out what it is I want to do. Like the poster above me just said the army ect is always an option if that's something you'd like to do. Life won't always be this way though dude so hold on. If it doesn't kill us it makes us stronger and each day you wake up you're stronger than the day before. Life is tough but the golden rule is to never give up no matter how hard and impossible it seems.
Thanks man any uplifting words are helpful I'm just in a funk right now and need to find something to do - restless and homeless are not a fun combination. I know I'll make it through this, but I always feel like if I change my mind about my direction in life everyone has to give me a hard time for not knowing what I want to do the rest of my life - like I'm supposed to know at 19!
p.s. yeah Princess Mononoke is one of my favorite animes
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Mocha Bear]
#7619810 - 11/10/07 06:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: I got a felony when I was 13 for possession, so the military is out without a lot of waiver action. I was just looking into returning to college, looks like I can still sign up for classes.
Then take that route. What is it that you think you want to do? College atleast gives you a steady place to stay for a few years. Costs alot of money and I'm dreading the day when my repayments start but it's better than nothing
I'm not sure what I want to do per-say, but I know what my likes and dislikes are very well. And my dad tells me that whatever you like to do the most in your spare time, whatever hobby you pursue with passion, that usually ends up being a good line of work for you. Yeah college is definitely extremely expensive and I had enough saved up for my first year but these next few years will be crippling to the wallet for sure.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619814 - 11/10/07 06:01 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Heh yeah I'm 22 and STILL have no idea what i want to do really. So many things have changed for me since I was 19 and you just have to take it one day at a time really. Just don't get depressed because that never helps really and I'm sure you'll be fine. I don't think I could've handled being homeless at 19 so you're stronger than I was at that age.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Mocha Bear]
#7619844 - 11/10/07 06:10 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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tclsc03 said: Heh yeah I'm 22 and STILL have no idea what i want to do really. So many things have changed for me since I was 19 and you just have to take it one day at a time really. Just don't get depressed because that never helps really and I'm sure you'll be fine. I don't think I could've handled being homeless at 19 so you're stronger than I was at that age.
That's a good way to look at it - 1 day at a time. I was sort of forced to grow up fast in high school while I was on probation and saving for college I've been pretty self dependent but it's just hard when your parents haven't got your back anymore. At 18 and 19 I may be technically an adult [which they use against me] - but I still basically have the same earning power I had at 15, in a city with the 3rd highest cost of living in the country [seattle] so it's just hard as hell trying to even squeek by sometimes. It's frustrating watching my friends with their happy families and their rooms are virtually palaces. I'm not big on self-pity, but I'm also not big on constantly trying to find a meal or a place to stay, basically reverting to survival mode to just get by. Reality can be pretty fucking scary
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619847 - 11/10/07 06:12 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'd let you live with me if you were in Georgia. You just have to buckle down and find a profession you can enjoy. I know this might be cheesy but you could try writing down some goals. Have something to work towards. Good luck.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619859 - 11/10/07 06:15 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: I guess everything started since I got back from my first year of college and decided to try to go to another school. My mom is bipolar and can flip out on me on a dime, and my step-dad hates me because I'm the last of 10+ kids he's raised. I've made my fair share of mistakes in life [I've made a few pretty serious bad ones], but overall I think I'm a pretty good person with a lot of ambition in life. Last night had me in a suicidal state though...I was drinking a bit and have been not knowing where I'm going to sleep on a nightly basis for about 3 weeks now. I get in these fights with my parents that I can't even understand, they flip out on me over nothing. So now I'm jobless, homeless, and have been wearing the same clothes for a week now. My parent[s] are leaving me in the dark as to whether they'll let me come back home. They've moved 4 times within the last two years and I've had to readjust and readjust constanstly because of it...I know suicide is not the solution but fuck, I have NO idea what to do right now. I want to go to school, and get a job, and get back on the path - but I can't do it when I don't even know where I'm staying anymore. Basically, I'm scared and alone, and powerless over my situation. I don't know what to do. I guess I'm at that rubicon every young man faces in their late teens where you have all these dreams and ambitions but I'm just scared as hell to get sucked into the job/rent world with no hope for school or personal enrichment. I wonder if anyone has had any experience in a situation like this and could offer some advice? Thanks for any advice in advance - seriously anything will help right now.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619863 - 11/10/07 06:15 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: I got a felony when I was 13 for possession, so the military is out without a lot of waiver action.
you should look into getting that record expunged regardless, it'll improve your life
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Prisoner#1]
#7619868 - 11/10/07 06:17 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blkjkrabbit said: I got a felony when I was 13 for possession, so the military is out without a lot of waiver action.
you should look into getting that record expunged regardless, it'll improve your life
that's true and I'd love to do that, but the lawyer fees and application fees are enormous and I'm still broke right now. But yeah down the road I will definitely do that
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619883 - 11/10/07 06:21 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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it cost me nothing, you just need to make an appointment with a judge in the county of conviction, preferably the same as what convicted you.
I handled it on my own at 17 to join the army
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: robbyberto]
#7619886 - 11/10/07 06:22 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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robbyberto said: I'd let you live with me if you were in Georgia. You just have to buckle down and find a profession you can enjoy. I know this might be cheesy but you could try writing down some goals. Have something to work towards. Good luck.
I appreciate the sentiment. I think the hard thing is having so many obstacles to overcome just to work hard, the car insurance, food, a reliable car [which, is basically not possible without payments], a place to stay, and all the while I'm trying to find work I have to dance around my felony which just makes it that much harder. I gave up smoking weed a month ago for my job search but haven't run into that yet I guess. Oh well I appreciate everyone's advice - I know it might sound corny but seriously this is kind of like counseling for me. I don't trust shrinks and would rather get advice from someone who's been in my shoes not some chick with a degree from some big fancy school and her little couch n shit, who can't REALLY empathize with where I'm coming from. So thank you guys.
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: blkjkrabbit]
#7619887 - 11/10/07 06:22 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's part of the college experience to feel vulnerable and helpless and not knowing what the fuck to do
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Re: at a strange crossroad in life...no idea what to do [Re: Hyper_Panda_GO]
#7619896 - 11/10/07 06:24 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hyper_Panda_GO said: It's part of the college experience to feel vulnerable and helpless and not knowing what the fuck to do
That's true and I wish it wasn't.
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