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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610825 - 11/08/07 11:49 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well was she like this when she wasn't pregnant?
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emilbus
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610832 - 11/08/07 11:50 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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oh and her excuse for not getting a job is cause she feels sick. yea its called fucking MORNING SICKNESS!!!!! everyone who goes through a pregnancy fucking gets it. hers isn't even that fucking bad. shes a brat, a fucking drama queen, and a fucking baby. i try being reasonable about shit and she said shes sick. i try being a little more stern and put my foot down and she starts crying and says I'm an ass hole. i just want her to get a job and not to smoke. its not that fucking hard. fuck ill buy that bitch an oz of hydro the day that kid is born. i don't care if she smokes, just not while she has my kid in her fucking stomach. i also want to make this shit work cause there is no way in hell I'm going to be hit up for child support.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: trendal]
#7610844 - 11/08/07 11:52 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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yup, this is why i was going to leave her.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610871 - 11/08/07 11:57 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think if you were going to leave her before you found out that she was pregnant, you might as well do it.
This is a seriously messed up situation and no kind of enviroment to raise a kid in. You guys would seriously be better off apart. The kid can still have a mother and still have a father, but instead of both being miserable...both can be happier and more functional apart.
Leave your girlfriend. Do it for the baby first, and yourself second. You will have to pay child support, of course...but think of the rest of your life. It's really a small price to pay.
This is really dysfunctional.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610878 - 11/08/07 12:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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A really good friend of mine got stuck in a situation exactly like yours. He tried to put up with her and pay the bills, under the presumption that he was "being a good father" she just kept him working like a slave spending his money and being a lazy bitch. Now I'm not saying your situation is going to turn out exactly the same, but it seems really similar, even down to the smoking and hiding it.
Well they're kid is about 2 now, and they finally separated a few months ago. He tried REALLY hard to make it work. He even lived at my place for a few months to try and get some space, then get back with her and make it work. That lasted about a month, and now he left her for good. He loves his kid but told me this girl is the worst thing that ever happened to him.
Just remember, there is only so much one person can take. Try to picture what the future will bring and plan accordingly. You know this girl better than any one, and if shes like you say, child support may be the least of your worries.
I hope everything works out for the best. I'm pulling for you, I have seen first hand just how ugly these situations can get.
  GL
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: d4a2n0k]
#7610899 - 11/08/07 12:06 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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This kinda nightmare is why I'm so wary of relationships in general...
Don't let people fool you into thinking you should stay in this situation. Live in your car if you have to - just leave her to her own mess for a bit and see how it affects her. Not to say you should ever go back. People like this don't deserve sympathy. Hopefully your kid will be born and you can get full custody of him. Best of luck.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: d4a2n0k]
#7610900 - 11/08/07 12:06 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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thanks, thats about the best advice Ive heard. as of now I'm going to try and make things work. i will give her the benefit of the doubt and let her get her rest. 2 weeks ago she was in the hospital for dehydration a few times. even the nurses were getting annoyed cause she was in so much. they said that no matter what she has to eat and drink even if it makes her throw up more. shes such a brat that she would rather go to the hospital and get hooked up to an IV then eat and throw it up. i am going to try to make shit work, there is a lot of potential in this relationship and it would be a shame to throw shit away for some petty shit. i know i was going to leave her before but shit changed that so hopefully things will work out. if not fuck it. what are the chances of me getting the kid and her paying child support? has this happened before? i would like to start looking into this now so I'm prepared and when it comes down to it i will have a stronger case.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: JunkFood]
#7610917 - 11/08/07 12:13 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Alright, I have a question or two. How long has she been without a job? If she got popped with a drug test right now, what do you think the chances are of THC being in her system? If things are exactly as you say, you've got a good chance to snatch custody of the child and boot her out of your life for good without having to pay her a dime.
It's true that females usually have an advantage when it comes to cases involving children and/or child-support, but if you can convince a judge that she's unfit as a mother, she wouldn't get a thing from you. It's hard to do it, but once somebody sees the true colors of a shitty mom, the system's only sympathy usually comes in the form of food stamps and nothing else.
My older sister had to raise her two children on food stamps for awhile because she was a deadbeat slob who never wanted to get a job. Even today, she's still a jobless moocher, though her children are a bit older now. She re-married and leeched off of her husband's paychecks, and he eventually divorced her for basically the same reasons you described, only without the pregnancy involved.
Adoption is something to also consider, if the child ends up in your hands. It really depends on whether you think you're ready to raise it. There's nothing wrong with admitting to yourself that this isn't something you're willing to dive into yet. Just make sure if you decide to adopt that you meet personally with the potential family(s) so you can be at ease over your child's living environment. Don't be afraid to turn people down if you don't catch a good vibe. You'll thank yourself later, and it'll be much easier on your conscience.
Also, this may seem like a low move, but if you're desperate to get that wench out of your life for good, you'd help your case greatly by sprinkling a lie or two into the mix. Tell them she stopped taking birth control without telling you, despite her knowing you weren't willing to have any children. That belief, coupled with her being jobless and adamant about receiving child-support would look really bad on her.
If she's -really- out to get you, you could get her back by spiking her beverages or food with trace amounts of keef, hash, or something else high in THC content and encourage the officials to make her take a drug test after a few weeks of discretely doing this to her. Just make sure you keep yourself clean if she tries to spring one on you.
I'm no legal advisor, mind you. I just have a particular disdain for lazy women who know they're contributing nothing, but act like they should be your Jesus because they're carrying your spawn. Just do whatever it takes, man. Don't let some bitch ruin your life. It's your life. Take whatever measures you need to fix things and make yourself happy again. No chick is worth sacrificing your own mental well-being for, even if you do love her.
One more thing. Does she use the internet often while you're at work? If she does, install an invisible keylogger program and review what sites she browses and what she types. You might find something to further incriminate her and help your case. I'd reccomend "Ghost Keylogger". You can pirate it from any number of sites or P2P programs out there.
Good luck, and keep us posted if any new developments occur.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610949 - 11/08/07 12:20 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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In a custody situation the child goes to whoever can prove they are more worthy of taking care of the child. I believe it comes down to a judges decision, so there is nothing that will guarantee you keeping the child. Just plead your case accordingly. I believe things like your living situation, income, criminal background, things of this nature all play a part. However, if you were able to prove she was smoking while pregnant, I would think you would have a 99% chance of getting custody. Your states laws may very well be different, just talk to a lawyer who specializes in these matters, usually you can get a consultation for free or cheap.
peace and GL
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7610965 - 11/08/07 12:22 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Get some of her hair without her knowing it (from a hairbrush) and get it tested. Doesn't pot show up in a hair test?
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! *DELETED* [Re: emilbus]
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: PJDIDDLE]
#7610988 - 11/08/07 12:29 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Script said: Set up hidden surveillance and leave your stash on the coffee table.
or you could just weigh it
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7611009 - 11/08/07 12:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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wow how far into the pregnancy are you?
Dude, I hate to say it, but this attitude you're getting from her, is what you're going to get from her for the rest of your life. Even if you get a divorce or leave her or whatever, she will get half your paycheck for child support.
Anyways. thank you, you are bringing me one step closer to geting a vasectomy so I NEVER HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION.
You took one for the team man.
**EDIT: BTW Its your call what you want to do. I know what I would do, well it wouldve been done the second she told me she was pregnant.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: ManianFH]
#7611127 - 11/08/07 01:04 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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the father rarely gets custody of the child
the mother has to be in a extremely bad situation for it to happen
i know first hand
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: emilbus]
#7612150 - 11/08/07 05:32 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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emilbus said: drunkie??? thats a little dumb, bro. are you even old enough to be on this site?
old enuf to spot some one who is an unhappy drunk
u said it yourself actualy
pills and booze do not a family make. get out there and do somthing
work it out
drunkie
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: notapillow]
#7612220 - 11/08/07 06:01 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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notapillow
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: GGreatOne234]
#7612232 - 11/08/07 06:05 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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well excuse me
im sorry but this kinda shit just makes me not care
LOOK dude, we get it. women actin up. joo got her preggers (maybe?) and you are trying to escape from your girl through booze and pills.
i am sorry but you are fucking on your own
no one on here can help you. or offer any ideas that you have not already thought of
either -tell her how you fell and what you need to change - leave like a bitch -or stay like a bitch
i was raised by an uninvolved alchoholic of a father
so please. think of your child. cus i dont give a crap about you anymore
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: notapillow]
#7612250 - 11/08/07 06:10 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude asked for advice. he didnt force YOU to respond. if it annoys you that much just skip over the thread. making an angry person more angry wont help the situation. i understand why hes so pissed off, hell i got angry thinking about myself in that situation. that is a place where NO man wants to be.
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: CherryBom]
#7612252 - 11/08/07 06:10 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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CherryBom said: I think if you were going to leave her before you found out that she was pregnant, you might as well do it.
This is a seriously messed up situation and no kind of enviroment to raise a kid in. You guys would seriously be better off apart. The kid can still have a mother and still have a father, but instead of both being miserable...both can be happier and more functional apart.
Leave your girlfriend. Do it for the baby first, and yourself second. You will have to pay child support, of course...but think of the rest of your life. It's really a small price to pay.
This is really dysfunctional.
dead on bom
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Re: I'M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND W/ THIS BITCH!!!! [Re: LeftyBurnz]
#7612262 - 11/08/07 06:14 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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leftysurprise said: dude asked for advice. he didnt force YOU to respond. if it annoys you that much just skip over the thread. making an angry person more angry wont help the situation. i understand why hes so pissed off, hell i got angry thinking about myself in that situation. that is a place where NO man wants to be.
uh no he made this post just saying how fucked he is.
like i sayed. if you need advise from the internet on this problem you should never be alowed to stick your dick in anything.
im not trying to make this guy mad. im trying yo snap him back to reality..
"bitch bitch bitch. my bitch is bitching and the tiny bitch in her womb is gonna cost me bitch tons of money"
not trying to be rudde. but this kinda stuff is the resson most of emaerica is violent nd untrustworthy. there parents where too fucked up and screaming at each other to play 
im always on the kids side tho so yeah
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