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How young is too young?
#7599903 - 11/05/07 07:31 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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So im 19 years young, a sophomore in college and i recently became close with a girl who's 16 years old. We were just friends but i just found out that she has a thing for me and i'm kinda into her too.
She's really cute, and a really great person but i don't know if it would be legit to have anything more than a good friendship with this girl because of her age. I'm not saying im gonna bang her, im just saying maybe a relationship right now.
What do yall think bout this?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599906 - 11/05/07 07:32 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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What state do you live in? 16 is legal in Nevada.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7599940 - 11/05/07 07:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm not gonna say what state i live in, i live around the new york metro area. But like i said im not in this to fuck her as of now, but in the future who knows....
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599946 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Half your age + 7 is an acceptable golden rule in my book.
19/2 + 7 = 16.5
Looking good...
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599947 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Also legal is not really what i'm pondering, i'm wondering if morally its alright?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7599952 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think there is certainly a big difference in maturity levels for some, but it all depends on the situation in my opinion. I think it's ridiculous that if you are 18 and over, you can't date anyone under 18 though.
If you do decide to have sex with her though, remember that it's probably a crime where you are. You REALLY don't want the sex offender status following you around for the rest of your life.
Morally though, I see nothing wrong with it at all. If you are not taking advantage of her in any way, then what is wrong with it?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599954 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ha i like that formula musher
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: musher_420]
#7599957 - 11/05/07 07:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well I disagree with that...if your like 60 and way rich...you should be able to date girls that are 40 years younger then you.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599981 - 11/05/07 07:47 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
opensaysme said: She's really cute, and a really great person but i don't know if it would be legit to have anything more than a good friendship with this girl because of her age. I'm not saying im gonna bang her, im just saying maybe a relationship right now.
Don't even give it a second thought! Don't pay atention to age.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600024 - 11/05/07 07:58 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Edit: Musher beat me to it.
Addendum 1: Or whatever the age of consent is in your state.
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Edited by Kid_Orgo (11/05/07 07:59 PM)
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#7600034 - 11/05/07 08:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Go for it. No doubt.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600055 - 11/05/07 08:04 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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wow...in Spain age of consent is 13. You can have sex with 13 year olds...wtf?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7600115 - 11/05/07 08:16 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think i will 
Just spoke with her, got plans to chill on thursday.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600136 - 11/05/07 08:21 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I feel you. I met this 17 year old(I am 19) last summer and we hit it off. No fucking, but some fooling around. Then I left for college . BUT she is looking for colleges and just visited mine and loved it(cause it is so lovable) so if she goes here that may turn out good for me.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Tangerines]
#7600396 - 11/05/07 09:20 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Morality and legality shouldn't be a cause for concern. The thing to be most concerned about is her. If she's understanding of the situation and is willing to make that choice without niaveté, I say go for it. If she's uncertain or hesitates, you'd be best to give her time and let her make the decision on her own.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600421 - 11/05/07 09:25 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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go get her kid!
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Gill]
#7600427 - 11/05/07 09:26 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I agree completely, thanks for the advice man. She made it pretty clear to me tonight that she's interested in something more then a friendship, so im gonna go for it and we'll see what happens.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600445 - 11/05/07 09:28 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you get her pregnant and dump her like a looser dead beat then you have every right feeling morally wrong......
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600512 - 11/05/07 09:38 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude thats only 3 years man, go for it.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600553 - 11/05/07 09:45 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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although it is only 3 years and i don't think there is anything morality wrong with it, from my experiences those 3 years are huge years as far as maturity goes.
but of course it differs from person to person, and you sound intelligent and obviously she is very mature for you to consider it 
if you see it fit, go for it and enjoi teh ride!
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: razmablues]
#7613917 - 11/09/07 06:52 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Saw her last night, it went real well . It's clear to me that the attraction is mutual and i've decided three years difference ain't that bad.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7613926 - 11/09/07 06:56 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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If her parents don't especially her dad than I say go for it, if you like her you like her. I really don't see anything wrong with it. I understand how you feel though.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: razmablues]
#7613937 - 11/09/07 07:03 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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razmablues said: although it is only 3 years and i don't think there is anything morality wrong with it, from my experiences those 3 years are huge years as far as maturity goes.
I got to agree with razmablues on this one!
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That's the thing, right now i think her parents still just think we're friends. They like me a lot because they know me from chilling with their older daughter and I've always been respectful and courteous.
I'm not sure how the father will react though when he realizes its more than just a friendship with the younger sibling ha he's a hothead.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7613948 - 11/09/07 07:10 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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aDoS said: wow...in Spain age of consent is 13. You can have sex with 13 year olds...wtf?
In Canada it's 14. I think there is a maximum 4-year age difference though, until both are 18.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7613984 - 11/09/07 07:29 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Listen to your first instinct and follow that. If you're thinking that her parents or the law would forbid you from seeing her, you might want to stay friends for a while longer.
I dated a girl who was 18 when I was 14, and when she 'cheated on me' my sister and my mother wouldn't let me even talk to her. Of course I still managed to sneak around, but it certainly made things difficult.
If you feel a connection and you can see good things coming of the relationship, by all means, pursue it!
Best of luck!
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7614058 - 11/09/07 08:13 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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The only problem is what the idiot masses think of it...
Ohhh a number difference, stone him - gather the lynch mob...
It doesn't matter but society has trained itself to make boundaries of moral acceptability mainly due to high profile media cases, its more of prevalent idea than ever.
At the end of the day, if you both enjoy yourself, nobody does anything they don't want to do and everyones mature and intelligent enough to understand then theres nothing wrong. Only the couple themselves can know that.
But be prepared to take shit from everyone else.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7614169 - 11/09/07 08:50 AM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I dated a girl that was 16 when i was 19 and she turned out to be one of the best girlfriends that I ever had. Alot of times the maturity level is a big factor, but not all of the time. I say go for it.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: blissedout]
#7615143 - 11/09/07 12:49 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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blissedout said: I dated a girl that was 16 when i was 19 and she turned out to be one of the best girlfriends that I ever had. Alot of times the maturity level is a big factor, but not all of the time. I say go for it.
Good to see i'm not alone here lol. Thanks for the advice, i appreciate it from someone who's been there.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: razmablues]
#7615148 - 11/09/07 12:51 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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huge difference in maturity
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7615175 - 11/09/07 12:59 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'll go against the replies here and say find someone who can't royaly screw you if she and/or her mother gets pissed off and calls the popo
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Stizzle]
#7615179 - 11/09/07 01:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well wait till she is 17 and you are 19 and it will be legal right?
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