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How young is too young?
#7599903 - 11/05/07 07:31 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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So im 19 years young, a sophomore in college and i recently became close with a girl who's 16 years old. We were just friends but i just found out that she has a thing for me and i'm kinda into her too.
She's really cute, and a really great person but i don't know if it would be legit to have anything more than a good friendship with this girl because of her age. I'm not saying im gonna bang her, im just saying maybe a relationship right now.
What do yall think bout this?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599906 - 11/05/07 07:32 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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What state do you live in? 16 is legal in Nevada.
-------------------- "If we could sniff or swallow something that would, for five or six hours each day, abolish our solitude as individuals, atone us with our fellows in a glowing exaltation of affection and make life in all its aspects seem not only worth living, but divinely beautiful and significant, and if this heavenly, world-transfiguring drug were of such a kind that we could wake up next morning with a clear head and an undamaged constitution - then, it seems to me, all our problems (and not merely the one small problem of discovering a novel pleasure) would be wholly solved and earth would become paradise." - Aldous Huxley GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7599940 - 11/05/07 07:39 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm not gonna say what state i live in, i live around the new york metro area. But like i said im not in this to fuck her as of now, but in the future who knows....
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599946 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Half your age + 7 is an acceptable golden rule in my book.
19/2 + 7 = 16.5
Looking good...
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599947 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Also legal is not really what i'm pondering, i'm wondering if morally its alright?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7599952 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think there is certainly a big difference in maturity levels for some, but it all depends on the situation in my opinion. I think it's ridiculous that if you are 18 and over, you can't date anyone under 18 though.
If you do decide to have sex with her though, remember that it's probably a crime where you are. You REALLY don't want the sex offender status following you around for the rest of your life.
Morally though, I see nothing wrong with it at all. If you are not taking advantage of her in any way, then what is wrong with it?
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599954 - 11/05/07 07:40 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Ha i like that formula musher
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: musher_420]
#7599957 - 11/05/07 07:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well I disagree with that...if your like 60 and way rich...you should be able to date girls that are 40 years younger then you.
-------------------- "If we could sniff or swallow something that would, for five or six hours each day, abolish our solitude as individuals, atone us with our fellows in a glowing exaltation of affection and make life in all its aspects seem not only worth living, but divinely beautiful and significant, and if this heavenly, world-transfiguring drug were of such a kind that we could wake up next morning with a clear head and an undamaged constitution - then, it seems to me, all our problems (and not merely the one small problem of discovering a novel pleasure) would be wholly solved and earth would become paradise." - Aldous Huxley GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7599981 - 11/05/07 07:47 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
opensaysme said: She's really cute, and a really great person but i don't know if it would be legit to have anything more than a good friendship with this girl because of her age. I'm not saying im gonna bang her, im just saying maybe a relationship right now.
Don't even give it a second thought! Don't pay atention to age.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600024 - 11/05/07 07:58 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Edit: Musher beat me to it.
Addendum 1: Or whatever the age of consent is in your state.
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Edited by Kid_Orgo (11/05/07 07:59 PM)
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#7600034 - 11/05/07 08:00 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Go for it. No doubt.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600055 - 11/05/07 08:04 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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wow...in Spain age of consent is 13. You can have sex with 13 year olds...wtf?
-------------------- "If we could sniff or swallow something that would, for five or six hours each day, abolish our solitude as individuals, atone us with our fellows in a glowing exaltation of affection and make life in all its aspects seem not only worth living, but divinely beautiful and significant, and if this heavenly, world-transfiguring drug were of such a kind that we could wake up next morning with a clear head and an undamaged constitution - then, it seems to me, all our problems (and not merely the one small problem of discovering a novel pleasure) would be wholly solved and earth would become paradise." - Aldous Huxley GIVE ME OPIATES OR GIVE ME DEATH
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: aDoS]
#7600115 - 11/05/07 08:16 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I think i will 
Just spoke with her, got plans to chill on thursday.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600136 - 11/05/07 08:21 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I feel you. I met this 17 year old(I am 19) last summer and we hit it off. No fucking, but some fooling around. Then I left for college . BUT she is looking for colleges and just visited mine and loved it(cause it is so lovable) so if she goes here that may turn out good for me.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Tangerines]
#7600396 - 11/05/07 09:20 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Morality and legality shouldn't be a cause for concern. The thing to be most concerned about is her. If she's understanding of the situation and is willing to make that choice without niaveté, I say go for it. If she's uncertain or hesitates, you'd be best to give her time and let her make the decision on her own.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600421 - 11/05/07 09:25 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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go get her kid!
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: Gill]
#7600427 - 11/05/07 09:26 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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I agree completely, thanks for the advice man. She made it pretty clear to me tonight that she's interested in something more then a friendship, so im gonna go for it and we'll see what happens.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600445 - 11/05/07 09:28 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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If you get her pregnant and dump her like a looser dead beat then you have every right feeling morally wrong......
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600512 - 11/05/07 09:38 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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dude thats only 3 years man, go for it.
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Re: How young is too young? [Re: opensaysme]
#7600553 - 11/05/07 09:45 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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although it is only 3 years and i don't think there is anything morality wrong with it, from my experiences those 3 years are huge years as far as maturity goes.
but of course it differs from person to person, and you sound intelligent and obviously she is very mature for you to consider it 
if you see it fit, go for it and enjoi teh ride!
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