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emilbus
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Im gonna be a dad and....
#7592312 - 11/03/07 07:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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im excited, but lately ive been having a lot of mixed feelings. before i knew my g/f was pregnant i was fine with going to work, coming home, watching tv, hanging out with her, and randomly seeing a movie or going out to eat. i was fine with only having sex with her and i was okay with not having a lot of friends and being some what of a loner. now, i want to go out, i want to meet new people, i think about being with other chicks, (which i wont, i will not cheat on her). i sometimes find myself getting mad at the fact that she will be the last girl im with. i dont know im all mixed up. im not freaking out im just......... im happy but then im pissed off. okay heres the thing. i love her and i adore her and i even like her. but for the past 6 months things have been crappy. we werent getting along for shit. i was planning on leaving her once i got my license back and got my own car which i have now, but now shes pregnant and i cant and wont leave her. i really dont know what to do. im so damn confused and im stressing out at work which causes me to fuck up. i dont know.........
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592314 - 11/03/07 07:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Sounds like the married life/fatherhood ain't for you
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true that kids and a girl you dont want can be a huge burden. You better change your way of thinking or get ready to be miserable. If youre lucky this experience will change you over time.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592400 - 11/03/07 08:17 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Thats because you werent ready and you realize all of your time is gonna be focused on the kid, not to mentiton this girl is with you for life wether you two like each other or not. You don't have to stay in a relationship with the girl but the kid you do, if you are trying to do the right thing. I think all this is making you realize how much more in life there is to do and now you have something holding you back. This dosen't mean you are completly tied down there will be time, it's not like your the one carrying the kid and remember that! respect that! this girl is doing something amazing she's got more to be worried about then you ever will, don't forget that.
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emil,
this is now about the kid unfortunately.
adoption might be something you guys should talk about. why bring a kid into a home where the parents do not really care for eachother and are not truly prepared.
there are countless homes with couples who cannot conceive and are both emotionally and finacially ready for a child.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592433 - 11/03/07 08:28 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Saw one of her high heels almost to the point of breaking and then take her on a ride up the largest escalator you can find and hopefully things work themselves out.
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emilbus
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im not giving my child up. im going to work my hardest at this relationship and being the right father. theres just so much shit going through my head. the job im at now is great for a single guy. i make about 2000-2500 a month and im barley supporting my chick and i. now with a kid its going to become much harder. for me growing up wasnt that bad. my parents werent poor but they werent rich. they were middle class so i had a good life. i didnt get a fucking 20,000 dollar car when i turned 16 but i never had to worry about losing power or not having food or being kicked out cause we couldnt pay the rent. i stayed in an apt with my parents until i was 7 and from there we moved into a house. how am i suppose to do this for my kid. i dont have the money or the time to goto school to get a better job and i dunno now im just bitching. anyway, thanks for the input but im going to stop now cause im sure know one wants to here me whine.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592455 - 11/03/07 08:35 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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sometimes you need to vent. this is pretty heavy stuff and it is better to vent than to let it bounce off the walls of your head only. it sucks that you aren't ready for this.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592470 - 11/03/07 08:41 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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you don't have time but you make time, and if your keeping the kid and want him to grow up in middle class or higher its time for you to go back to college like right now....and since your women is going to be on her back for like 6months she might as well hit the books to (online courses for now)
thats something that needs to be figuered out also, what kind of job does she have and is she willing to get a better job/college.
if you do alot of searching you prob can find a better paying job, but in the long run your better off with college, sooner you start the better.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: TODAY]
#7592481 - 11/03/07 08:44 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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this is a very heavy issue. you should definitely go and do one those nightly stroll life pondering walks for this.
ask yourself:
*will you be able to lead a fulfilling life by making this choice? will this compromise your dreams?
*what choice is in the best interest of everyone. do not let personal feelings interfere. look at it from the perspective of a stranger. what is best for you, your girlfriend, and your son/daughter.
I can really feel for you on this issue, I just had a friend get knocked up at the age of 18. she is now 19, no longer with her boyfriend, struggling to make ends meet, feeling like life is passing her by. she can no longer enjoy herself or do what she wants, she can't afford to go to school, she can't be with her friends, she has to work constantly to support herself and her kid. it will be an endless vicious cycle, she will be doing this to herself until the kid is grown up.
she loves her child, but regrets having her.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: makaveli8x8]
#7592482 - 11/03/07 08:44 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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your coat hangar is in the mail
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: AJ4U]
#7592486 - 11/03/07 08:45 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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mods should delete AJ4U's reply.
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oliveplume said: mods should delete AJ4U's reply.
Back to PE with you hippy lol get over it
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emilbus
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: AJ4U]
#7592578 - 11/03/07 09:09 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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i dont have the money to pay for my schooling or hers. right now my g/f isnt working which is fine but she does have the skill and the connections to become a manager and run her own store in a few years. she just doesnt want to because its fast food. her sister right now is making about 5,000-6,000 a month running her own store and i told my chick every day that she could be doing the same exact thing. she was on her way too, she went from being a car hop to an asst. to co. in a year and they ended up fucking her hard and she said fuck it and quit. the thing is that this is all she knows. anywhere else she goes will just be minimum wage bullshit and that just wont cut it. theres know way i can put her in school cause of the money. trust me, if i had it i would. shes so damn book smart its not even funny. shes too smart for her own good. so now im going to be busting my ass even more cause shes either not going to work or she will work but will only make like 600/month. right now im working 60 hours a week so i wont ever have time to goto school. i dont know how people do this. the only reason my parents made it was because my dad joined the military and worked his way up. hes now a master sgt. for the air force which is pretty bad ass i think. anyway the military is out of the question for me. as for her i know she could get in easy and go pretty far with them, but im being selfish cause im afraid i would lose her. im a pretty dumb average guy and i know the sec she got into the military she would meet all these new people and leave me eventually. i know thats my own insecurity but whatever. maybe i should just let her join. we could get married, live on base, i could still work and the kid would have a stable life. what if she has to go across seas?
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592599 - 11/03/07 09:14 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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this relationship sounds too shakey my friend. i don't think this is really meant to be...
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emilbus
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its kinda too late for the whole " ment to be " thing
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592640 - 11/03/07 09:27 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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it's not.
don't take this as me trying to push you one way or the other, but you still have a choice.
you guys, especially with a baby now, are very emotionally tied to eachother and it's very hard to look past this.
I've seen this happen to so many young couples and I would hate for it to happen to you too.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592648 - 11/03/07 09:29 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Leave now before you care about 'em.
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emilbus
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: unbeliever]
#7592698 - 11/03/07 09:43 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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nah im going to try and make it work between us. i want the kid to be born into a family and not a single mom or dad.
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Re: Im gonna be a dad and.... [Re: emilbus]
#7592737 - 11/03/07 09:56 PM (16 years, 2 months ago) |
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Join a military branch and live in base housing...just an idea.
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