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OrgoneConclusion
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Re: relationship patterns repeat over and over and over ad nauseum.... [Re: PhanTomCat]
#7571015 - 10/28/07 09:01 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Where are all the baggageless people like us?
Hmmm. Could be a business opportunity here. A dating service: www.nobaggage.com.
But, but, but, I only have a small carry-on.
Sorry, Mister! No baggage means NO BAGGAGE.
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PhanTomCat
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Re: relationship patterns repeat over and over and over ad nauseum.... [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
#7571068 - 10/28/07 09:15 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Don't get me wrong, I am not holier than thou, everyone has some sort of jaded or affected baggage.... Some baggage is tolerable, some baggage is "fixable", and some baggage is a life long struggle that can never be lost because it was traumatically and deeply engraved.... (is "baggage" singular or plural....? )
I consider myself to have the tolerable and fixable baggage type, but I seem to meet the ones (women) with the deeply engraved baggage types.... Whether it be me who makes the first move, or they, in the end it seems to be consistent....
It is also sad know that you cannot help someone else fix their own internal problems - no matter how much you think you understand them.... 
>^;;^<
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backfromthedead
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Re: relationship patterns repeat over and over and over ad nauseum.... [Re: PhanTomCat]
#7571448 - 10/28/07 11:12 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Why??
I think everybody can help someone in some way.
I need a therapist.
What do you say??
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NiamhNyx
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Re: relationship patterns repeat over and over and over ad nauseum.... [Re: backfromthedead]
#7571639 - 10/29/07 12:55 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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You can be a friend and support a person through figuring out thier problems if they are interested, but it's terribly naive and self-destructive to hang onto a doomed relationship thinking you can 'fix' a person into loving you when they can't. It's dumb and it's also kind of manipulative to think that you can guide a person into filling a particular role for you, when maybe what they really need is to be something else entirely.
If anyone is still interested in my silly personal life- and I'm sure everyone is hanging by a thread waiting for more detail- we had an excellent conversation, realized we are more alike than we thought in that we have the same basic pattern and also that being friends is a better plan and a good way to avoid dragging ourselves through the pattern once more. I'm happy that I have made such an excellent new friend.
Orgone - I like this no baggage dating service idea. The only problem is - who's gonna make it through the screening process?
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