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HeadTripVertigo
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so how do I go about this?
#7545776 - 10/22/07 05:16 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have this friend, who is great, by all means. lots of fun, gorgeous, will attempt to drink you under the table(and could probably do it), etc. the girl doesn't like beer so she carries around a flask of whiskey instead. shes in a long distance(but not too long) relationship with this dude 2+ hours away. she loves him and all, but has also made it pretty clear that it's a non-monogamous relationship... we're good friends, but every time I feel like we're both drunk enough to get to that point, the night is usually at it's end. so......how do I go about this in a practical manner without fucking up such an awesome friendship?
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Gill


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It's probably not the best idea to attempt it while you're both drunk. If she wakes up the next day and goes "What was I thinking?", that could be bad for you. If you're interested in a monogamous relationship with her, your best bet is just to tell her how you feel in any way you can. If you're going for a 'friends with benefits' set-up, and you're comfortable enough with her (which it sounds like you are), just casually make bodily contact and see how she reacts. Leaning, holding hands; anything mildly affectionate like that. If she seems receptive, well, you know the rest.
I don't think your friendship's in any danger, unless you accidentally make her believe that you're only interested in sleeping with her and nothing else. If it's really an awesome friendship, the fact that she made it a point to tell you that she's in a polygamous relationship might be her little way of telling you to hurry up and make a move already. Hope that helps some.
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HeadTripVertigo
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Re: so how do I go about this? [Re: Gill]
#7546194 - 10/22/07 09:58 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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shes told me about the non-monogamous relationship thing when I first me her. so I don't really take that as some blatantly discreet invitation...
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john706
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yeah, tell her how you feel. if you just go for it, sure it may happen, but that might be the end of it, she might not want a relationship and things could get ackward.
p.s agalloch rocks.
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Quote:
HeadTripVertigo said: so......how do I go about this in a practical manner without fucking up such an awesome friendship?
You probably can't. Get with her if that's what you want, but don't be surprised if suddenly it is awkward to hang out as friends. If it's a one-time thing, your friendship might survive it.
Something weird happens between two people once they have sex, IME. You might find yourself getting jealous when other guys show interest in her, or you each might have different expectations about where it's going to go... it's hard to know what will happen, but I can guarantee you things will not be the same.
Be careful.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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