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Getting over an ex
    #7542675 - 10/21/07 12:55 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

It's been 3 months now, and quite frankly I'm fucking sick of pining after her. This won't wipe away all my feelings, but it'll sure help.

I just threw away everything linked to her. I know I'll regret it come tomorrow, but I have to do this otherwise I'll never be able to move on properly. Clothes, photos, mementoes, letters etc all in the bin. I also deleted all the emails we've sent each other, as well as (and I know for a fact I'll regret this the most) our sex videos/photos/you get the point.

Time to move on and forget about that bitch.

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7543022 - 10/21/07 02:16 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Yes you definitely did the right thing.

You shouldn't regret getting rid of those things, especially not the sex tapes. Did the relationship last? Then those things probably weren't as special as you thought. Why would you want to be reminded of you and someone you're no longer with having sex? Be glad you got rid of those things, and continue to move on.

Good luck bro!


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7543092 - 10/21/07 02:34 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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I just threw away everything linked to her.




You just did what you had to do. :smile:
Now you do the same with all the thoughts and ideas you had regarding the two of you. It's exactly what's keeping you from forgetting her - your attachment to what you thought that was happening between the you and her... being in love with the idea of being in love. If it was more, you wouldn't even consider getting over her.


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7543104 - 10/21/07 02:37 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Well said, and something I myself needed to hear as well! Thanks!


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7543196 - 10/21/07 03:03 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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MushroomTrip said:
being in love with the idea of being in love. If it was more, you wouldn't even consider getting over her.




That makes a ton of sense, thanks :smile::thumbup:

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7543352 - 10/21/07 03:49 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

man i highly reccomend going out and finding someone else, if only for a night.

you have to get out of the funk.

it worked for me :smile:!


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"People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: ZippoZ]
    #7543360 - 10/21/07 03:51 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

meh just more regrets...

unless you have no soul :tongue2:


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: boxcarguy07]
    #7543386 - 10/21/07 04:00 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

???? thats an outright harsh statment.

i never advocated "using" anyone. just moving on.


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"People do it every day, they talk to themselves ... they see themselves as they'd like to be, they don't have the courage you have, to just run with it."

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: ZippoZ]
    #7543427 - 10/21/07 04:11 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Oh, I didn't mean anything by it. I was just messing around.

I was just saying you can move on without a one-night stand. Which could lead to more regrets.


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: boxcarguy07]
    #7543528 - 10/21/07 04:44 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Sometimes a one night stand can really bring some closure to a previous relationship.  It's a psysical act of 'moving on'...

Or a temporary fuck buddy.  I used one of those to get over an absolutley HORRIBLE break up.  It helped a little.  :heart:


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: CherryBom]
    #7543774 - 10/21/07 05:49 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

I agree. Getting with someone else (even if it's only a night or two) works wonders for getting over someone. Be sure that both of you agree it's just a casual thing and nothing serious, and it shouldn't leave any room for regrets.

Having to get over someone can be difficult!


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Jorsher]
    #7543823 - 10/21/07 06:02 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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Having to get over someone can be difficult!




Not necessarily.
"Having to get over someone" implies the realization that the certain someone was an illusion. That we fell in love with the idea that we created in our minds about them (with or without their help), and which doesn't correspond to the truth. It's a thought attachment, something that appeals to us in such a manner that we don't want to let go of that illusion. This is not love, though it can be easily confused with.
Being that said, once we realize that it's only a thought pattern which keeps us from getting over, we rid that obsessive imagination, now convinced that we didn't lose "the one".
I observed for a very long time how break-ups work, and I found one thing in common. People don't over their ex-es because they think they lost "the one". And since this idea is out of picture through solely realizing that we deluded ourselves into thinking that, we're free from the past, more experienced and ready to enjoy life again. :sunny:


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #7544914 - 10/21/07 10:17 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Hmmm.

That was incredibly insightful. Thank you!


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: CherryBom]
    #7558022 - 10/25/07 05:23 AM (16 years, 5 months ago)

The only bad thing is I keep dreaming about her, which sucks because then I wake up thinking about her and it invariably sets the tone for the rest of the day.

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7558431 - 10/25/07 09:07 AM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe you still love her.

Is getting back together completely out of the question?


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7558479 - 10/25/07 09:27 AM (16 years, 5 months ago)

People dream about whatever they think about throughout the day. Tossing the memorabilia will help you think about her less.


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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: CherryBom]
    #7558994 - 10/25/07 12:13 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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Maybe you still love her.

Is getting back together completely out of the question?




We're 5 thousand miles apart and she is now (supposedly, I have my doubts) a lesbian.

So... it's a bit difficult, yes :lol:

That's part of the reason why I want/need to move on. There's a strong chance I'll never see her again.


I know for a fact that I still love her, but just recently it hit me that I now strongly dislike (hate is too strong) her. That's what spurned me to gather everything and throw it away.

Such conflicting emotions all the time, it's killing me.

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: WhiskeyClone]
    #7559007 - 10/25/07 12:16 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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People dream about whatever they think about throughout the day. Tossing the memorabilia will help you think about her less.




It also doesn't help that I'm unemployed right now as all I do is sit around all day. A job will give me something to do and keep my mind occupied, so I can't wait for that.

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7559473 - 10/25/07 02:32 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

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Phumfeinz said:
Quote:

WhiskeyClone said:
People dream about whatever they think about throughout the day. Tossing the memorabilia will help you think about her less.




It also doesn't help that I'm unemployed right now as all I do is sit around all day. A job will give me something to do and keep my mind occupied, so I can't wait for that.




Yah I got a job and I'm slowly getting over my ex that I broke up with 3 months ago. I even got some other bitch's number last night.

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Re: Getting over an ex [Re: Thin White Duke]
    #7563775 - 10/26/07 03:55 PM (16 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe is WAS love. I don't know, you know better.
What I can tell you is that when you feel bad regarding someone it isn't love anymore.
You know the details of what you shared and how things went between the two of you. But from what it seems, she wants nothing to do with you anymore so the connection (is it ever was one) is gone. Now love is about being and remaining connected with that person.
Maybe you dream about her exactly because you try so hard to forget her. And the more you think about that, the more you think about her in fact. So it's only natural that you have those dreams.
Give yourself the necessary time to heal, don't rush into it because it only takes it's natural course, which is the best. If you feel sad about it, allow yourself to feel that sadness but don't obsess over it. You're simply experiencing this feeling, in this moment, and maybe there's something you can learn from it.
I think that everything should be fine with you, as long as you don't identify yourself with that sadness.It's very much like breaking your arm or something. You acknowledge the uneasy feeling but you know it's healing. :heart:


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All this time I've loved you
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And searched this human race
Here is true peace
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Bathed in your sighs

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