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bi polar
#7531101 - 10/18/07 12:32 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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can being married to someone who is bi polar make your brain messed up after a while?
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jonathanseagull
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Re: bi polar [Re: Bully]
#7531125 - 10/18/07 12:40 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes. It can confuse you. Stability, consistency, and all of these type of things that lack in people who go from manic to depressive are important to a healthy mind, especially in the home.
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jonathanseagull said: Yes. It can confuse you. Stability, consistency, and all of these type of things that lack in people who go from manic to depressive are important to a healthy mind, especially in the home.
im totally confused. the only consistency is chaos around here, not by my doing. how do you tell your wife that her craziness has made you crazy? that if we continue like this that it will explode?
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Re: bi polar [Re: Bully]
#7531929 - 10/18/07 04:16 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Her "craziness" does not make you crazy since you're the one who controls your emotions, not anybody else. It is true that staying around a mentally unstable person had an impact on you, but it is not her the one who's responsible for the way you feel. After all, she's ill and you can't ask her to "control" her craziness for you. It just doesn't make any sense to me. What you can do is protect yourself yourself the best way you can, that including a divorce. Staying in a situation that doesn't please you and complaining about it does nothing but to take away your power of decision and discernment.
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Re: bi polar [Re: Bully]
#7532298 - 10/18/07 05:36 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Also, while not abandoning her, don't feel obligated to stay with her and help her. Her happiness is her responsibility, as is yours yours. You should definitely attempt to help her accept her illness and then be motivated to seek help. If you cannot get through to her, then you have done your part.
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Re: bi polar [Re: Bully]
#7533705 - 10/19/07 12:04 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wouldn't go so far as to say that it can make your brain messed up; however, living with a mentally impaired individual can have an imapact on you, for the better or for the worse. After a while, you should begin to understand her mania and depression, and therefore, your brain shouldn't be messed up, but properly functioning. You should begin to see patterns in her actions; you should begin to understand her. You just need to give these things some time.
How long have you been married to her? And is she on medication? Lithium?
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Re: bi polar [Re: Feanor]
#7537983 - 10/20/07 01:09 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Bi-polar behaviors CAN be learned. Living in an unstable environment eventually can wear on even the most mentally-stable person. Studies have shown that those living with a bipolar person are more likely to develop similar tendencies.
Theories on why people develop bipolar disorder are inconclusive, but one is that the brain learns to compensate for extremely stressful events with the mania experienced in the disorder. If the brain can "learn" to react to events in such a way, it isn't out of the realm of possibility that one could learn some bipolar behaviors from continued close contact with a bipolar person, especially a parent, spouse, or other highly-influential figure in one's life.
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