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MOTH
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: Adom]
#7512013 - 10/13/07 01:16 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Damn.
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rawtoxic
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: Dreamer987]
#7512032 - 10/13/07 01:22 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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well you can't bitch about letting a cokehead in your house - that's just common sense not to do that.
the girl did tell you what not to do even though it maybe irrational. i would have told her from the start "NO, I'm going to remain friends with him and if you don't want to be MY friend because of it so be it." you should have told her from the start she was being unfair and that your friendship with him is a separate entity than your friendship with her. I assume she was probably angry enough to accuse you of rape because she thought you took the stance with her of total avoiding him and then when she found out you hung out with him you had betrayed her. And women, if you did not know, do not like betrayal.
I am with you though - fuck the drama! Especially with female friends.
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d33p
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512040 - 10/13/07 01:25 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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MOTH said: You ever get lonely? Or are you pretty comfortable with yourself?
I'm living in the Caribbean for a few months and I have more than enough stuff to keep me busy even without real friends around. I am somewhat lonely though. Back home in Miami I have a bunch of friends whom I can't wait to get back for.
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Adom
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The Old Woman and the Snake [Re: rawtoxic]
#7512051 - 10/13/07 01:28 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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An old woman was walking down the road when she saw a gang of thugs beating a poisonous snake. She rescued the snake and carried it back to her home, where she nursed it back to health. THey became friends and lived together for many months. One day they were going into town, and the old woman picked him and the snake bit her. Repeatedly. " O God," she screamed, "I am dying! Why? I was your friend. I saved your life! I trusted you! Why did you bite me?"
The snake looked up at her and said, "Lady, you knew I was a snake when you first picked me up."
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Dreamer987
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: rawtoxic]
#7512052 - 10/13/07 01:28 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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that wasn't the whole story, just an excert.
Yea, it was partially my fault for letting him stay with me, but he's a mate, so what are you gonna do?
I did tell her all that from the get go, i didn't realize how serious she was.
I can bitch as much as i want. That is what the shroomery does for me. thanks for analyzing my life, and helping me decide what decisions i should have made. I'll link you to the next thread where i tell a story, and you can break that one down for me too.
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Dreamer987
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Re: The Old Woman and the Snake [Re: Adom]
#7512067 - 10/13/07 01:33 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ha, i love that old... what would you call that a parable? no thats not right. Like what you would call the story "to teach a man to fish"?
anyway, i don't know why i got all defensive a minute ago. I guess i was just hurting thinking about all that again. sorry
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Adom
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Re: The Old Woman and the Snake [Re: Dreamer987]
#7512078 - 10/13/07 01:36 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Let it out man, I do not mind, everyone here knows I do the same stuff.
I got that parable from Better Than Sex - HST, I started a new book this morning, this is one I actually haven't read before, I think it's the only one left from said auther.
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Dreamer987
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Re: The Old Woman and the Snake [Re: Adom]
#7512090 - 10/13/07 01:39 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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the endings funnier when its said like: "Look bitch, you knew i was a Snake!"
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Adom
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: Dreamer987]
#7512111 - 10/13/07 01:43 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I thought about changing it to ..
The snake looked down upon her and said " Look bitch, you knew I was a snake."
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512155 - 10/13/07 01:55 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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not many, it sucks. i definitely do get lonely. i like being by myself and having my space but i definitely would like to find some cool people that are more on my wavelength ya know. and ive never truly felt that. i do have a few friends that are very close but they live very far away and it really sucks.
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thePatient
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512183 - 10/13/07 02:08 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I am my best friend.
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512190 - 10/13/07 02:11 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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None. I'm doing fine with my schoolwork and drinking alone watching the Science Channel on weekends. I have a girlfriend, but even before then I didn't care much for friends. No friends is a stress-free lifestyle. Girlfriend is a different story.
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MOTH
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: thePatient]
#7512207 - 10/13/07 02:16 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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thePatient said: I am my best friend.
Great answer...I agree. I am my own best friend too. Who else knows me so well?
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JacquesCousteau
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512235 - 10/13/07 02:24 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well, I have my myself, my girlfriend, you, Emma, and Kevin. If you count parents, (I don't know why we couldn't...) I'll add my dad, my mom, and my step-father to that list. My sister is ALMOST my friend. Thanks to her moving halfway across the globe, we get along pretty well now.
However, some of my best friends live miles and miles away. One is in California... another in Texas. Another's in Washington. (Jerry) Another is just down south of boston, but we don't get to see eachother much at all. (Jon from FB)
I don't honestly see the benefit of having a bunch of friends nearby. Every time I've had a group of local friends, it's been through almost what I would call desperation. Friends out of necessity. It breeds dependency and sometimes can hurt the friendship through deep-seeded resentment.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. There are very few people who I can see often and not have them start to grate on me. Maybe it's me.
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MOTH
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: JacquesCousteau]
#7512254 - 10/13/07 02:35 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm very variable when it comes to friendships. Sometimes I'm quite needy for social interaction and then sometimes I'd just rather be alone. I guess that's why I like message boards so much because the two coincide together pretty well. I like to make connections with people and to explore those connections at full throttle, holding nothing back. But then what happens usually is that I get scared that I turn people off with this behavior that feels so natural to who I am and so I withdrawl again. It's a cycle. Sometimes I go through periods where I feel like I have absolutely no friends, but it's usually just because I've become short-sighted and too lost in what ISN'T happening, rather then focusing and enjoying what IS. (still learning how to do that...)
Like today I've already been through this cycle once. Earlier today I was feeling pretty isolated and friendless, but the problem wasn't a lack of friends, it was not appreciating my friendship with the present moment (i.e. me), the one friend that is always here. And then once I finally find joy and acceptance in my heart for that, I suddenly feel full of friends again.
Weird, huh?
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Dreamer987
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: JacquesCousteau]
#7512276 - 10/13/07 02:40 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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JacquesCousteau said: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. There are very few people who I can see often and not have them start to grate on me. Maybe it's me.
That goes with anybody. Almost everybody is better in smaller doses. For example every time i have lived with a friend, it has ended the friendship from overexposure. However to much distance, and its not really a friendship anymore. There are people that used to be my best friends, and we did not see eachother often for a couple of years. For no other reason than the time apart, that closeness is gone. We still hang out. We still remenice about the past, but we don't have anything close to the friendship we once had. I feel shitty about it to this day. That i lost that bond due to nothing but neglect. i mean the dudes live a town over!
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: thePatient]
#7512639 - 10/13/07 04:41 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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thePatient said: I am my best friend.
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LiFe_Trip
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512838 - 10/13/07 05:33 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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MOTH said: I'm very variable when it comes to friendships. Sometimes I'm quite needy for social interaction and then sometimes I'd just rather be alone. I guess that's why I like message boards so much because the two coincide together pretty well. I like to make connections with people and to explore those connections at full throttle, holding nothing back.
I feel a lot like this too, sometimes I feel like going in town and having a party and sometimes I'll decline invitation from friends for the simple reason that I want to be alone listening to music and reading.
I have a complicated relation with people around me. I can divide them in 4 groups :
1 - The "No-Drug" group : They are my friends from High school, before I went and experiment with drugs. They aren't interested in it at all but they like to hear my stories. They are open-minded but one in particular don't even want to hear the word drug of the name of one. There are 6 of them and they only like beer.
2 - The "Druggie" group : They are the one I am with when there's drugs. One is a major lazy pothead, another one is a hard-working pothead and ex-pill user, the third one is a guy that goes thought everything with us but has never taken drugs (except pot 2 times). The fouth one is kind of a friendly dealer, he's the one that can hook you with weed if you are looking for some and finally the last two are number 2's colocataire (french word, they live in the same appartment and pay 50-50 for it)and a guy he hangs with, those two are in pot but pretty much into beer. I am the one with the fascination for psychedelics. They are six and they are the one to trip with, they know what to do and what not to do.
3 - The "we're experimenting" group : They ain't into drugs really nor are they close friend, they're just people I hang with sometimes, they are kinda absurd and childish but it's so fun playing Super Smash Bros Melee or Soul Calibur with them. They smoke weed and do mushrooms on really special occasion, it ain't their thing but they experiment with it. They were part of my big high school crew but on college they took another direction than the no-drug group. They are people I enjoy trippin' with even if sometimes they show how they do not understand a drug induced mind, I mean, they would joke at people and say really bad thing to some people while trippin, they are kinda caught in the high school discrimation spirit. I constantly have to remind them a mind on psychedelics is to take care of, not joke at it. There are 12 of them.
4 - The far away group : Those are the people that got really far from me since I've known them (mostly in High School). I still talk to some of them but it's always only a quick meet, exchange of salutation and we ask ourself about what we've done since we last saw, nothing to write a paragraph about.
That's it, now I re-read this and I realize my friend's circle is complicated lol.
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WhiskeyClone
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: MOTH]
#7512936 - 10/13/07 06:00 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have about 6 people I could call up casually anytime
Maybe 20 more that I am friends with, but not good enough to hang out by ourselves
Fifty or sixty acquaintances
And five or six good friends from school that I only hang out with once a year or so
It's pretty good but I'd like to add more
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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Adom
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Re: How many local friends do you have? [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#7512948 - 10/13/07 06:02 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I rarely consider the people I can call on the phone, I have 3 or 4 I could call anytime of the day or night and they'd pick up and listen to my bullshit, that's a pretty good deal. I don't consider how lucky I am often enough, can't let that shit get to my head.
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