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in_sherman
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Worrying about cheating.
#7507088 - 10/10/07 09:04 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm not really sure where to post this.
I'm dating this girl. We've known each other for a couple of years, been very good friends for almost a year now, and began dating a few weeks ago. I am just incredibly paranoid that she'll get bored of me and go for some other guys, because she did this to the last two out of her five previous boyfriends (once in high school, once earlier this year, first year of college). She told me all of this before we were dating, and I brought it up with her when we started. She said she had learned from her mistakes and now knows that it isn't right (would you ever think it was right?). It's bizarre, because she is one of the most honest and open people I know, and it's a great quality she has, and it seems to be against her personality to be an unfaithful person. But it has happened in the past, and I know it could happen again. Does anyone have experience from people learning from their mistakes in this area? Or do they generally continue on this path?
Should I even be this worried about her cheating on me? I know it's hard to determine what will happen if you don't know the people involved personally... Usually I don't worry about things that I know I can't change, but for some reason I'm constantly thinking about this. Help...please?
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: in_sherman]
#7507300 - 10/10/07 10:00 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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If she cheats on you in the future you will be sad in the future. If you worry about her cheating on you now, you will be (are) sad now. Don't worry about it. Focus on making every moment with her memorable. This will both give you some wonderful things to look back on, and give her some good reasons not to cheat on you. It's better to have fun now, than worry about the past or the future.
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: BrandNoob]
#7507321 - 10/10/07 10:08 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: MushroomTrip]
#7507744 - 10/11/07 01:54 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: ohmatic]
#7507924 - 10/11/07 06:46 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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cheat on her first, that way you always got the one-up [/sarcasm]
nah but seriously - dont worry about it. give her reasons not to become bored with you.
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: in_sherman]
#7507975 - 10/11/07 07:36 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yup, don't give her a reason to be bored and don't worry about it.
If she does end up cheating, then you've lost nothing but selfish bitch.
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in_sherman
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#7509777 - 10/11/07 05:23 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Thanks guys.
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: in_sherman]
#7527153 - 10/17/07 10:31 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
in_sherman said: Thanks guys.
And don't talk about "the relationship" or the Way you feel about her and the relationship, this will make things get old quickly.
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: in_sherman]
#7527220 - 10/17/07 10:53 AM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree with what everyone said, basically not to worry, but it sounds like your concern is founded upon stuff you know about her. In my experience with relationships, that sort of thing doesn't just go away by itself. If you try and ignore it it will stick around more. My advice is to try and counter your concern with positive thoughts. The fact that she is with you and tells you that you can trust her are very good signs. Enjoy that and enjoy her in your life, and the worry will go away with time.
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Re: Worrying about cheating. [Re: gluke bastid]
#7529340 - 10/17/07 09:26 PM (16 years, 3 months ago) |
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Leopards never change their spots.
Maybe I've just had back luck - but every time I've had a feeling I'd get cheated on it has happened, even though it seemed far out of character for the person I was with. Don't be surprised when.
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